Hello! I was going through your explanation tag which I found super helpful for a lot of things!!

I really don't want to seem mean so I didn't know who to ask but you seem super nice, so I was curious, if you feel okay with answering: how does being trans fit into being gay/lesbian relationship?

Like, if a person is sexually attracted to someone of their own sex, how can they have a trans partner?

I hope this ask sounds respectful and doesn't come off as anti-trans!! I really want to understand this more :)

do you mean like, a lesbian dating a trans woman/gay man dating a trans man? gay/lesbian are about attraction to someone of a particular gender, not attraction based on what theyre assigned at birth. attraction based on sex, rather than gender, is usually the definition used by transphobes who dont see trans people as the gender they are and misgender them. its possible to be repulsed/disinterested to certain genitalia if youre pursuing sexual relations, but that wouldnt rule out all trans people of the gender you like since they can have whatever kind of genitalia due to surgery, maybe being intersex, or the like.

however, if you mean a lesbian dating a trans man/a gay man dating a trans woman, then its coming more down into more complex gender/sexuality stuff. theres some people who have the occasional exception to their sexuality, or are fluid/flexible, and just use a term that describes what most of their sexuality is, for whatever reasons they may have to do so (for comfort, specifics, ease, etc).

theres also sometimes where someone is dating a partner who self discovers more in that time, and comes out as trans to them. they still love their partner despite them now being a gender theyre usually not into, likely bc the attraction they feel now isnt really related to their gender anymore, so their partner is now a unique exception to their sexuality! there could be more ways this sort of relationship could happen, these are just the main ones i know!

im glad to hear youre wanting to learn and understand more, it can be kinda hard to do so sometimes since its a touchy subject and a lot of people arent trying to genuinely learn, so i hope this helps!

#bi lesbiask #trans #lesbian #gay

bi-lesbian

i hope all nonbinary people aligned with their agab in any way know theyre wonderful and loved 💛🤍💜🖤

fine with or use pronouns typically associated with your agab? doesnt make you any less nonbinary! youre excellent and can use whatever pronouns feels best! 💛

either cant, dont want to, dont feel like it, or have yet to have any sort of medical transition/binding/etc, and perhaps even like your body the way it is? doesnt make you any less nonbinary! theres no requirement to being nb, just do whatevers in your best interest! 🤍

like to present in a way typically associated with your agab? doesnt make you any less nonbinary! clothing, hairstyle, and otherwise doesnt equal gender, keep doing you! 💜

actually do partially or sometimes identify with your agab? doesnt make you any less nonbinary! gender is a complex experience, being bigender, genderfluid, genderflux, demigender, or anything else is totally valid, no matter what genders are a part of it! 🖤

aligning with your agab in any way doesnt make you fake, or ""just [x] but wanting to feel special."" dont listen to gross queerphobes saying shit like that! nonbinary includes a vast amount of genders and experiences, theres no rules to it, it simply just means not falling exclusively in the binary! youre amazing the way you are, and i hope you have a terrific day!! 💛🤍💜🖤

#nonbinary #trans #nb #enby #bigender #genderfluid #genderflux #demigender #demigirl #demiboy #boyflux #girlflux #feminenby #masculenby #and other genders !#positivity

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You know what. Neopronouns are cool and sexy. When people realised that the language that best described them didn't exist, they made their OWN WORDS. THAT'S PUNK AS FUCK. Also honorable mention to trans people who named themselves stuff like cactus or star or eldritch horror. I love you. You have my entire heart. People who reclaimed their dehumanisation and turned it into something that would make them happy and piss off bigots? Radiant. People who use microlabels and xenogenders? Gorgeous. Every unconventional trans person on the planet? Amazing. Never let anyone tell you you're "making the community look bad", cause you make this community whole.

#hell yeah ♡#neopronouns #trans #xenogenders #microlables #positivity

bi-lesbian

trans mspec lesbians? nonbinary mspec lesbians? more beautiful than the stars in the sky 💖🌟🌙🌙🌸

#trans day of visibility #trans #nonbinary #nb #enby #mspec lesbian #bi lesbian #pan lesbian #ply lesbian #omni lesbian #positivity

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Happy pride month!

