just overheard my wife spelling something on the phone and i shit you not saying the words “E as in Eeyore” i am on my hands and knees wailing screaming crying pleading and begging people to learn the NATO phonetic alphabet

How does superglue REFUSE to come out of the tube when you're actively trying to get some out, but as soon as you give up and put it down, the damn thing decides it's time to do world's best pineapple-with-a-werewolf-boyfriend -impression?

This website makes it impossible to communicate with normal people.

An issue with a lot of whump and injury writing guides is that they also tend to assume that the characters are always able-bodied but like.

It's been proven over and over again that people with chronic pain have higher tolerances for everyday pain, including things that would leave other people crying or screaming. When you experience dizziness, body aches, chills, etc as just your baseline, those things aren't a good indicator that you're injured or bleeding. Even mild concussions are very hard to notice when you have chronic headaches/migraines (speaking from experience).

And those are just the experiences of general chronic pain, not even more severe and debilitating conditions that can completely warp someone's relationship to their body and their brain's way of processing pain.

When you experience moderate or severe chronic pain and illness, it gets VERY difficult to recognize the difference between your baseline and something being weird. I know that for me personally, trying to identify when I'm sick or injured in a non-obvious way is hard because I already experience so many symptoms as part of my daily life.

If your character experiences chronic pain, they are going to struggle to recognize and respond appropriately to injuries, especially things that aren't very visual and obvious to other people (like concussions, bone fractures, internal bleeding, etc). They'll also likely conceal or underplay a lot of injuries because their sense of what makes something a big deal is completely warped by living a life in constant pain.

Seconding everything above. Earlier this month I had a cerebral angiogram(pro tip, don't look this up if you're squeamish) and after it my arm hurt pretty badly, but recovery was supposed to be painless aside from some minor soreness, so I assumed it was just my fibromyalgia acting up and tried to rest and give it time. However, the next day the pain was still horrible and so I gave up and went to the ER, where I was quickly informed I actually had a blood clot in my wrist artery, which is typically excruciatingly painful and, had it been worse, could have required another surgery or even potentially resulted in me losing my hand.

People with chronic pain/illness are tanks, we can put up with stuff like you wouldn't fucking believe. We're so used to being in pain/feeling like shit in general that telling the difference between our average symptoms and symptoms that mean something is actually wrong is a skill we'll spend our whole lives trying to learn, and on top of that we are unfortunately used to having our pain and other symptoms downplayed by everyone, so we will absolutely just sit on actual life threatening medical issues far longer than an abled person will—or even can.

If you want to write us accurately, or just add to your whump fuel(I understand, I love whump, there should be more whump that focuses accurately on disability and chronic illness) it's worth it to keep that in mind!

Women are getting rid of their Trump supporting partners while they still legally can since they clearly don't give a shit about them or any other woman.

If you're thinking about getting a divorce, you should do it while you still can.

I still genuinely believe one of the funniest lines in cinematic history is the scene from high school musical where sharpay yells "EVAPORATE, TALL PERSON" at zeke when he tries to flirt with her. but that one wasn't latched onto by the masses and memed like every thing else in those movies so no one ever gets the reference 😭

Please note. The orange one is not included because A. He isn’t a billionaire. And B. Calling him obnoxious is too kind for him.

i love being transfem i love how anytime i mention something i want to do for my transition it's "umm but have you really thought about that enough? :/ there are Consequences and Concerns" oh but they're definitely supportive #ally

oh, and the classic "oh no, you know that's irreversible, right?"

I mean, its not like there aren't side effects to seriously consider when making an informed choice about a gender affirming medical procedure, but just the fact that people can't fathom that people might think they're worth it gets incredibly tiring really quickly

i fucking HOPE it's irreversible imagine if you had to cut your willy off every month like it's your period

I just love "you don't have to change anything about your body just to fit society's expectations, you know that right?"

I know you think this is supportive, but 1) I want these things for me, not because of anyone else; and 2) actually yes I do need to change some things to be treated as the person I am thank you

The only thing you're accomplishing with this shit is making me not want to share any other details of my transition with you.

my parents do this it's so infuriating;-;

Fucking

THIS

Portraying transgender medical care as more dangerous than it actually is, is a weapon of transphobia. Queer people are not immune to this.

Wow. The patience, kindness and calm communication skills. Outstanding.

From raindovemodel

This made me cry. I wish all situations could be handled as perfectly as this

I just want to point out the core of what the diffuser did in this conversation

They recognized that the mother was also expressing a vulnerable truth about herself - that she felt like a bad mother because her child was expressing gender feelings she wasn’t equipped to help with - and met her where she was, a concerned parent with limited information - to point her where she should be heading, research and resources.

Im going to make more of an effort to stop reflexively pushing people away when they express biases and make more of an effort to hear the underlying fears when i can

“it’s easier to love ourselves when we feel loved as ourselves”

damn that is so  powerful though

“it’s easier to

love ourselves when we feel

loved as ourselves”

Beep boop! I look for accidental haiku posts. Sometimes I mess up.

