I see people making an idol of their future spouse and being completely consumed with getting married it literally just irks me.

Why waste all my time daydreaming and setting my heart on tomorrow, when God’s desire for me is to simply be faithful and obedient to where He has me and what He’s calling me to today?

Yes, I want to get married someday; that would be beautiful and such a gift. But if God is more glorified in my singleness, then yay! I’m all for it. For real. 

I don’t want to be distracted; I want to be devoted. I feel like sometimes we sing, “Bind my wandering heart to Thee” but when we wander, it’s like… well, I thought they were amazing but it turns out You are more so and now I realize it. Sorry. But to bind our hearts to His means it’s joined, fused, interlocked. One and the same, together. Think of what would happen if God’s desires to became one with ours. How often do our desires conflict with His? Isn’t this our struggle often times?

This is not a choice you make: “I’m going to be content in being single!” Haha. Yeah, you go ahead and try that and see how that works out. No, this only happens by God working in you. It’s when you surrender your heart to God and spend your time searching out His. It’s when He takes your heart and engages it, exchanges it with His heart.

And then you will be so full of joy and peace you won’t know what to do with yourself!! Instead of investing all your time thinking about one day loving one special person, think of all the people God already has placed around you that you can love and love the heck out of them. Let His love overflow out of you. Be filled up daily by simply fixing your eyes on Jesus and abiding in His love.

What about preparing for getting married? What about praying for my future spouse? What about… Stop. No matter how prepared you try to be, you always are going to need to depend on God in your relationships. It’s not going to be perfect. You should pray for them, but also trust God is taking care of them. He is able. And the best preparation happens by letting God do it. He knows how to ready a bride.

Everyone wants to hear about how God has someone special for them and to wait for that day and spend this time preparing for your future spouse. I want to encourage you to pour out your whole life to Christ right now and just watch what He makes of it.