Sex positivity means many things, but it does not mean that all sex is positive or enjoyable.
To go with yesterday’s post about condom storage. Another handy graphic about correct condom usage.
Anyone know why silicone lube is x’d out??
I’m guessing it was a mistake; silicone lube and regular latex condoms are perfectly compatible iirc, but silicone lube WILL degrade silicone toys.
In this series of pieces I hope to develop a new grammar to talk about asexuality outside of the ways in which it has been co-opted by neoliberal identity politics. I am interested in reclaiming and developing an analysis of (a)sexuality in our collective efforts toward racial...
She is literally singing about riding dick. Not just any dick, but the dick that is standing right next to her. He’s not in the audience or backstage and she’s not being coy under the male gaze. She is singing about having sexual agency as a woman in an assertive fashion. Then at the end, she puts her hands on his hips and stands in a version of the wonder woman pose. If you don’t think Beyonce is the baddest womanist icon at the moment, then I’m going to ask you to reevaluate your life and get the fuck out of mine.
Poem 8: BDSM [from Judges 16:4] -- "Delilah said, "I can overpower, tie up, and subdue you. Delilah said to Samson, "Tell me how you can be tied up and subdued."
Samson answered her, 'Yes, I'll become weak...' She tied him-- Samson aflame. Then Delilah said to Samson, 'Come now, tell me how you want it.' She snapped rope braids on his ass. Delilah took his head in hand and pulled up.
He said, 'I love when you do that.'
She ordered him , 'Come on yourself!' The braids stung him. Then she seized him and took him, grinding on his D.
When he came, she praised him."
I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.
Disability and Sex General Links
- Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex
- How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re Disabled
- Sexual Pleasure & the Disabled Adult
- Disability and Body Image
- Sex and Disability
- Good Sex Positions for Disabled Sex
- Let’s Get Physical
- Disability and Orgasm: Your Orgasmic Potential
- Practical Sex Tips for Disabled People
- No Big Deal: Sex & Disability
- Self-Advocates Speak Up About Sex
- Sexuality and Disability Myths and Facts
- Disabled and No Sexual Pleasure
- Sex, Disability and the DSP: Ethically Supporting Sexual Choices
- Sex and Disability: Impacts of Disability on Sex
- Sexual Expression for Adults with Disabilities: The Role of Guardianship
- Disability and Sexual Activity: The Mechanics of it All
- Contraception for People with Disabilities
- Disabled? Discovering Your Sexual Self
- Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual
- Talking About Sensitive Topics
- Personal Relationships and People with Physical Disabilities
- Physical Problems and Female Sexual Dysfunction
- Talking about Disability on a Date
- Lovers with Disabilities Become Liberated with Tantric Sex
- My Partner is Scared to Try
- Getting Assistance: Having Sex and Using Your Sex Toy
- Physical Disability and Sexual Intercourse
- A Sexuality Policy That Truly Supports People with Disabilities
- Two Lovers With Disabilities Need Help
- How to Meet, Date and “Do It” When You’re Disabled
- Sex and Disability Webliography
- Eli Clare - Challenging Our Differences Sex, Disability and Young People
- Sex Education for Physically Disabled Teenagers
- Growing Up: A teachers’s guide to Sex and Relationships Education for Young People with Physical Disabilities
- Sex and Your Child with a Disability
- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sexuality Education for Children and Adolescents with Developmental Disabilities
- Sexuality and Persons with Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents Medications and Sex
- Sexual Side Effects of Medications: How prescription and OTC medications can have sexual side effects Effects of Medications on Female Sexual Response
- Researching Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- How To Manage Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Physical Sexual Side Effects of Medications Disability and Sex Toys
- Top 10 Ideas on Adapting Sex Toys
- Making Sex Toys Accessible
- Sex Toys and Disability
- Disability and Sex Toys
- Research Before Adapting Sex Toys
- Accessible Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Decreased Sensation
- Adapting Toys for Increased Sensation
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Mobility and Motor Control
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Adapting Sex Toys for Privacy
- Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
- Sex Toys and Allergies Fatigue and Sex
- Sex and Fatigue: How Do You Stay Sexual When You Have No Energy for Sex?
- Sex and Fatigue
- Your Sex Drive With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Sex, Fatigue and Depression
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue Multiple Sclerosis and Sex
- Multiple Sclerosis & Sex
- My husband has MS and doesn’t like sex anymore. Why?
- My wife has MS and doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Why not and what can I do?
