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Friends with benefits but the benefits are cuddling and watching how to train your dragon
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Queerplatonic Polyamory is great 💗
Queerplatonic LDRs are great 💗
Queerplatonic Throuples are great 💗
Queerplatonic ships are great 💗
Queerplatonic relationships are great 💗
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For me being in a qpr lately is like. No we're not dating. Yes this is my boyfriend isn't he great and lovely and handsome aren't I lucky. No I don't want anyone to mistake us for romantic partners. Yes I want to marry him. No we're not "just friends". Yes I don't want people to think our friendship matters less than our love. No I don't care what people think. Yes I want you to know that we're each other's and each other's alone. No I've never had a crush on him. Yes, I love him with all my heart and soul.
You have perfectly described what this admin's QPR feels like. Same, friend, same.
HAPPY QPR DAY!!
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I haven't posted in a while, so let's make this a qpr positivity thread~💚
Everything is welcome!
if I may: lingering hugs and platonic forehead kisses
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Late night 4+ hour conversations
Cute nicknames for each other.
Hey, I’m sure you didnt mean it this way but a line in a recent response read as poly exclusionist. desiring to be with them in an exclusive relationship. I know its kinda subtle but I noticed and felt a little stung by it. Anyway, thanks for this blog, its nice reading about other people negotiating how to be ace and aro in this world.
My apologies! It was certainly not meant to be exclusionist. We support poly relationships. :) By “exclusive relationship,” we meant that it would be decided upon the members of the relationship to be together, and that can be more than 2 people for sure, whether it is romantic or queerplatonic, etc. I’m sorry again for misspeaking.
Hello! I am terribly sorry but I am a bit confused about the definition of queerplatonic. I have done a small amount of research into it, but I was hoping you could provide me a clear idea of what it essentially is? I am rely sorry if this sounds pushy, I just want to make sure I have the idea correct and not assume anything. Thank you!
Don’t be sorry! It’s what we’re here for! :)
Queerplatonic, usually used in the phrase queerplatonic relationship, involve deep platonic attraction for someone (I like to think of it as a feeling in between friendship & romantic partner). A QPR is a committed relationship like any romantic one, only it’s based off of platonic attraction, so they are more common with aromantic individuals, though you can non-aro and also any sexuality and be in one. I suggest reading our AVENwiki: http://wiki.asexuality.org/Queerplatonic
Anonymous asked:
Someone on twitter posted “The “Platonic” relationships that I’ve seen&experienced myself are always weird. Too touchy, too huggy, “I love you, no I love yOU!” etc. we’re in our twenties. That shits weird. Not into it. Next.” It made me uncomfortable because my QPP & I show PDA towards eachother. I doubt OP meant any harm but with ace/aro people... some of us show platonic affection like that. I wish I could be with my QP & queer relationships without worrying if somebody is “offended” by it.
I’m so sorry someone said that. That is not cool. :/ QPR’s are still a relatively “new” idea to some people, and it’s hard for them to understand that a QPR, that is purely platonic, can still be filled with expressions of love that some feel are only “romantic.” But it’s just not true! I say “I love you” to my QPP, too! And while ours is a long-distance relationship, I am sure that we would be very huggy as well. :) You’re not alone. I hope that it gets to the point where platonic relationships and partners in QPR’s are respected and not demeaned. I’m sorry again that happened.
Anonymous asked:
I've been having a rough time lately re my sexuality. I'm aroace but I want to be in a relationship so badly. I have a lot of really great friends but I'm someone who thrives off physical contact like cuddling and hand holding and I feel like I can only get the level of intimacy I need from a romantic relationship. I don't know if that's just what society has ingrained in me or what, but I hate the fact that I feel like I'll never have a relationship because I'll never have feelings for someone.
You absolutely can find someone! Just because you’re aroace doesn’t mean that you can’t be in a relationship or desire one that would involve cuddling and holding hands, etc. You can still have “feelings” for someone. They’re platonic, but they’re still feelings!
Have you heard of QPR’s? Queerplatonic relationships are based on deep platonic feelings for someone. Romantic attraction isn’t involved, nor is sexual attraction (although some may…everyone is different!). From a personal standpoint, I am also an aroace, and I am in a QPR. :) My partner is aro ace, too, and we started out as friends…but the friendship felt so much deeper and closer after a while. But again, not romantic in any way…but equally as strong as what some say a romantic relationship can be like. We decided that it seemed right to become QPP’s. It just FELT right. I’m sure you can find someone for you like that, if it’s something you desire.
Society can really suck the life out of us sometimes, but just know that you are not alone. There are many people that can relate to you.
Anonymous asked:
Hi! Anon here that has the distant QP. We do text/talk a lot thankfully and have had some good conversations and affection over the last couple days. 😊 I’m trying to see them over the next few days, but if that doesn’t happen I’m going to gently bring up how long it’s been and ask if they’re okay. I want to try and explain how intense my feelings are when we’re separated for extended periods of time, even if they’re “just” platonic. (1/?)
They’re alloromantic and I don’t want to scare them off by wording it in a way that comes across as romantic, but dang I love them. They’re seriously the most wonderful person in my life. I don’t know where I’d be without them and I’m fairly sure they’ve saved my life. I want nothing more than a future with them. The amount of things we have in common with our career goals and dreams is unreal. They are my rock and I would do anything for them. I love them more than I’ve ever loved anyone. (2/3)
So, going 3 weeks without them (when we live in the same city), does suck and I want to remind them of how I feel about them. Any advice? Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!!
