i think the best thing about gen z is their dedication to self care and by this i mean when john mulaney performed at a college and he took a sip of water the crowd would start applauding and someone yelled at him “hydrate before you die-drate” therefor confusing an already confused man even more

I went to a Hozier concert where he sent his manager out afterward to apologize to fans waiting to meet him. She was like “he’s not feeling great and he’s got a migraine and he’s really sorry” and everyone was like TELL HIM TO GET SOME SLEEP and like, sent her back inside with three dozen Zennial/Gen Z lesbians (okay and a couple of Millennials, I wasn’t the only one) giving her migraine tips to pass on.

The kids are getting back to the idea that we’re a community and should take care of each other, and I really love that.

wow i didn’t even realize this. like just last night, bernie sanders was holding a rally and sounded tired and a little hoarse. almost every comment was a variation of “donate so bernie can take a nap and have some water.”

i love that we’ve started romanticizing taking care of ourselves instead of hurting ourselves.

Millennials: the estranged disaster aunts and uncles with disaster experience and conspiracy theories

Gen Z/ Zennials: The sweet old grandparents bringing you your favourite stuffed animal and food in a snowstorm

Activision Blizzard just fired 800 Employees even though they had another record breaking year

I’m all for unions.

One thing people aren’t getting though that is really bothering me is that unless you have union built by the people, who will fight for the people, who have actually good intentions what you’re going to end up with is unions being bought by the billionaires that fight more for the company than the employee. From there it’s permanent battle of finding co-workers you implicitly trust and detailed documentation on your part.

An example is the linens company that 3 generations of men in my family have worked in. They screwed my dad out of his retirement pay -he’d been there for over 30 years(he retired at 64, by law that’s when you retire where I live) and you want to know what his severance was? $6000. That’s fucked up because at the place I worked at that myself and some shippers were let go from you wanna know what one shipper got for severance from working there for 10 years? $25000.

At my dads place of work some time in the 80s they had a fellow who was a driver with accounting training with a very sick son, they pulled out all the stops for him. In return though they sought his advice in rewriting the employee benefits. It used to be that everyone got the same, but it was changed that only the drivers got the better end of the deal.

The union was involved in the rewrite.

If you wanted to fight it and get in contact with the people who won their case you couldn’t, their info is completely confidential, even though you’re told to contact them.

One of my brothers works there and he was being hounded for “not maintaining his work area”. This went on for weeks, his job was threatened, but if he hadn’t been taking pictures of his completed work and had a good friend of my dad with him it wouldn’t have worked out. The guy who raised the initial issue was the shopstuard, was dating the boss, had a friend who was in the union who he got to help with filing a complaint against my brother, and is actually the warehouse bully.

My brother is a good worker, he took his job so seriously from the moment he walked in that door with my dad when he came home to sleep he would sleep walk and sleep talk about what he was doing and he’d panic.

My brother had over 800 pictures, dates, times, thoroughly documentation, and asking over 15 people to be witness to his work and they almost didn’t back off of him until he threatened to take them to court for harassment.

Unions don’t just fix things because they’re suddenly there. They’re still privy to falling to favouritism, they get payed under the table by the employer to fight more for the employer, your shotstuard may not like any of you and is instead going to throw you all under the bus.

YOU GOING TO HAVE TO FIGHT STILL, THERE’S METHOD TO THE MADNESS.

Ask anyone else who’s parents had a union job, I’m going to bet that not all of them are sunshine and rainbows.

I get the feeling I'm gonna have to deal with people saying

"Oh, but you know there are bad and good unions; they're not all like that!"

The kicker here is-

THIS IS THE BEST UNION THAT DID THIS.

It's just not and that's by a long standing track record what is meant for the greater good of the little guy is always going to be a battle.

Do you want to fight for it though?

Things have grossly developed into the worst possible situations.

Organizations that ensure safe work environments are little better than insurance companies that fight for the employer now too.

In January I left my job (wasn't a union) at a little family run production warehouse because of poor safety standards and miss-handling of dangerous substances such as inert gasses (nitrogen, hydrogen, helium, co2) that caused a long standing gas leak. I thought it was flu season that got everyone sick.

