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heya, can i get a promo? im a new suggestion blog, @autisticflirting! submissions are welcome, especially since ive just started!
absolutely! everyone, follow @autisticflirting!!
Jeez I never knew why loud planes and motorcycles/cars revving up/trains always made me want to cry or at least made me very distressed until I learned about sensory issues
Yeah, sensory issues suck and it can definitely be confusing until you figure it out! Noise-cancelling headphones are a life saver tbh.
So I’ve was diagnosed when I was 5. I’ve had anger problems since I was at least 10. I’m now 22. I just want to know if this is a common thing & if so. How can I prevent from being angry all the time? Not just angry but like. Murderous intent angry. Enraged. Whatever word you choose
I’m not sure if anger issues have a direct combination to autism, but it’s definitely possible for the two to be comorbid. If you can’t seek professional help, then you should start by identifying your triggers AND anything that may calm your anger down, even in the slightest. Avoid triggers and surround yourself with things that calm you down. If possible, try to find a place alone when you start to get angry. This may sound like ignorant NT advice, but there really are good videos, breathing exercises, etc. that help to calm down anger! Look around and see if any of that helps you!
I haven't been doing anything at all regarding my special interests because I'm scared of being bullied and I've been really depressed lately. But not doing anything with them is making my depression worse, so I'm in this loop I can't seem to break free from. I don't know how to not care if people bully me and I don't know if it makes sense that I'm too depressed to do anything with my special interests. Has anyone else ever been in a similar situation? Sorry if this is worded poorly.
Hey, I’m sorry about that! Maybe you could try to do stuff relating to them in private? It may be less fun, but it might be your best option :( This definitely isn’t an uncommon experience, so you’re not alone. Depending on what your special interests are, you could try to find a group of people (or just one person) online/irl that share your interests - they don’t necessarily have to be special interests to that person (but that would be nice)! Like if your special interest is some sort of media or pop culture you can try to get involved with the fandom, if it’s an area of study you can seek out research or maybe even start some sort of class about it if that’s accessible for you!
I have this issue I've been struggling with for 3-4 yrs where I constantly think about non-stop, things that make me angry and idk if it's an autistic but I assume it is bc I almost obsessively think about things. I will literally think about something from 4 months ago and be annoyed about it. I guess another factor into this is that my family members, especially my parent, is a toxic individual. I know there are coping mechanisms, like journals, but i dont think they help much.
Obsessive thinking is a general neurodivergent trait, one that can certainly apply to autism! As for coping mechanisms, if you’re unable to distance yourself from stressors/triggers, you might be able to try to add something positive to your life? Like, if you have a toxic parent, maybe you could try to find a positive support system somehow? I suppose it kind of depends on the exact details of your situation but it could be a good place to start.
Do it you have any tips on how to stop a harmful stim? I use self harm as a stim and I really want to stop, but it’s so hard. Do you have any ideas?
First of all, identify what triggers the stim. Is it stress? Sensory overload? Whatever you find the trigger to be, you should try to prevent it before it happens, if possible. For example, if you use harmful stims when you’re scared, then you should avoid scary situations as much as you can, or at the very least find other ways to cope with it (i.e. comfort objects)
However, that’s unfortunately not always possible, so another thing to do could be to find an alternative. Why do you use the stim? Is it so you can block out one bad sensory thing with another? Is it just how you deal with your emotions? This may be difficult to figure out, so it’s okay if you can’t! I know that most of us just stim without any type of motive behind it due to how natural it is for us, but some do stim with a ‘goal’, for lack of a better word, in mind.
Try to find something that gives you a similar sensation. Like for example, if your harmful stim is banging your head, you could maybe try shaking your head instead, tapping it, or something that is essentially a more mild and less harmful version of it. If you pick/poke at your skin, you could find something else to pick/poke (i.e. putty) or find a more safe skin-based stim like maybe pressing into your skin without hurting yourself.
There’s also a lot of general resources on how to stop self-harm in a lot of ND communities online, but because yours is Autism/stim based they may not all be helpful, but it probably couldn’t hurt to at least try to look into!
Don’t be too mad at yourself if you can’t replace the stim immediately - it’s natural behavior, and it’s difficult to stop!
My family often talk negative about me whilst insisting they love me. I’ll often get told I should do things myself but I’m too ‘lazy’ or “he’s been weird”, “he’s having one of his moments” and those don’t sound bad but they say it whilst sighing or tutting. They repeatedly mention how I’m a burden to their day to day lives whilst never offering solutions or long term strategies to change things. My mum in particularly will get very angry if I don’t/can’t do what she wants. Any advise?
I’m sorry about that! Have you tried explaining that there are things that you literally can’t do? If you did and that doesn’t help, you should try to at least build a support system of people who do understand, so that they can balance out what your family says. Continue to take care of yourself, and don’t force yourself into things, no matter what they say to you. Depending on what it is in particular you struggle with, there are probably at least one or two articles online that can help you - maybe try searching “how to do (x) when you’re autistic” or something? Or you could IM me!