[ID: a series of pride banners with abstract backgrounds that resemble the different flag colours that say: "lesbian and proud, gay and proud, bisexual and proud, trans and proud, pansexual and proud, asexual and proud, aromantic and proud, aroace and proud, questioning and proud, intersex and proud." End ID]

Feel free to use with credit and to request more! (I'll add some other banners in a reblog since I can't add more than 10 images to the post)

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[ID: some more banners that say: nonbinary and proud, agender and proud, demisexual and proud, polyamorous and proud, genderfluid and proud, genderqueer and proud. End ID]

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[ID: a fresh batch of banners that read: "polysexual and proud, omnisexual and proud, demiromantic and proud, queer and proud, closeted but proud, bigender and proud, pangender and proud, genderflux and proud, demigirl and proud, demiboy and proud. End ID]

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[ID: two more banners that say "graysexual and proud, grayromantic and proud". End ID]

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[ID: two banners that read "androgyne and proud, maverique and proud". End ID]

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[ID: banners that read: "bi lesbian and proud, trans lesbian and proud, nonbinary lesbian and proud, omni lesbian and proud, ace lesbian and proud, pan lesbian and proud, ply lesbian and proud. End ID]

bi-lesbian

Anonymous asked:

idk abt binary male lesbians but i was a bigender man and gqfemale and identified as a lesbian (i now solely id as gqfem for the meantime tho) i feel like as long as you, your future and or current partners are ok with it and youre able to consicely clear up misunderstandings theres no reason not to id as that

yeah !! thats how i feel too!! having nonbinary/bigender/fluid experiences are vast and different for everyone, and theres like not really many orientations (or well known ones) for Specifically Genderqueer experiences, so people just use whatever feels best to describe themselves with.

and i feel like people often show support for genderqueer people, but when they start getting into their orientations, others start getting kinda weird with it... its kinda why when i hear things that sound unusual about identity stuff i dont get, i think "huh i wonder what reasons that person has for doing that," bc its very often related to genderqueer experiences it seems :Oo and im always really interested to hear about peoples experiences!

#bi lesbiask #genderqueer #bigender #nonbinary #genderfluid #trans

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rouge-the-bat

to help a friend (and others!) find some actively inclusive blogs, if youre a lesbian blog (specifically that, or mostly so) and support these, please reblog!

butch/femme being for everyone in the queer community
mspec lesbians in all their uses of the term
general full inclusivity, so no aspec/trans/nb exclusion or anything

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bi-lesbian

someones own experiences can not be invalidating to your own. if you feel invalidated by how someone else identitifes, thats solely an issue you need to work through on your own. putting it onto the stranger saying its their fault is extremely rude and not how this works. identities are personal to every individual, just because someone doesnt match your experiences says nothing about their validity or yours.

luesmainblog

if i may add: feeling invalidated by someone else’s experience is often because you’re focused on how other people view you. i.e. “if they see you acting like that, they’ll think we’re ALL like that!!” and i understand that feeling. i do. especially when it pertains to stuff you can’t control like sexuality. but being so worried about what others think of you that you bully people within your own group for ‘not doing it right’ is some middleschool bullshit that you should be over by now. all it does is make you even more hyperaware of your own presentation and make the people who interact with you feel like shit. (not to mention, when you start hating on others for that kind of thing, you start to stifle your own honest expression. because if there’s a part of you that acts like they do? you’ll stomp it down in a panic. and that’s not healthy!!) so before you start going off about how x identity tries to invalidate yours or makes things somehow more dangerous for y identity just by existing, maybe breathe and ask yourself why you’re more willing to attack a fellow lgbt+ than get angry at the cishets who make you so hyperaware in the first place.

#THAANK YOU LUE #queer #lgbt+#bi lesbian #pan lesbian #poly lesbian #ply lesbian #omni lesbian #mspec lesbian #nonbinary #trans #tucute #etc

bi-lesbian

someones own experiences can not be invalidating to your own. if you feel invalidated by how someone else identitifes, thats solely an issue you need to work through on your own. putting it onto the stranger saying its their fault is extremely rude and not how this works. identities are personal to every individual, just because someone doesnt match your experiences says nothing about their validity or yours.

#queer #lgbt+#bi lesbian #pan lesbian #poly lesbian #ply lesbian #omni lesbian #mspec lesbian #nonbinary #trans #tucute #etc etc. applies for everything #this needs to be said because im tired of people thinking its okay this is other peoples problems?#its way too normalized and its fucked up

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Bi Transbian Pride Flag

I combined the @bi-lesbian flag with a trans woman/transfeminine flag. This time for trans bi lesbians/trans lesbis ❤︎

- AP

#ooo pretty!!#bi lesbian #trans #bi transbian #flags #my flags #..partially

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seraphic-sapphic-safehaven

Sending all of my love and support to all the lovely lesbians out there! Shout out to…

He/him lesbians, they/them lesbians, and lesbians who use neopronouns!

Ace lesbians, aro lesbians, and all other aspec lesbians!

Butch and femme lesbians!

