Life Before Death

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Leslie was a communist, a butch lesbian, a nonbinary and transgender activist, and the person who made me who I am today. Consider checking out Stone Butch Blues if you haven’t already 😘 Do it for Leslie, and for hir surviving partner, Minnie Bruce Pratt 💕

When was the last time you ate something green and NO GREEN M&M'S DON'T COUNT

Kamala?

Every photo of Johnny Cash and Bob Dylan together looks like a a respectable mafia boss father named Giovanni and his weird son who bites sometimes

Yeahhhh, you're right

back in my day the reblog button was on the top. we had to scroll 15 miles through the snow, uphill both ways.

DORIAN PAVUS Dragon Age: Inquisition (2014) vs. Dragon Age: The Veilguard (2024)

i forget who made the post but "if you would transition in a heartbeat in a more accepting society then you are in fact trans" really helps me when i need it

buddy you're not gonna believe this

One of my more outwardly baffling autistic traits is that often I will fully know that you're being sarcastic or joking & I'll just keep talking. I'll respond to it in earnest thinking I'm continuing the bit but I do it too flatly and everybody knows I'm autistic so they'll stop and be like hey that was a joke & I'm like I know

The US Military in Hawaii

I think people would armchair diagnose bad people with cluster B disorders much less if psychiatric disorders hadn't all been given names by ableists who of course picked the traits most unberarable to "sane" people to name them rather than, you know, the ways it affects the people that have them. It's like, when doctors are all "this disorder gives you extremely low self esteem. and it's called the Selfish Fucking Asshole Disorder" or "this disorder makes you want to die so bad. and it's called the Hysteric Bitch Disorder" or "this disorder disconnects you from your peers. and it's called the Insane Evil Cunt Disorder" and so on and so forth, so of course you have people going "oh, this person is a selfish fucking asshole, they MUST have Selfish Fucking Asshole Disorder! this further proves that all people with this disorder are like that in the first place!" Do You See It

Enabling reblogs again due to popular request. But for the love of goth. behave

You're telling me a gar* licked this bread?

*a North American freshwater fish of the family Lepisosteidae

A helpful visual:

[walking confidently into a live minefield] I can't say for sure how we reached the point where "trans women everywhere (read as: everywhere online) oppress/hate/are secretly plotting the downfall of trans men" is a thing that people think is both true and reasonable to believe, but I think at least one factor is a stupid vicious cycle of bad actors and gullible bystanders where, like. you have some guys engaging in shitty misogynistic behavior > some women either try to explain why this behavior is shitty and misogynistic (to no avail) or just disengage entirely > instead of learning from this, the guys act all wounded about it > outside observers who don't have a great grasp on the situation (or maybe don't have great grasp on how misogyny functions in general, or think that only cis men can engage in misogynistic behaviors, or have some kind of unconscious hang-up against trans women) see this and think aw man, these poor dudes are getting ragged on for no reason! > people who weren't necessarily doing the original shitty misogynistic behavior are falsely pointing the finger at trans women for "starting shit" > this is obviously fucking irritating, and no one has an infinite well of patience, so after calmly defending themselves however many times, some of these ladies are just gonna start telling bad-faith jokers to fuck off > shitty dudes and gullible bystanders go "see, they're doing it again! those man-hating harpies!" > women continue to be irritated and (understandably) defensive, tell bad-faith jokers to fuck off > and so on and so forth.

and to be clear "vicious cycle" does not mean "oh well really it's everyone's fault for being involved in the whole mess." I think there's a pretty clear cause and effect here where if you're dismissive of women's voices and viewpoints, and hold them to unfair standards, and just generally aren't very nice, they might not be very nice to you in return. and why should they be!

oh lol and how could I forget... I think the mere existence of the word "transandrophobia" created a red hot death spiral of miscommunication where you have people who are earnest believers in misandry as a real thing but also a lot of people who are inadvertently positioning it as a real thing, and then when people in the second group face pushback they either don't understand why or start actually believing in misandry out of spite. I always thought the trajectory there is something like: the word "transmisogyny" entered mainstream use, which describes how trans women are stuck between a rock in a hard place thanks to the dual forces of transphobia (which affects all trans people) and misogyny (which affects all women) > someone coins the phrase "transmisandry" in an attempt to argue that trans men face a combination of transphobia (which affects all trans people) and... misandry? (which affects all men? wait hold on idk about that) > "transmisandry" gets rebranded as "transandrophobia" even though it's just using different greek roots that mean the same thing > bystander who is not familiar with the history of these terms assumes that transmisogyny simply means "transphobia that happens to girls" and therefore transandrophobia must mean "transphobia that happens to boys" > you get situations where person A says "transandrophobia isn't real" and means "there is no such thing as an intersection of transphobia and misandry" but person B hears this and thinks "wow, this asshole doesn't think men ever face transphobia?"

and again, the problem here still doesn't cut both ways, because person A can explain a million times that misandry is not a meaningful structural force, and that "the male equivalent of transmisogyny" still isn't a useful term in the same way that "the male equivalent of lesbophobia" or "the monosexual equivalent of biphobia" aren't useful terms either, but person B is often not receptive to this. so now person A has to brace themselves whenever they see someone using the word "transandrophobia," because they've learned from experience that whatever conversation follows is gonna be unproductive at best or hostile at worst.

shut up

This man is actually willy Wonka and he needs to be stopped. Someone needs to stop him. This is out of control.

apropros of nothing, i just wanna say that even though the split of british/american voices in video games kinda sucks, it's really nice that in veilguard the british female voice is a northern accent. you just so rarely see that in any form of media, unless the character involved is poor or mean, so it's just really lovely that there's some positive representation of such a traditionally dismissed accent. i'm genuinely so pleasantly surprised that they got bryony corrigan to keep her accent rather than force her into received pronunciation.