- Multiple Sclerosis and Sexual Problems
- Top 10 Sex Tips for Men with Multiple Sclerosis
- Sex and Multiple Sclerosis Arthritis and Sex
- Love, Sex and Arthritis
- Sex and Arthritis Spinal Cord Injury and Sex
- The ABCs of Sex After Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Orgasm
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Fertility, Childbirth and Contraception
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Sexual Behaviour and Activity
- Best Sex Positions for Spinal Cord Injured Women
- User’s Guide to the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after Spinal Cord Injury
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Erections
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Ejaculation, Orgasm and Coitus
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Sexual Drive and Activity
- Intercourse & Pleasure With a Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Men with SCI
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Women with SCI Cancer and Sex
- Cancer and Sex: How Cancer Affects Your Sex Life
- Intimacy and Sexuality for cancer patients and their partners Diabetes and Sex
- Sex and Diabetes
- Diabetes and Sex: Does It Have to Doom Your Sex Life?
- Sexuality and Diabetes
- Erectile Dysfunction Treatments for Patients with Diabetes Fibromyalgia and Sex
- Fibromyalgia and Your Sex Life Parkinson’s Disease and Sex
- Parkinson’s Disease and Your Sex Drive
- Parkinson’s Disease and Sex ALS / Lou Gehrig’s Disease and Sex
- ALS & Your Sex Life Learning Disabilities and Sex
- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sex and Learning Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know Ostomy and Sex
- Sex and the Person with an Ostomy Continence and Sex
- Continence and Sex Cystic Fibrosis and Sex
- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
- Sexuality, Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adults Back Pain and Sex
- Sex Tips for Back Pain Sufferers
- Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back Augmentative and Alternative Communication and Sex
- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who Use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health Education for AAC Users - Speak Up Findings
- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health: Knowledge and Skills for People who Use AAC
- Sexual Health Issues for People who Use AAC
Super great list!
TOO AMAZING FOR WORDS
Huge amazing list of links! Have not read all of them so don’t know if there might be some stuff that’s not so good in there, but reblogging because lots are likely to be useful for people who follow.
This is a truly amazing resource. Please share it!
I made another one. Original post here.
Poem 7: Cumming and Coming Out (from Judges 6:20) -- "The angel said to him, 'Take me.' And Gideon did so. He touched the tip of the staff in his hand. Fire consumed the angel. He exclaimed, 'Love, do not stop! Take me!' He sat down slow on top of his wood pole. Gideon took his time.
In the morning, they asked each other, 'What are you going to say to him?' Gideon broke down.
That day, to his father, Gideon said, 'Do not be angry with me. Let me love who I will.' "
Switch.
AIDS is not over.. Neither are we - ACT the fuck UP!
Non-romantic sexual partnerships that are portrayed as healthy, meaningful and committed.
Romantic non-sexual partnerships in which the lack of sex isn’t a cause of angst or tension.
Platonic, non-sexual partnerships that are put on the same level as committed romantic...
petition to get rid of the term ‘virgin’ and from now on refer to all individuals just starting to engage in sexual activities as ‘newcomers’
I have been doing some research on sex and disability, and thought I would share some of the links I have found. This will be useful for me in the future as a resource, and hopefully to others too.