I refused unsafe work, I discussed my concerns with my employer, I provided all the necessary paper work on what they were to do in this situation as well what I was able to do. I'm a trained level 1 OFA (first aid attendant) and was denied talking to anyone I feel had suffered health impairment when I was within my right. My employer said he'd be in communication with worksafe.

He never contacted them and is suspected by my discrimination case worker the employer was trying to drag out time to just fire me for failure to report/go to work.

What proceeded this was a long drawn out investigation, interviews with the employees who ultimately lied about the work conditions due to having their jobs threatened (the investigators are aware of this tactic and it is a lie because I have texts from co-workers saying it's pretty plain to see their health is failing due to the environment), me being unjustly fired because the employer thought he could cut his losses by firing me during my probationary period although during an open investigation that is clear cut retaliation, I was supposed to have been told it was safe for me to go back to work but neither the investigator or the employer told me that even though they are required to, the investigator saying they never tested the air quality because they didn't see a gas leak, the investigator admitting they gave the employer the benefit of the doubt, the employer not complying with worksafe, and now I've opened a discrimination claim for retaliation against me for reporting the company.

I'm fighting.

And not just for me, but for the people who are still there and the guy who had the position before me who got a laser beam to the head.

And you know what?

It was all worth it because now

I did that. I made a change.

You have to have courage, you have to have make sacrifices sometimes, and you gotta believe in yourself.

Because union or not you gotta fight for what's right for the benefit and safety of everyone if you want things to get better.

Pro Tip: Instead of having feelings, try being dead inside. Everything is still horrible but you will not care at all.

Pro Tip: If at any point and time you resort to this method seek help and talk to someone about how you're feeling. You could send yourself into a depressive episode that is honestly a very difficult tail spin to come out of.

This could very well not be the case for a lot of you, but I know that when I adopted that mentality everything got way worse.

I'm no professional psychiatrist or psychologist that much is apparent, but I've seen so many people who do this as well and their quality of life plummets and then they hit rock bottom. It is incredibly difficult to climb back up from so please, don't adopt apathy as a coping mechanism; it is poisonous and it leeches all positivity out of life.

hey if ur ever feelin shitty use this

Holy shit I’m trying not to cry.

i really needed this one tonight

omfg

Do it!!!

I need to cry

EVERYONE DO IT

I fully expected to be Rick rolled and I was instead very, very pleased

DO IT

Give it a shot

I’m actually tearing up a little, no lie

Guys, this is wonderful. To all those having a bad day, or just feeling a little low, heres something to make you smile.

This is beautiful, thank you

I was about to sleep but then decided to use this, and now I’m sure that I’ll wake up feeling happy and refreshed. I’m so glad this popped up on my dash.

What pleasantly sweet surprise♡

Oh shit. No. Shit. Thank you

Just gonna reblog this out of gratitude because I actually did forget…

Fffffffff let me get right on that. 

and then reblog for the next forgetful son of a bitch

I’m so great full for everyone that is reblogging this. I totally forgot to take mine

I think that there is some sort of unspoken fairy godparent thing where you see this, realize that you forgot your meds, and rebagel it because if you forgot someone else must have. And in our turn we all take care of each other, even if we don’t know it.

Don’t forget to take food with your meds if you’re supposed to ok?

I’m gonna reblog this twice a day for those who just happen to stumble across it and remember as well as for any of my mutuals who might need a helping hand remembering on their mentally over loaded bad days

Oh shit. No. Shit. Thank you

Just gonna reblog this out of gratitude because I actually did forget…

Fffffffff let me get right on that. 

and then reblog for the next forgetful son of a bitch

I’m so great full for everyone that is reblogging this. I totally forgot to take mine

I think that there is some sort of unspoken fairy godparent thing where you see this, realize that you forgot your meds, and rebagel it because if you forgot someone else must have. And in our turn we all take care of each other, even if we don’t know it.

Don't forget to take food with your meds if you're supposed to ok?

I'm gonna reblog this twice a day for those who just happen to stumble across it and remember as well as for any of my mutuals who might need a helping hand remembering on their mentally over loaded bad days

2017 mood

2018 mood

2019 mood

No

I’m not gonna let you all do 2019 (20biteen) dirty like this.

