I couldn't have said it better myself.
As a 30 year old man who escaped the Alt-right pipeline, you're not going to be happy about the answer.
All I hear from leftists is how much they hate me for my immutable traits, how much they blame me for everything wrong with the world, how much they want me and everyone who looks like me dead.
Whereas Alt-right types would call me "brother" and welcome me into their ranks so long as I hated the right ways.
Do you understand the difference?
I'm an ally and support equality because I feel it's the morally correct choice to make, but holy fuck is it difficult to reconcile that with the fact that means fighting for a lot of people who see you as the scum of the earth.
Read this and then read it again and then read some fucking bell hooks because this is a legitimate problem on the left.
"To create loving men, we must love males. Loving maleness is different from praising and rewarding males for living up to sexist-defined notions of male identity. Caring about men because of what they do for us is not the same as loving males for simply being." - bell hooks, The Will to Change https://bellhooksbooks.com/product/the-will-to-change/
I think there are different things going on here. This is another example of making radicalization the product of niche subcultures on the left and that doesn't make sense. These white dudes can go to DSA meetings in their cities and be surrounded by leftist white dudes who will call you brother and commrade and teach you how to shoot guns. They can go to bars full of vaguely liberal people and find communities. Some black woman not wanting to hang out around white dudes is not causing these men to go right wing. What's causing them to go right wing is a desire to be right wing. To be presented with a version of the world that puts them on top. To make them superior. There's a difference between talking to your bother and slowly bringing him left vs saying that every space you create for yourself has to be an exit ramp for wannabe fascists. It's okay to cut those people out of your life too. If you find out someone you know is really into right wing shit you can cut them off. It's not your responsibility to fix them. That'll get you killed. That OP is fucking stupid to me. All you hear is how much people hate you for being a white man? Get off it. The overwhelming majority of leftists in the US are white men. All over europe it's white men. Bell hooks isn't talking about turning baby fascists into radical leftists. She's talking about within the community. And it's also a call to men to treat men better. Not to make women bend over even further backwards and break themselves for the sake of not scaring men away. I fully reject this. Blaming twitter people for being mean to white men is the most disingenuous shit ever. That's someone who wants to be a victim. Hoteps call me brother. They want me to join in with them. I don't. Know why? Cause they're awful humans. The black israelites would love to have me. But I don't join up because their ideology is hateful. And someone saying that the number 1 killer of black women is black men is not enough to make me go running back to the hoteps. A black woman not wanting me to be in her space isn't going to make me run back. Guess what. I can find loving spaces, and spaces that even include these women. It's not hard. It really isn't. You just have to want to. Sometimes these dudes just want to be white supremacists. And maybe it isn't the fault of a tumblr poster with 30 followers.