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Dressing up can lead to new discoveries. For many, it’s a way to find our inner female gender and appreciate it. For others, it can also be a way to connect with their true gender identity. Although crossdressers aren’t necessarily transgender, some of them get euphoric seeing themselves as a girl and may end up finding out they are trans themselves in the long run. As long as you’re not affecting others, especially yourself, it’s all about connecting with your feminine side.
Hearing the positive and affirming remarks on how you look all dressed up make you feel so flustered. Your black dress, hosiery, and heels look, match, and fit so well with your body, hair, and skin tone. You’re many things: cute, sexy, hot, attractive, pretty, feminine... that last word made you feel things, but it’s true. You didn’t just change your body, moves, appearance, and your dress choice. Your feelings have changed into that of a girl as well. Maybe this is what feminization is really like. The gender euphoria is real.
It was supposed to be a simple photoshoot of you in your new outfit. However, you have been catching some unfamiliar feelings lately when you see a good looking guy. You weren’t sure why it was happening, but when the good looking photographer started complimenting you, you started to feel butterflies and changed your mood around him. You haven’t been validated so well in a while. Maybe it’s worth a shot asking him out to see if he’s free tonight.
Transitioning didn’t just feminize your body into a soft girl. Your wardrobe is full of leggings and cute tops while your mind now craves the attention of being noticed. Loving these changes affirm your identity as a trans girl. It’s a sign of you growing into your true self.
You look back at your old pics and discard the ones you don’t need anymore. Suddenly, you noticed this pic of a hot girl in leggings. Of course she’s hot, this was you a few months after SRS! How could you forget, this was the night you made out and slept for the first time with your now long-term boyfriend. You can’t believe time has passed so fast since then. But just as you receive an invite from a friend who is hosting an impromptu Girl’s Night event, you send this pic to your partner and save it on your favorites. If you can go back to the past, you will definitely recreate that night. Hopefully he’ll get the memo 😉
You didn’t think hormones would expand your back. But once your old jeans fitted too tight around the hip area, you had switch to something more fitting. Fortunately, women’s jeans aren’t too different from male jeans on the bare eye while fitting enough for your transition. Not only do women’s jeans add appeal, but they feel so affirming. And when you unconsciously refer to them as your jeans, it means you adapted to your transforming identity. It’s all part of transitioning into a girl.
Your whole appearance and personality has been getting more and more feminized by each passing day. While HRT has played an effect, it’s more like you’re finally letting your true self out. You can’t help, but look euphoric that you’re your dream gym bunny now. And what better way to show your happiness than uploading on your MTF timeline for the guys to see? You love the attention you get from them.
Boymoding doesn’t work anymore. Your appearance is too feminized from the HRT to hide your transition. Your attitude and movements have also changed. You make up the excuse of wearing leggings as a fashion statement. But you’re unaware that everyone sees you as a trans girl now. Let your old ways go and come out as a new person to start the new year fresh. You always loved winters anyway.
Now that the holidays are nearing close, it’s the perfect time to show off your fall-themed clothing. Sure, your favorite outfit may look similar to many girls wearing the same clothing, from the skirt to the bodysuit and its colors. But instead of getting jealous, you feel more validated for being just like them in appearance. Your personality is what makes you stand out, though.
You know what’s next, girl. Start seeking therapists. Join a trans-friendly group. Feminize your appearance. Take hormones if you need them. Most importantly, come out as trans when you’re ready. You’re the one in control of your life.
It’s a girl’s dream come true when her crush asks her out. You can’t wait to tell your girl friends about your new boyfriend. Like a schoolgirl, you still feel butterflies and euphoria thinking about it. It’s part of becoming a woman.
If we had more positive encouragement like this, expressing your feminine side would be seen in a more positive light for AMAB/AFAB people, femboys, transgirls, non-binary, and people outside of the cisgender norms. Befriend supporting ciswomen and allies who will care about you.
Transitioning is easier said than done for those who fear to lose their families, friends, careers, and partners. But hiding yourself for too long will cause you fall apart. Whether you’re 30, 40 or past 50 years old, it is never too late to come out as trans. Your transition to happiness will come sooner than later.
The fear of going out as a girl will disappear when you let yourself out. And when your manners, words, movements, behaviors, and interests slowly change from your past self, you will realize that she is your true self. Especially when your girl friends point out the increased attention from guys and girls alike.
Being feminine is more than an identity. Whether you’re cis, trans, non-binary, etc., it’s also a form of connection and expression of your female side. Eliminate the toxic ones out of your life and gain new peers who support this side of you. Please be safe out there.
Compliments from random women feel so supportive, like a sisterly bond hard to break. But a distracted look from a good-looking guy gives you butterflies, a feeling so wrong, yet so right. Both affirmations make you feel valid as a female. Soon enough, it all becomes natural.