Hey I was gonna add some weight to one of my stuffed animals but all I see as suggestions for heavy stuffing material is rice (I have mice in my house I don’t want to use any kind of food) or expensive beads. Any suggestions (preferably something that might be found around one’s house)?
Cotton is one of my favorites! Depending on size and other factors, sometimes i can use hand towels or even mini blankets, too.
Autistic people should never feel ashamed of themselves because of their autism.
True!!
I’ve had a chipped front tooth since 10, I went to the dentist to get a cavity filled and they put permanent crown on the front tooth and told to make another appt for the tooth that hurt. I have literally had the front tooth chipped in half for 14 years, more than half my life. It’s been fixed and rebroken 5x. My identity is tied to it, I feel so gross and not-me when I see the fixed tooth :( I wanna do something about it but it’s too late and I don’t know how to speak for myself. I’m sad.
I’m sorry :( I don’t really know how to help with this either beyond maybe trying to find another part of yourself to tie your identity too? Obviously it won’t be the same at all but it may provide at least some form of comfort. Maybe a follower can offer further insight?
i have a phobia of kids and they always just love me. any suggestions for being nice and not seeming creepy or angry around them?
Ask them about their interests, and maybe suggest playing a sensory friendly game with them that doesn’t bother you! Kids don’t care too much about social cues so don’t worry if you have echolalia, if you can’t make eye contact, or you’re prone to infodumping. You may have to act over-enthusiastic or shocked about things that they tell you but besides that you probably won’t have to ‘fake’ much.
heya, im a new follower so i hope its ok to ask for advice here. i Really struggle with being social, like im mostly only comfortable talking to my s/o. i try to message people but i either get too scared to view their message, or i cant get myself to respond well or at all. i want to work on these things, so im able to talk to friends and hopefully improve on other types of social interactions that i have a lot of trouble with. any advice on how to work on these things, if its possible? thanks!
Do you have any close friends or family? Maybe you could start with talking to them and then slowly warm yourself up to other people, if that makes sense?
Reaffirmations also helps more than you may think, telling yourself that it’s okay and there’s nothing to be nervous about. Obviously that won’t solve your problems but it’s better than just not doing anything!
I’ve also noticed that, at least online, it’s easier for me if i gradually work my way up to messaging people - i’ll start with reguarly liking their posts, then i’ll reply, then maybe i’ll send them asks, and then i’ll start a conversation
I’m not sure if you have these disorders as well or not, but you can find general advice for these kind of things on social anxiety and AVPD blogs as well, because struggling with being social is a huge thing in those disorders.
Thank you for running this blog, it has helped me a lot
You’re welcome! I’m glad that I could be of help!
Hello! I'm stim by chewing all the time, by chewing my hair, and sleeves. I want to get a chewigem. But my mom says she thinks it's weird and says I don't need a "baby toy". I'm 21 , and it really frustrates me that she wants me to look Nerotypical all the time. Should I get the chewigem anyway?
yes, assuming you would be safe to do so! everyone deserves to stim, and it’s really terrible that she’d try to make you stop :(
I get very excited about stuff, like dog breeds or specific events or psychology or movies and tv shows. I info dump as much as I can, but I feel like even if I try to I can’t properly contain any information about it after a certain point. And I’ve forgotten most details of my old special interests. It’s so frustrating. I feel like I can’t really live out my special interests like I used to. Do you have any tips?
I’m sorry :( Maybe you could find people who share your interests, and talk to them about it? (For example, Animal Crossing is my special interest and i’m in a discord server for it) Or if people and interacting aren’t your thing, then maybe you could try to set aside some time (fit it into a routine, perhaps) dedicated to your special interests - to studying them, or watching the tv shows, etc.
But also remember that special interests aren’t a contest of any sort and you can still have a special interest even if you can’t fully live them out or if you forget some details. Obviously it isn’t fun to be in that situation but it in no way makes them less important or anything!
what does “experienced symptoms since i was a minor” mean? i fall everywhere else on the dsm diagnosis expect that all started when i was about 15? could i still be autistic? several medical professionals have said i’d probably qualify for asd but then my mother thinks i just act worse in public or when stressed than i do at home. help? i don’t know what to think, i currently have professionally diagnosed ocd, social phobia, and generalized anxiety.
It’s definitely possible for symptoms to not show up until adolescence. usually they show up in childhood and just may not be recognized, or they may be labeled as something else - from everything to a different diagnosis to “just being a weird/shy kid”. But I’d say you can still probably be considred autistic regardless of when you started showing traits of it, especially if medical professionals agree! I’d ignore the words of your mother, even more so if she doesn’t know much about autism.
aa thanks for reblogging that really sweet post just now,, i happy flap really aggressively when i laugh and people laugh at me all the time so it feels good knowing Someone thinks thats beautiful
Of course, that’s what I’m here for! Im sorry that people laugh at you, but do know that you’re wonderful just as you are!