@radley-writes

Peer review

I passed peer review! Thank you. I think these are important skills for everyone to learn. x

"why we build the wall" from hadestown is really gonna trip up future media analysis students. they'll be like "ah a piece of media from the 2010s referencing building a wall to keep out the poor, clearly this is a reference to the president of the united states from 2016-2020", and then their professor will have to be like "actually the concept album for this musical came out in 2010"

how i hope this conversation goes from there is like:

"actually the concept album for this musical came out in 2010 and the original song was written in 2006"

"so she knew about the wall 10 years before Trump proposed it be built?"

"well, let's talk about that...

...but that wasn't when the wall was first built...

...this shift in the '90s marked the start of an enforcement philosophy called Prevention Through Deterrence, which basically says that if crossing is made more deadly, fewer people will cross (fact check: it just means that more people die on the journey). From the start, the purpose of the wall was not to physically to stop people from crossing -- it was to make it more deadly to do so.

...and we can also look at the song metaphorically and expansively, as a reference to the policing of migration, to company towns, to gated communities, and the physical and metaphorical walls that throughout history have kept people in and out and defined who does and don't belong.

Sources: 1 & 2 / 3 / 4"

"...how did you just say a hyperlink?"

"why worry about that when you can use this show as an entry-point into a deeper understanding of capitalism's investment in coercive control over human migration, and its long history in the United States?"

"so the song only seems prophetic because the long history of policing and militarizing the border has been ignored, and treated as an outsider position by Trump rather than the continuation of bi-partisan policy dating back decades? and it can be seen to reflect larger patterns of capital controlling people's movement in order to extract land, labor, wealth, and ultimately life from them?"

"and the song slaps"

"....and the song slaps"

thank you so much for this well-researched response tho because, as a texan, the very concept that trump invented the idea of the border wall made me kinda. reboot. not mad at op! just surprised at the difference in our life experiences

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We used paper cutouts glued to toothpicks and stabbed into erasers, but I like this idea better.

For a college game, I used an entire box of candy canes as a size colossal monstrous zombie grasshopper, and then when it died I ripped the box open and used the candy canes as size large monstrous parasitic horsehair worms erupting from its corpse. Nobody actually wanted to eat them after that so I took them home and ground them into a powder with a pestle, intending to add it to my hot cocoas. But I didn’t wash the pestle very well last time after using it to crush garlic and chilis, so I accidentally made chili-garlic-mint powder and then I tried serving that cocoa at a later D&D sesh, and we were all baffled at why it tasted so horrible until I was like oh my god it’s the ground up zombie ass worms. I contaminated them with garlic and chilis. And the group was like YOU GROUND UP THE ZOMBIE ASS WORMS AND FED THEM TO US which seemed like a lot of fuss over what would have otherwise been free and delicious cocoa. Then after that before taking any snacks they’d ask did you perchance put any zombie ass chili-garlic worm powder in this?, and then refuse to eat until I said None.

Which they thought was very funny, even if I was slightly less amused, but I bided my time until they got tired of the joke and stopped specifically asking. Then I poured all the remaining zombie ass chili-garlic worm powder into a bag of party mix. The first guy to take a bite spluttered, and I laughed, and everyone said WHAT DID BABS DO, and I said THE WOOOORMS… YOU FORGOT TO ASK… OHMYGOD… and then I laughed so hard I actually cried. Derailed the start time almost an hour.

Oh that was a wonderful day.

A good, a neutral, and an evil DM. In this order.

yes or "remind me later" NO LET ME SAY NO I WANT TO SAY NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

every week i get that shitty "Let's finish setting up your computer!" thing when i turn it on and it's SO fucking aggravating because i've been using this thing for years now and i don't need nor WANT to fucking "set it up" (read: use microsoft edge, buy windows office, whatever the fuck else they try to sell me) like i'm very obviously perfectly fine. and i can't just say No because No is a very privileged limited time answer we had in the tech future so now it's always "remind me later" no motherfucker i am adamant in my need to tell you NO. i fucking hate the removal of no from our options and vocabulary. i am expressing a boundary i need you to fucking know i am saying NO

Hit the Windows + I keys together. Go into SYSTEM then  NOTIFICATIONS AND ACTIONS and uncheck  "suggest ways I can finish setting up my device to get the most out of Windows"

Then go kick the shit out of Satya Nadella 

They should have a version of Duolingo where you can learn a language in the dialect of that language’s country bumpkins. I sound like a hick speaking English so why should I sound like an overly formal city slicker speaking Mandarin?

This is actually a deeper problem as pointed out in the replies. Most language learning software teaches one dialect as the “proper” version of the language and it doesn’t reflect the vocabulary and speaking style of most native speakers. Why the fuck would an American want to learn Castilian Spanish, a central Iberian dialect, when most Spanish speakers they will meet in daily life will be from Mexico and the American Southwest and have a totally different cultural context, use different word choices and pronunciation?