truth.
i deleted facebook and instagram after this straw broke the camel’s back. (it was pretty broken before though. lots of straws)
doing so required a little consideration and only a week’s planning and a few hours of effort.
1. warn the friends who still use facebook regularly that you will do so. give them alternative ways to contact you. look through your friend list and message the ones you want to keep your phone number to text.
2. download your decade’s worth of photos. you can do so in one batch. you have to request it, and give facebook and instagram a few days to get it together.
3.choose a day to pull the plug and stick to it.
basically, the clever thing facebook does is use your family and friends (and conveniently interacting with them) against you, betting that you’ll literally endure any poor behaviour on their part rather than pull yourself away from your fam/friends.
and they’re right that it is hard.
but your phone address book works just as well as facebook messenger at sending notes. and there are other ways to do the type of interaction that facebook used to do well.
are you using to to organize a nonprofit or volunteering with your friends? start a discord together.
sharing photos with your pals? there’s this new thing called “pixelfed” which works like instagram but is open source and decentralized.
life updates from pals? move to bluesky (or even better: mastodon) together. you can make a list of JUST YOUR REAL LIFE FRIENDS and read about each others foibles.
will you lose out on local restaurants posting special events? and free local classifieds?
cuz listen. facebook is a bad actor. it’s really bad.
their main function is tricking businesses to advertise with them over buying newspaper ads. and they do it through a combination of keeping you and your boomer parents captured, and lying to businesses about how many people are engaging with these ads.
note that their main function isn’t “a good user experience.” if they did, they wouldn’t have censored all canadian journalism stories from their website. they just want you to be on their site, and they don’t care how. they show you inflammatory political opinions by people you’ll agree with (boomer memes, yo). they show you those algorithm powered viral videos of people doing woodworking scraped off of tiktok. they show you infuriating political posts by fascist groups to troll you. SOON THEY WILL SHOW YOU AI GENERATED CONTENT PRETENDING TO BE FROM PEOPLE TO FLATTER OR ENRAGE YOU.
but good news. your boomer parents are only on there because you are. and young people never really bought in. if enough of us leave (and i don’t mean ghost. most of us HAVE ghosted. i mean delete your account and tell everyone). the boomers will leave, and then? maybe local restaurants will put their advertising money back into newspapers. maybe people will start using other local classifieds. maybe nature will heal.
the idea of facebook as a public square is great, but it’s more like a pitcher plant than it is a public square. and the company is batshit evil.
facebook sucks. but like twitter, and myspace, and friendster, and orkut, and msn, and icq… if enough people leave, EVERYONE WILL LEAVE.