I just used a rehdyrating face mask before my therapy session today, to convince my therapist that i'm taking care of myself and not in fact, depressed. Is that the equivalent of brushing your teeth before a dentist appointment?
selfcare is touching your own boobs
when i was a teenager it felt very revolutionary to be cruel to myself. like some kind of slow passive protest against how much everything hurt. i starved myself of sleep and food and tenderness because it felt right. it felt sharp and angry and radical and i wanted to be those things. adulthood is the realisation that the world is already working to cut into you well before you learn how to do it yourself. caring for yourself and others is the real protest
Michelle K, I Know I Deserve More
Self care: dancing in your underwear in your room to your favorite music.
I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
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Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
- -Draw something
- -This website translates the time into colours.
- -Create your own galaxy.
- -Play flowing.
- -Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
- -Listen to music.
- -Calm.
- -Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- - 8 hour sleep music.
- -Rainy mood.
- -Meditation.
- -Coping with nightmares.
- -How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
- -Calm
- -Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
- -Rainy mood.
- -10 hours of rain and thunder.
- -3 hours of rain and thunder.
- -Human heartbeat.
- -Rainforest.
- -Sound of rain on a tin roof.
- -Autumn wind.
- -Rain on a tent
- -Traffic in the rain.
- -Soft traffic.
- -Fan.
- -Train.
- -Simply noise.
- -My noise.
- -Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
- -How to stop worrying.
- -Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
- -The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
- -Self-help strategies for anxiety.
- -Helping a friend with anxiety.
- -All about worrying.
- -8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
- -“I’m always sad”
- -Feeling sad.
- -Going through trauma.
- -“I’m always angry”.
- -Anger management.
- -All about anger.
- -National helplines and websites.
- -Self-help strategies for depression.
- -Dealing with depression at work.
- -Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
- -Pets and mental health.
- -All about loneliness.
- -“I feel so alone”
- -10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
- -How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
- -Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
- -146 things to do besides self-harm.
- -More alternatives to self-harm.
- -Self-harm alternatives.
- -How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
- -Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
- -How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
- -What is addiction?
- -All about alcohol and addiction.
- -The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
- -Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
- -Eating disorder treatments.
- -Support services for eating disorders.
- -Self-help tips with eating disorders.
- -Eating disorder recovery.
- -Recovering from an eating disorder.
- -100+ reasons to recover.
- -Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
- -3 ways to ease self-loathing.
- -How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
- -Self-hatred resources.
- -10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
- -International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
- -Preventing suicide.
- -Reasons to stay alive.
- -Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
- -Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
- -All about schizophrenia.
- -Helping a person with schizophrenia.
- -Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
- -Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
- -Managing your OCD at home.
- -Overcoming OCD.
- -How to cope with OCD.
- -Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
Abuse;
- -Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
- -Emotional abuse
- -Overcoming sexual abuse.
- -Hotlines services.
- -5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
- -Domestic violence support.
- -Signs of an abusive relationship.
- -What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
- -Surviving abuse.
- -What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
- -Sexual assault support.
- -What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
- -How to stand up against bullying.
- -How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
- -How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
- -How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
- -Grieving for a stranger.
- -Common reactions to death.
- -Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
Getting help;
- -Seeking help early.
- -All about psychological treatments.
- -Types of help.
- -All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
- -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
- -You are not alone.
- -You are enough.
- -You are important.
- -You are worth it.
- -You are strong.
- -You are not a failure,
- -Good people exist.
- -Reaching out shows strength.
- -Breathe.
- -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
- -Give yourself credit.
- -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
- -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
- -Focus on the things you can change.
- -Let go of toxic people.
- -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
- -Try not to beat yourself up.
- -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
- -You are not a bother.
- -Your existence is more than your appearance.
- -You are smart.
- -You are loved.
- -You are wanted.
- -You are needed.
- -Better days are coming.
- -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
- -You have more potential than you think.
- - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
thanks bud
You all need this
Reblogging this again coz why not
I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
————————————————————————————-
Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
- -Draw something
- -This website translates the time into colours.
- -Create your own galaxy.
- -Play flowing.
- -Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
- -Listen to music.
- -Calm.
- -Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- - 8 hour sleep music.