Intersex lesbians!

Bi lesbians, pan lesbians, ply lesbians, and omni lesbians!

Trans lesbians!

Nonbinary and genderqueer lesbians!

Genderfluid and genderflux lesbians!

Agender, bigender, trigender, polygender, and pangender lesbians!

And all other lesbians!!! Your existence in this world is like a bright, warm light in the middle of darkness. You radiate sunshine and love, and you deserve all the good things in life! I hope you all have a day as beautiful and as wonderful as you!! 💜💗💛💚

seraphic-sapphic-safehaven

If you’re curious as to which flags were used in this post, I’m gonna list them for y’all line by line, and I’ll link them. So #1 will be the “Sending all my…” line, #2 will be the “He/him…” line, and so on:

1) Sappho lesbian flag by @kispesan & slightly altered by @mayakern (1)

2) He/him lesbian flag by @disasterbisexual (2a), they/them lesbian flag by @flower-lesbienne (2b), and lesbian flag by @apersnicketylemon (2c)

3) Ace lesbian flag by @r00 (3a), aro lesbian flag by lesbi-catra & altered by @disasterbisexual (3b), aspec flag by @the-moon-is-aroace (3c), and violet lesbian flag by @disasterbisexual (3d)

4) LGBTQ+ community butch and femme flags by @disasterbisexual (4a) and horizon lesbian flag by @plantbutch (4b)

5) Intersex flag and monument lesbian flag by @seer-of-lxght (5)

6) Bi, pan, ply, and omni lesbian flags by @bi-lesbian (6)

7) Trans lesbian flag by @thepokedexisgay (7)

8) Nonbinary and genderqueer lesbian flag by @genderqueerpositivity (8)

9) Genderfluid & genderflux flags and lesbian flag by @vampiresarequeerculture (9)

10) Agender, bigender, trigender, polygender, & pangender flags and inclusive lesbian flag by @bi-lesbian (10)

11) Sappho lesbian flag again

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whimsy-flags

Some Easter Egg Pattern Flags!

Genderfluid | Nb | Trans

Free to use with credit!

#these r so cute omg..#genderfluid #nb #enby #nonbinary #trans #flags

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osmoticeel

just making sure y'all know that I'm radically queer and inclusive. some things this includes:

trans women are regular women & should be an integral part of every women's community.
gender dysphoria is a varying and deeply personal experience (I say as a cis woman with butch dysphoria) and can exist independently of medical transition.
nonbinary people don't have to be "man/woman-aligned" (though many are). they're not binary, it says so right there.
define your gender or sexuality however makes you comfortable. all labels were made up by somebody. you have the right to have yours respected.
queer is a useful label & important to a lot of people.
aromantic & asexual people's sexuality is normal and they belong in lgbtq+ spaces.
bi/pan/m-spec women belong in wlw spaces.
whoever else it's popular to invalidate and hate these days in the name of community purism? they're my friends now. hurt them and you fight me.

guess who just followed me? I want to make sure they know they're not welcome. it's 2020, intolerance isn't cool anymore.

#THANK YOU !!!!!!!!!!!!#positivity #bi lesbian #trans #trans women #nonbinary #nb #enby #queer #aro #ace #bi #pan #mspec

bi-lesbian

More heart emojis!

Gay ♡ Trans ♡ Nonbinary ♡ Agender

#gay #trans #nonbinary #nb #enby #agender #flags #emojis #heart emoji

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Polyam flags in the colors of other flags using the design by @whimsy-flags

#pretty !!!#polyam #gay #lesbian #bi #nonbinary #trans #aro #pan #ace #flags

bi-lesbian

gatekeeping and invalidating doesnt make the lgbt+ community any safer, it just makes it more toxic! its never okay to police other peoples identities bc no one is the lgbt boss, so dont act like you are! just be resepctful and nice to each other everyone, spread more positivity than negativity !

#really for anything in the community #mogai #neopronouns #femme/butch #ace #aro #bi lesbian #pan lesbian #poly lesbian #ply lesbian #omni lesbian #mspec lesbian #positivity #nonbinary #nb #enby #tucute #trans

bi-lesbian

pride peridot! first set with the ol LGBT acronym lads, featuring uh, a lot of lesbian versions bc idk what one were going for these days bfkdhfkz ~~and i made an orange/red version bc i really wanted to complete the trio of color combos for the current colors used-~~

pls see the notes for my reblogs with more flags! theyre mostly identities i fall under but feel free to ask for any ones i havent done!

+ bonus template :3

#peridot #steven universe #lgbt #lesbian #gay #bi #trans #flags #character pride