Disability and Sex General Links
- Disability Dharma: What Including & Learning From Disability Can Teach (Everyone) About Sex
- How to Meet, Date and Have Sex When You’re Disabled
- Sexual Pleasure & the Disabled Adult
- Disability and Body Image
- Sex and Disability
- Good Sex Positions for Disabled Sex
- Let’s Get Physical
- Disability and Orgasm: Your Orgasmic Potential
- Practical Sex Tips for Disabled People
- No Big Deal: Sex & Disability
- Self-Advocates Speak Up About Sex
- Sexuality and Disability Myths and Facts
- Disabled and No Sexual Pleasure
- Sex, Disability and the DSP: Ethically Supporting Sexual Choices
- Sex and Disability: Impacts of Disability on Sex
- Sexual Expression for Adults with Disabilities: The Role of Guardianship
- Disability and Sexual Activity: The Mechanics of it All
- Contraception for People with Disabilities
- Disabled? Discovering Your Sexual Self
- Lesbian, Gay and Bisexual
- Talking About Sensitive Topics
- Personal Relationships and People with Physical Disabilities
- Physical Problems and Female Sexual Dysfunction
- Talking about Disability on a Date
- Lovers with Disabilities Become Liberated with Tantric Sex
- My Partner is Scared to Try
- Getting Assistance: Having Sex and Using Your Sex Toy
- Physical Disability and Sexual Intercourse
- A Sexuality Policy That Truly Supports People with Disabilities
- Two Lovers With Disabilities Need Help
- How to Meet, Date and “Do It” When You’re Disabled
- Sex and Disability Webliography
- Eli Clare - Challenging Our Differences Sex, Disability and Young People
- Sex Education for Physically Disabled Teenagers
- Growing Up: A teachers’s guide to Sex and Relationships Education for Young People with Physical Disabilities
- Sex and Your Child with a Disability
- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sexuality Education for Children and Adolescents with Developmental Disabilities
- Sexuality and Persons with Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know
- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents Medications and Sex
- Sexual Side Effects of Medications: How prescription and OTC medications can have sexual side effects Effects of Medications on Female Sexual Response
- Researching Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- How To Manage Sexual Side Effects of Prescription Medications
- Physical Sexual Side Effects of Medications Disability and Sex Toys
- Top 10 Ideas on Adapting Sex Toys
- Making Sex Toys Accessible
- Sex Toys and Disability
- Disability and Sex Toys
- Research Before Adapting Sex Toys
- Accessible Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Decreased Sensation
- Adapting Toys for Increased Sensation
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Adapting Toys for Mobility and Motor Control
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Adapting Sex Toys for Privacy
- Sex Toy Accessibility Checklist
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue
- Sex Toys and Allergies Fatigue and Sex
- Sex and Fatigue: How Do You Stay Sexual When You Have No Energy for Sex?
- Sex and Fatigue
- Your Sex Drive With Fibromyalgia & Chronic Fatigue Syndrome
- Fatigue and Sex Toys
- Sex, Fatigue and Depression
- Adapting Sex Toys for Fatigue Multiple Sclerosis and Sex
- Multiple Sclerosis & Sex
- My husband has MS and doesn’t like sex anymore. Why?
- My wife has MS and doesn’t want to have sex anymore. Why not and what can I do?
- Multiple Sclerosis and Sexual Problems
- Top 10 Sex Tips for Men with Multiple Sclerosis
- Sex and Multiple Sclerosis Arthritis and Sex
- Love, Sex and Arthritis
- Sex and Arthritis Spinal Cord Injury and Sex
- The ABCs of Sex After Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Orgasm
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Fertility, Childbirth and Contraception
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: The spinal cord injured female: Sexual Behaviour and Activity
- Best Sex Positions for Spinal Cord Injured Women
- User’s Guide to the Paralyzed Penis: Sex after Spinal Cord Injury
- Paraplegic Sex and Quadriplegic Sex: Good Vibrations
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Erections
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Ejaculation, Orgasm and Coitus
- Sexuality in Spinal Injury: the spinal cord injured male: Sexual Drive and Activity
- Intercourse & Pleasure With a Spinal Cord Injury
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Men with SCI
- Sexuality and Fertility - Impact on Women with SCI Cancer and Sex
- Cancer and Sex: How Cancer Affects Your Sex Life
- Intimacy and Sexuality for cancer patients and their partners Diabetes and Sex
- Sex and Diabetes
- Diabetes and Sex: Does It Have to Doom Your Sex Life?
- Sexuality and Diabetes
- Erectile Dysfunction Treatments for Patients with Diabetes Fibromyalgia and Sex
- Fibromyalgia and Your Sex Life Parkinson’s Disease and Sex
- Parkinson’s Disease and Your Sex Drive
- Parkinson’s Disease and Sex ALS / Lou Gehrig’s Disease and Sex
- ALS & Your Sex Life Learning Disabilities and Sex
- Talking about sex and relationships: the views of young people with learning disabilities
- Sex and Learning Disabilities
- Sexuality Meets Intellectual Disability: What Every Parent Should Know Ostomy and Sex
- Sex and the Person with an Ostomy Continence and Sex
- Continence and Sex Cystic Fibrosis and Sex
- Sexuality and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adolescents
- Sexuality, Fertility and Cystic Fibrosis: Information for Adults Back Pain and Sex
- Sex Tips for Back Pain Sufferers
- Ways to Enjoy Sex While Helping Your Back Augmentative and Alternative Communication and Sex
- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who Use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health Education for AAC Users - Speak Up Findings
- Promoting Healthy Sexuality and Safeguarding in Youth who use Augmentative and Alternative Communication (AAC)
- Sexual Health: Knowledge and Skills for People who Use AAC
- Sexual Health Issues for People who Use AAC