Hello again! That’s good to hear that you’ve been texting and talking a lot recently. :) I know it’s not quite the same as seeing them in person, but it is still helpful to connect in that way!
I really want to say “awwww” at your feelings for them…because aww! And I mean that in the best way possible. It’s apparent how much you care for them. Platonic, romantic…love is love. There’s no difference in the depth in can have. So how you feel for them is totally valid. And I don’t think there’s any reason not to let them know how much they mean to you. I hope you can meet up soon!! I wish you the best. Just be yourself and speak your heart. :)
Anonymous asked:
I've been trying to learn more about qpr's recently because I've been questioning my romantic identity, and I was wondering. Is it possible for a person to be involved in romantic and queer platonic relationships? Is that something that happens commonly? I feel like I could have completely fulfilling qpr's but that I could also engage in and enjoy romantic relationships. (I'm still trying to figure out whether I experience romantic attraction >
Yes it is! QPR’s might fit into an aro’s idea of an ideal relationship more, and some might be averse to romance, but there are no rules against an aromantic person being in a romantic relationship and enjoying them. (Much like an asexual person can still have/enjoy sex.) There is certainly wiggle room in all identities. Perhaps you are grey/gray-romantic? Take your time exploring. :)
Anonymous asked:
I think my QPP has become less affectionate over the last few months. They mentioned this happening when they have a lot going on and are under stress. I’m worried because a lot of the time when I ask them how they are, I get short answers. They’ve even gotten short with me a few times. I don’t know how to bring it up but I read through my old texts with them and the difference is a bit drastic. I miss it. This is the first real relationship I’ve had since I’m ace too. Help? Any advice?
Hi there, anon! I’m sorry to hear about your QPP. It sounds like they’re definitely going through a lot right now. Something has changed, and you can tell the difference with the texts. :( The best thing to do is communicate, even if it seems really hard. Reaching out to your QPP, saying that you’re there for them, that you’ve noticed they haven’t been themselves, and you just want to help if you can. I know that can be scary and difficult to do, but it’s the only way to see what’s going on. As a QPR, you both need to work together to find solutions and help each other. I wish you the very, very best. Keep in touch here if you’d like. We’re here for you. ♥
yall really don’t like to use your brains huh. i mean QPRs just aren’t that hard of a concept to understand… a very strong, committed, platonic relationship. “oh that’s a best friend !” but do you consider your best friend a life partner ? would you move in with them ? would you become their civil partner ? would you adopt kids with them ?
idk what yall expect from aromantic ppl honestly. just let us put words on our experiences ! having a life partner is something a lot of people want and sometimes that life partner is platonic and that’s it. you all know full well that romantic relationships are prioritized over platonic ones so stop telling us QPPs are just best friends despite the level of commitment in QPRs.
literally just respect arospec ppl’s experiences with platonic feelings and attraction, i promise you it’s not that hard.
Anonymous asked:
My mom asked about my QP & I yesterday so I tried re-explaining asexuality & she tried to blame it on my anxiety meds. :) I got her to drop it but she wouldn’t accept me saying my QP and I weren’t romantic so I tried explaining QPRs and she goes “so you’re close friends?” & threw a bunch of questions about marriage/kids in my face. My QP & I are just trying to survive our personal issues right now & get our lives together. I just want to be left alone to be aroace & in love with my QP ahh.
Ugh, I’m sorry she blamed it on your anxiety meds. That is sadly a common misconception that people tend to say about being ace!! :/ That’s good you got her to drop it at least.
But then bringing that up about you and your QP. It can be difficult to explain the concept of QPR’s to people that are not aware of them. Because to most people in the world, relationships are 100% about romantic love and about getting married, having kids, and having sex. But that is not true! You and your QP are totally valid. As someone also in a QPR (both of us are aro aces), I can completely understand. You can feel love for someone that isn’t romantic or sexual in any way. I wish you and your QP all the very best.
Anonymous asked:
This is an odd question but I got in a situation today that made me think. I’m ace and I’m out as that. I’m questioning if I’m aro but I’m pan-orientated. I have a QPP that’s the light of my life and my primary partner. But sometimes I just really want to make out with a cute girl. No sexual attraction, no desire for a relationship (even a QP one), just want that physical affection. Friendship maybe but that’s it. Is there a word for that? Or has anyone else felt the same way?
It’s possible to be pan-oriented aro. When it comes to physical affection or wanting to kiss/hug/etc. that is sensual attraction. You could be aro pan-sensual ace! Unless you do feel platonic attraction towards any gender, then you could be pan-aro ace. But if it’s specifically feeling a desire for physical touch, that is sensual attraction. :)
Anonymous asked:
Do you think it’s possible to feel jealous of someone kissing your QP but in an aromantic way? I love my QP dearly but I don’t really feel romantically attracted to them (I’m a bit quioromantic though so idk) and I saw them making out with someone last night. I got a bit jealous, not in a way that hurt or anything, but like... receiving affection like that from them would be nice? I wouldn’t want to traditionally “date” them but there’s times where I do sort of want to kiss them.
I definitely think it’s possible to feel jealous in that situation! Your QP is someone you care about deeply, and if you are in a QPR, that still means you’re in a committed relationship (aromantic or not), and every one in QPR’s make up their rules on what’s cool and what’s not. Kissing can certainly happen if it’s something you both consent to. I would say try asking your QP about it. :) I wish you the best!