- -Rainy mood.
- -Meditation.
- -Coping with nightmares.
- -How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
- -Calm
- -Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
- -Rainy mood.
- -10 hours of rain and thunder.
- -3 hours of rain and thunder.
- -Human heartbeat.
- -Rainforest.
- -Sound of rain on a tin roof.
- -Autumn wind.
- -Rain on a tent
- -Traffic in the rain.
- -Soft traffic.
- -Fan.
- -Train.
- -Simply noise.
- -My noise.
- -Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
- -How to stop worrying.
- -Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
- -The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
- -Self-help strategies for anxiety.
- -Helping a friend with anxiety.
- -All about worrying.
- -8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
- -“I’m always sad”
- -Feeling sad.
- -Going through trauma.
- -“I’m always angry”.
- -Anger management.
- -All about anger.
- -National helplines and websites.
- -Self-help strategies for depression.
- -Dealing with depression at work.
- -Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
- -Pets and mental health.
- -All about loneliness.
- -“I feel so alone”
- -10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
- -How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
- -Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
- -146 things to do besides self-harm.
- -More alternatives to self-harm.
- -Self-harm alternatives.
- -How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
- -Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
- -How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
- -What is addiction?
- -All about alcohol and addiction.
- -The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
- -Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
- -Eating disorder treatments.
- -Support services for eating disorders.
- -Self-help tips with eating disorders.
- -Eating disorder recovery.
- -Recovering from an eating disorder.
- -100+ reasons to recover.
- -Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
- -3 ways to ease self-loathing.
- -How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
- -Self-hatred resources.
- -10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
- -International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
- -Preventing suicide.
- -Reasons to stay alive.
- -Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
- -Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
- -All about schizophrenia.
- -Helping a person with schizophrenia.
- -Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
- -Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
- -Managing your OCD at home.
- -Overcoming OCD.
- -How to cope with OCD.
- -Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
Abuse;
- -Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
- -Emotional abuse
- -Overcoming sexual abuse.
- -Hotlines services.
- -5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
- -Domestic violence support.
- -Signs of an abusive relationship.
- -What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
- -Surviving abuse.
- -What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
- -Sexual assault support.
- -What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
- -How to stand up against bullying.
- -How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
- -How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
- -How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
- -Grieving for a stranger.
- -Common reactions to death.
- -Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
Getting help;
- -Seeking help early.
- -All about psychological treatments.
- -Types of help.
- -All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- - Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
- -Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- - This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
- -You are not alone.
- -You are enough.
- -You are important.
- -You are worth it.
- -You are strong.
- -You are not a failure,
- -Good people exist.
- -Reaching out shows strength.
- -Breathe.
- -Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
- -Give yourself credit.
- -Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
- -Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
- -Focus on the things you can change.
- -Let go of toxic people.
- -You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
- -Try not to beat yourself up.
- -Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
- -You are not a bother.
- -Your existence is more than your appearance.
- -You are smart.
- -You are loved.
- -You are wanted.
- -You are needed.
- -Better days are coming.
- -Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
- -You have more potential than you think.
- - Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
I have thick thighs and they're kinda darker than my normal skin shade. I also have cellulite on my hips and thighs. I'm scared to get intimate with guys cuz they may see this and not like it. What dk I do?
Oh wow. Didn't expect an ask tbh😅 But I'll try my best to answer (🤞)
Ok so to let you on a lil secret, so do I. I have cellulite, darkened skin, acne, and whatnot. It's okay, it's natural. Media has always dictated what people should look like, but I'll say what my mom always says to me: "They have thousands of people to help them look like that. If they don't, they won't earn." Sad as it is, it's true.
As for the boys part, the right man, simply will not care. I've been with both kinds: the one who will be visibly uncomfortable and not wish to indulge with you later on, and the one who will touch you, caress you, be intimate with you, without any care for any physical features. And you know what, the moment I saw dude #1's facial features change, I asked them to leave.
Because your body is your body. No one gets to dictate how you look.
Also, you'll only be able to work on your body and yourself the moment you start loving yourself, warts and all. So I guess what I wished to say in my convoluted way is that love yourself the way you are. If anyone objects to that, fuck them.
Much love.