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Anonymous asked:

Hi! Anon here that has the distant QP. We do text/talk a lot thankfully and have had some good conversations and affection over the last couple days. 😊 I’m trying to see them over the next few days, but if that doesn’t happen I’m going to gently bring up how long it’s been and ask if they’re okay. I want to try and explain how intense my feelings are when we’re separated for extended periods of time, even if they’re “just” platonic. (1/?)

They’re alloromantic and I don’t want to scare them off by wording it in a way that comes across as romantic, but dang I love them. They’re seriously the most wonderful person in my life. I don’t know where I’d be without them and I’m fairly sure they’ve saved my life. I want nothing more than a future with them. The amount of things we have in common with our career goals and dreams is unreal. They are my rock and I would do anything for them. I love them more than I’ve ever loved anyone. (2/3)

So, going 3 weeks without them (when we live in the same city), does suck and I want to remind them of how I feel about them. Any advice? Thank you so much, I really appreciate it!!

Hello again! That’s good to hear that you’ve been texting and talking a lot recently. :) I know it’s not quite the same as seeing them in person, but it is still helpful to connect in that way!

I really want to say “awwww” at your feelings for them…because aww! And I mean that in the best way possible. It’s apparent how much you care for them. Platonic, romantic…love is love. There’s no difference in the depth in can have. So how you feel for them is totally valid. And I don’t think there’s any reason not to let them know how much they mean to you. I hope you can meet up soon!! I wish you the best. Just be yourself and speak your heart. :)

#QPP #QP #QPR #relationship #advice #feelings #platonic #romantic

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Anonymous asked:

My mom asked about my QP & I yesterday so I tried re-explaining asexuality & she tried to blame it on my anxiety meds. :) I got her to drop it but she wouldn’t accept me saying my QP and I weren’t romantic so I tried explaining QPRs and she goes “so you’re close friends?” & threw a bunch of questions about marriage/kids in my face. My QP & I are just trying to survive our personal issues right now & get our lives together. I just want to be left alone to be aroace & in love with my QP ahh.

Ugh, I’m sorry she blamed it on your anxiety meds. That is sadly a common misconception that people tend to say about being ace!! :/ That’s good you got her to drop it at least.

But then bringing that up about you and your QP. It can be difficult to explain the concept of QPR’s to people that are not aware of them. Because to most people in the world, relationships are 100% about romantic love and about getting married, having kids, and having sex. But that is not true! You and your QP are totally valid. As someone also in a QPR (both of us are aro aces), I can completely understand. You can feel love for someone that isn’t romantic or sexual in any way. I wish you and your QP all the very best.

#QPR #relationship #QP

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Anonymous asked:

This is an odd question but I got in a situation today that made me think. I’m ace and I’m out as that. I’m questioning if I’m aro but I’m pan-orientated. I have a QPP that’s the light of my life and my primary partner. But sometimes I just really want to make out with a cute girl. No sexual attraction, no desire for a relationship (even a QP one), just want that physical affection. Friendship maybe but that’s it. Is there a word for that? Or has anyone else felt the same way?

It’s possible to be pan-oriented aro. When it comes to physical affection or wanting to kiss/hug/etc. that is sensual attraction. You could be aro pan-sensual ace! Unless you do feel platonic attraction towards any gender, then you could be pan-aro ace. But if it’s specifically feeling a desire for physical touch, that is sensual attraction. :)

#sensual attraction #kissing #hugging #QP #QPP #QPR #aro #pan

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Anonymous asked:

Do you think it’s possible to feel jealous of someone kissing your QP but in an aromantic way? I love my QP dearly but I don’t really feel romantically attracted to them (I’m a bit quioromantic though so idk) and I saw them making out with someone last night. I got a bit jealous, not in a way that hurt or anything, but like... receiving affection like that from them would be nice? I wouldn’t want to traditionally “date” them but there’s times where I do sort of want to kiss them.

I definitely think it’s possible to feel jealous in that situation! Your QP is someone you care about deeply, and if you are in a QPR, that still means you’re in a committed relationship (aromantic or not), and every one in QPR’s make up their rules on what’s cool and what’s not. Kissing can certainly happen if it’s something you both consent to. I would say try asking your QP about it. :) I wish you the best!

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