Why are so many fans so mean to their idols? I don’t get this whole idea of wanting to possess your idol. Like… would I like to be Ok Taecyeon’s fiancee? Sure, that’s valid. Would I prioritize his safety, health and happiness, far above my ever even meeting him in person? Of course. This is somebody I care for. I don’t understand fans who can think any other way.
Sadly, a lot of fans don’t actually care for the well-being of idols they claim they love.
In essence, it’s an abusive relationship, and the message certain fans have for their idols is this:
“I love you more than anything in the world. I would die for you and will threaten to kill myself if you do something I don’t like, or speak out against me. I’ll shower you with gifts and spend all my money on you -- so if you don’t behave the way I want, I will have the right to treat you as terribly as I want. I’m giving you all my money, so you have no right to speak out against me: I made you. I’m devoting so much time and energy to you that not doing what I want is a slap in the face and you deserve whatever punishment I see fit to give you. I love you, but don’t cross me, or upset me in any way, otherwise, you’re worthless and don’t deserve a singe drop of happiness.”