2019’s mood is we’re going to punch the sun

Especially with 2020 elections coming up for many impressionable voting age Americans tumblr as an influential collective of messed up and quirky self help tips that had given thousands the strength to be here in 2019 needs to take it’s antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds like a responsible and participating adult and take out the trash that has accumulated in our house.

Get mean.

Get mad.

Get pumped.

No more

I wanna see this

And we’ll get this when we do

AND YOU WANNA KNOW WHAT ELSE WE'LL GET WHEN WE CLEAN OUR HOUSE?

2017 mood

2018 mood

2019 mood

No

I'm not gonna let you all do 2019 (20biteen) dirty like this.

2019's mood is we're going to punch the sun

Especially with 2020 elections coming up for many impressionable voting age Americans tumblr as an influential collective of messed up and quirky self help tips that had given thousands the strength to be here in 2019 needs to take it's antidepressants and anti-anxiety meds like a responsible and participating adult and take out the trash that has accumulated in our house.

Get mean.

Get mad.

Get pumped.

No more

I wanna see this

And we'll get this when we do

2019 smells like money and healing. no more toxic bullshit. self love and prosperity only!

I can say something about this?

All y'all gotta reach for this when it's your time to do something and make change in your lives.

And by that I mean you can't keep going into every year after the next with only the mindset of "All these nice things that exists are going to be mine simply because I have had a rough life/handful of years/just because!" And then be so angrily devastated when you don't get the outcome you wanted without putting forward the sweat.

I say this a someone who has had a fruitless life until a few months ago, grown up in an abusive home, having gone through absolute hell for the passed 6 years, and wasn't planning on being around anymore come Christmas day.

To gain you have to give or give up something to move forward

Let 2019 be the year you start taking it all seriously.

If you want more money, start trying to plan a career path or shoot for the interview for that high paying job you were too shy to go for -find a career counselor or consult a career counseling website. When I was fired from my job and I couldn't get an interview no matter what I tried and was feeling like absolute garbage I went and got help when rock bottom was on a nuclear course with me, I signed up for training and counseling at an Employment assistance agency down the street from me. I have one of the best jobs I've ever had now, 6-2, $16+ an hour, Monday to Friday, and for a Christmas bonus instead of a gift card that goes back into the company's pocket I was given a Christmas card with over $200 to get groceries.

If you want healing and less toxic crap it's time to cut all the petty, toxic people out of your life. This could even mean saying goodbye to that toxic part of you and getting help for mental illness, join a help group. I grew up in a toxic house hold, very passive aggressive, mentally a physically abusive, I always do my absolute damnedest to be straight forward, I put my foot down to my evil mother on how she's been treating me after having her blocked on everything for 9 months -i don't get drunken angry calls anymore and I don't have to interact with 2 of my brothers who do nothing but shit on me ever again. I don't fixate on my physical appearance to the point of an anxiety attack anymore when I go to see my dad at their house.

The fact of the matter is all those good things are waiting for you to come get them. They don't have legs, they can't walk to you -you gotta make that journey

It'll hurt a little and it'll be stressful to climb that mountain, but when you turn around to see how far you've gone it'll be the best feeling in the world.

I want you all to get these good things in 2019 and I'm sending you all my good vibes to give you the power

TO GET WHAT IS YOURS ONCE AND FOR ALL

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ALWAYS REBLOG WHEN YOU SEE SOMETHING LIKE THIS PLEASE; ITS SO MUCH MORE THAN IMPORTANT TO PEOPLE. IT MEANS EVERYTHING TO SOMEBODY AND EVEN THOUGH YOU MIGHT NOT SEE THIS IN THE SAME LIGHT, SOMEONE MIGHT. INFACT YOU REBLOGGING THIS COULD STOP SOMEONE TAKING THEIR LIFE TONIGHT.

Seriously thank you.

Please reblog. I love every single one of you. You’re not alone.

Just a heads up to also put in tags such as "help" "helping" "help me" "self help" "depression" so that it can actually get to those that need it.

