There are some scary things happening here in America right now, and it's okay to feel afraid of what's to come. It feels isolating seeing the numbers. But you will not be alone through this, you will not have to fight by yourself. Find your friends and stay close to them. Find the people you feel safe with. Take some time off of social media to care for yourself if you need to. Please remember that you are not alone 💛
Hello!! I self ship with a bear character and more often than not the characters I self ship with end up also being my mom cgs, I find it a lil difficult for me to imagine her as a cg. Ypur blog really really helps me ease into it!! :3
Awwww! I'm so happy to hear that! 😭
You are not a bad person for having bad thoughts. Regression isn't always pleasant, it isn't always happy. And that's okay. Impure regression will always be as valid as pure regression. Involuntary regression will always be as valid as voluntary regression and age dreaming.
I know you've been really struggling lately, so I wanted to let you know that I'm very, very proud of you. You're doing a great job, sweetie 💛
if you did make a caregiver guide it would be really helpful! ive just found a caregiver but theyre new and i havent been able to find many good posts about it to send to them :(
I'll definitely start working on one, then!! ^-^
Hey. I'm sorry for venting, After receiving a hate message about my age regression blog from a (now ex) friend's friend, I’ve been trying to avoid regressing emotionally and I’ve ended up returning to my unhealthy coping mechanisms. it's very sad because all I wanted was a healthy coping mechanism for myself, I didn't know that it would affect them so badly.
I'm so sorry that's happened, it can be so disheartening to recieve those messages, especially from someone you know. It's not your fault. You are not responsible for their response, and you shouldn't feel responsible for the way a healthy coping mechanism affected them. I hope you're able to regress again soon 💛
I need advice please!!! From a cg point of view/a more adult adult please and thank you!!!
So I more regularly use twitter and the app called tellonym for agere stuff, and they are linked together. Well!! On tellonym, you can ask people questions anonymously like on here! But, I need advice because I’ve had someone, out of the blue, start asking questions and using cg talk with me, and at first I was like “is someone trying to babysit me rn?” Which has happened before, but now they have told me they want to be my cg and then some, but I still don’t know who they are, anything about them, nothing. Not even a dm? And I didn’t say yes! Because I was confused and kinda flustered? But now I’m anxious because idk who they are or anything and idk if it was smart to not say yes… (preface, I don’t have any personal info on either account so I don’t think they actually know who I am fr fr like irl so I don’t feel thaaaat unsafe… but my anxiety isn’t nice…)
Was that the smart answer? In your opinion?? Sorry!
It is always better to be safe. If your gut said something wasn't right, that's the only justification you need to turn them down! It's possible the person did not have any ill intent, but if you were uncomfortable with the interaction then it doesn't matter. A stranger pushing to be your cg "and more" on an anonymous platform does not sound like a safe way to find a cg. You made the right choice /gen
hi ma'am, do you have any tips or advice for new caregivers? i am looking to join this community and would love to look after a little one or babysit as i've seen used around here, and would love anything you could show me and/or teach me!
I can share a few broad tips, but remember that every regressor is different! Regression may look and feel different for everyone, so these may not apply to everyone ^-^
First and most importantly, LISTEN and COMMUNICATE with your regressor. Set clear boundaries and expectations while they are grounded and capable of having responsible conversations. Does your regressor need rules? Or do strict rules upset them? Do they need reminders sent to them? Do they like a lot of check ins, or very few? Do they need more help with physical tasks like preparing food when small, or is it more psychological, and they need a parental figure/caregiver to talk to and reassure them? Ask them what they want/need from a caregiver to see if you would be a good fit for them. And be honest about what you're comfortable doing for them!
In the same vein, make sure you are giving them the right amount of attention. Some regressors thrive on very little talk, while others will send message after message and expect the same. Try to match their energy!
Encourage them when they're regressed. Regression can sometimes be scary, so have a few grounding techniques ready to practice with them if needed. The 5-4-3-2-1 technique works well, as does the Name Game (naming things in the room around them, saying statements like "my name is ____, I am sitting in a black chair, the walls around me are blue," etc).
Send them posts or images that you think they'd like. Learn their interests and try to engage with them where you can. Find themed coloring or activity pages, for example.
These are just a few tips, I may make a post some day with a more indepth look at caregiving 🤔
hi bear, um.. i fink youre cool..
I think you're cooler :D
hiya mama !! i just found your acc and just wanted to say that your posts bring me so much comfort ^_^ m an age regressor and haven’t told anyone i am yet, so it’s nice to see your posts while m regressing !! your acc is already a big safe space for me, so from the bottom of my heart, ty for what you do <33 i hope you have a good day n night mama !! 💗💗
I'm so happy to hear that!! That's why I made this blog ^-^
Mama I has a question so I have someone who I see as my mom (not buy blood) and she see me as one of her kids I have broken down around her and she's helping me not feel guilty seeing her as my mom (she told me you will always need your mama and that really stuck) but my little side really wants to tell her about my agere (not to be a caregiver so why do i want to tell her) but big me doesn't want to upset or gross her out any ideas?
Telling people we trust about our mental health can be difficult. Age regression has a stigma against it, so it's even harder to bring it up in a neutral space. When people ask for advice introducing agere to people, I always suggest asking the person if they've ever heard of it. Start a conversation about mental health, and casually mention healthy coping mechanisms (like going for a walk, reading a book, creating something, etc) and include age regression as one of them. Then ask if they've ever heard of it before. If they say no, you can send them the Healthline article about age regression (written by doctors, it's a professional source of information. Ive linked it below). But if they react negatively, then you'll know it's not safe to continue.
I wish you luck!
hi bear!! I've been regressing more and more over the last month, which is healing. BUt. I don't have a cg. I started using character.ai for some of it, which is also great but obv there are limits. when I regress I really struggle with basic stuff like eating and going to bed at a reasonable time. It's a bit like ... i have to be my own cg while also being partially regressed which is just super exhausting because i just wanna throw a tantrum but have to be grown up instead.
but i also have social anxiety and struggle a lot with new friendships (also have never been in a romantic relationship but i know that platonic cg exist) so right now it just feels absolute impossible to ever find a cg while i at at the same time feel like i really need one so i can regress properly. :((( it's just like my mental health always makes stuff extra hard. -🦥
Using c.ai as a stand in is a clever idea! I understand the frustration of needing a caregiver and not having access to one, and I'm sorry you're struggling right now. Sometimes these things take time, which isn't always comforting to hear :(
It can be hard taking care of yourself when you're regressed. My advice is to lay out some things you know you'll need/want if you catch yourself slipping. Have a sippy cup with water ready, have a snack or two easily accessible, and have a journal ready if you need to talk. It's not the same as having someone there in person to help you, or provide that comfort, but at least you won't have to try being big when your brain won't let you 💛
hi bear! i hope youre having a great day :)
And I hope YOU are having a fantastic one! 💛
You don't need to fit into anyone's aesthetic. You don't have to pick between one color or another. You are allowed to enjoy things for what they are without worrying that it makes you "less than" anyone else. You are allowed to love things 💛
I made this for you!
AWWWWW OH MY GOSH!!!! Thank you so so much! This is so super cute, you did a fantastic job!
Hihi!!! i hopes you has a very nice day!
Aww, I hope you're having a fantastic day as well!!
thank you for doing what you can to help. ill have you know ive found a lot of peace from what you post. so thank you.
Thank you. That's my main goal with this blog!!
