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To answer the question, and to summarize it as pg as possible, not half as bad as I’ve seen it written out to be. They would communicate. They would check in. They’d make sure the other isn’t in pain, or out of their depth, or freaking out. These things are important, and they’d know that. Personally, I’ve got a bit of a bone to pick, because I know fiction is fiction, and fantasy is fantasy, but oh wow, I’ve seen a lot of bad anatomy in porn. Specifically what’s to be expected of a first time, because sex for the first time does not have to be half as bloody or agonizing as you’ve heard it to be. If you prepare and communicate, it will be okay. Also, like… don’t have sex with someone you think isn’t going to listen to you if you say ‘that hurts’ and just keep going. Don’t do that to yourself, and don’t do that to anyone else. 

Here though, I’m going to be talking about vaginas and hymen. That seems to be the area of most confusion. 

First: A hymen is a membrane that surrounds and somewhat covers the entrance to a vagina. It’s not a solid membrane. There’s plenty of different types of hymen, but they all have a hole, or holes. Like, consider- if a person is going to be having their period, how the hell would that happen if there’s no place for the blood and tissue to come out? IF a hymen does completely cover the vaginal opening, it’s called an imperforate hymen, and it’s a congenital anomaly. Translate: A problem that is usually resolved by surgery. It should not completely cover the vagina. (If I thought I could get away with it I’d add a diagram but I really want this post to stay up.) Second: A hymen opens up over time. Sports, insertive masturbation, general activity- these all stretch the hymen naturally (horseback riding in particular, apparently, is really good for this, though I couldn’t fathom why.) Also, remember how I said insertive masturbation (fingers/dildos/et all?), same concept applies to period products: if a person uses a tampon, they are helping to stretch their hymen. Third: Assuming that a person does not have any physical anomalies AND their hymen has stretched naturally over time, a person should not gush blood the first time they have insertive masturbation or sex. There may be some spotting, but it should be manageable. If there is excruciating pain- and I mean excruciating pain- stop. Give it a break. Try again later. If pain persists, talk to a doctor. There may be something going on- and it might not even be with the hymen. Maybe it’s a low-hanging cervix. Maybe it’s vaginismus. Maybe it’s something else. Whatever the case, talk to a doctor. 

Fourth: Jesus fucking christ don’t ram shit into a vagina. Take time. Dick, dildo, fingers, tampon- whatever, you need to take time. Listen to the body. If there is pain on the receiving end, or resistance on the giving end, check in. Go slow. And if it doesn’t happen that day, then it doesn’t happen that day. Use a pad. Use a vibrator. Mutually eat eachother out or whatever- it doesn’t matter- but like, don’t ram shit in there. That’s how people get hurt.

People with vagina’s have already been conditioned to assume that sex is just going to be painful, that it won’t be fun, that at bare minimum the first times are terrible and that’s just what to expect, and that’s a fucking shame, because it doesn’t have to be that way.  Bonus: There’s a plethora of different types of birth control beyond just condoms. There’s the pill, there’s Plan B, there’s spermicide, there’s diaphragms, there’s IUDs- the world is your oyster. Pick whatever works best for you and go from there. 

So yeah, anyway, this has been Hymens 101. Bodies are weird. Go have fun.

I should also like to add that Shadow probably has more stamina than Amy, so most likely, she'd climax before he did, unless maybe he had so much pent-up sexual energy that he desperately needed a release.