I went through an agonizing year (agonizing 2 and half years more like it) and wasn't planning on being around after Christmas if I couldn't fix my life and when I was having really dark days there were no posts like these in the really depressed parts of tumblr, no one was reaching out to anyone.

So, please- don't just half mindedly reblog this hoping someone will see it without having a target audience tagged.

It is normal for people to gain weight as they get older.

This is a normal part of the aging process and it serves a protective function.

Telling people that they should weight the same as they did when they were teenagers feeds an eating disordered culture

It’s ok to be fat

You develop more heavy tissue like muscle mass and bigger bones, and the bacteria to help you digest that lines your intestines weigh 4 pounds guys. I was a "late bloomer" primarily because my mother never properly fed me, I was so active yet never ate enough so my body cannibalized any muscle mass I grew and I didn't develop a chest until I moved out at 21 because she thought I was supposed to remain 115-125 with A32 chest, and a size 7 waist my whole life and gave me teeny tiny food portions. I'm genetically curvy if you look at the history of women in my family. I have a size 34C chest with chest&back muscles, a medium waist, 34-36 hips&ass with near Chun-Li level thighs&calves from working in a very physical warehouse environment. I'm 25 and weigh 160 at 5'3 and the only reason why she still insists I'm overweight is because I have a square jaw and a small chin so whenever I look down I have a double chin -I've had it aaaall my life and my brothers have it too, but I'm the only one she zones in on for having it. Whenever I see my family they always poke at my chin and refuse to look at the rest of me.

not to be nsfw but the thought of someone smiling against my lips as we kiss? really makes a bitch’s heart flutter

That's not nsfw, that's wholesome love my bitches.

Just imagine, having an infectious giggling fit with your s/o, they pull you toward them or you pull them toward you to kiss that damn adorable face, your noses bump and you're just smiling against each others lips, ending it with resting your forehead against the others while looking into their eyes with smiles so warm you don't have to say those three words because you can see it -feel it in their warmth, and it always feels like a soft autumn afternoon or early spring morning or summer sunset or clear starry full moon winters night full of magic.

If someone isn't available during your most crucial time, then their presence any other time is useless.

This isn’t realistic for adults. I’m sorry it’s just not.

Don’t fall into believing that, “if they’re a true friend they’ll drop everything and run to be by your side!” crap.

As a responsible adult there will be times that your friends are hurting and you won’t be able to go to them.

There are times that you will have to go to work, or take your sick kid to the doctor, or do many other things that will prevent you from being there for your friend.

When your friend calls you and they’re falling apart and it’s ten minutes until you have to leave for work, you’re not a bad friend for saying, “Look, I love you. I’m sorry this is happening, but I have to go. I’ll call you back tonight when the kids are asleep.” Or “I’m so sorry this is happening. I love you and I want to be here for you but I’ve got to get to work. I’ll call and check on you during my lunch.”

Adult life is hectic and busy with important things all the time and unfortunately it’s also full of shitty things happening to people we love.

Do your best to be there for the people you love and ask for support when you need it but be understanding when being a responsible adult comes before helping you.

The idea that people need to be there any time you need them is really damaging and unhealthy, too. You can’t place value on a person or a relationship based solely on whether or not they’re available, no questions asked, whenever you need them.

In addition to the above: sometimes, someone simply does not have the energy to help. Maybe they’re coming out of a rough patch themself, maybe they have been busy all day,maybe a chronic illness is flaring up. There are a myriad of reasons someone may not be able to be there.

Obviously, if someone is taking you for granted, and never seems to care how you’re doing, that’s an issue. But to write someone off because their life and your life didn’t line up quite right at a given point in time, or maybe even on more than one occasion, is not a healthy way to handle things.

In absolute unbridled and unbearable seriousness, though.

DON'T BE EVERYONE'S HERO. THIS WILL DESTROY YOU.

You can't be there for everyone for always -if you try to every time you're leaving yourself open for a gross perverted amount of manipulation by others. You're walking down a dark path of destructive people pleasing that'll lower people's respect of your saying "NO."

In turn, trying to be that person may then warp your expectations of others and holding it over their heads of "I WAS THE FOR YOU! WHY CAN'T YOU BE THERE FOR ME?!" Don't be that person and respect when others can't be there every bad moment you have.