Honestly, I became so much more powerful after I started refusing to be embarrassed by my special interests past or present. I did not dedicate years of my life to this thing, devote like 90% of my thoughts to this thing, and love it so hard it hurts just to feel embarrassed by it now. I love twenty one pilots! And doctor who! And fnaf! And I'm not gonna feel bad about it because I deserve the happiness they bring me.
*cups special interest gently in my hands* thank you
*doesn't stim for a while* oh I must be faking my autism
*goes a while without any hyperfixations or special interests* oh I must be faking my autism
*successfully socializes* oh I must be faking my autism
*understands a sarcastic comment* OH I MUST BE F-
kfhskhksjhfkjsa hi toby!! are u an MCR fan?? KJSFHKSHKJFHSJF ME TOO
I love mcr! My favorite song is "its not a fashion statement, it's a deathwish"
hello! ive been looking into an autism diagnosis recently and was curious if autistic people could have tics? ive heard of anxiety tics and tourettes being comorbid but ive never really gotten a clear answer if tics can be bc of autism ^^'
Tic disorders do tend to be comorbid with autism, but everything I've seen online says that if you're autistic and have tics, the tics would not be considered because of your autism. It would be considered a tic disorder that is comorbid. At least, that's what I was able to find online. I hope this helps!
Any other nd people remember just intensely identifying with creep by radiohead in middle school? Just that feeling of alienation and feeling like I didn't belong really hit home with me
Neurotypicals will rock in rocking chairs for hours and still look at neurodivergents weird for doing it in regular chairs
I dunno if you remember me, but I got my first job recently. I love my job, but I have to quit soon because I have foot problems and I can't stand for so long without being in a lot of pain. Now I have to find a job where I'm not on my feet for long periods of time, but office jobs are literally my ADHD nightmare and a half. Do you have any advice or suggestions for jobs? :(
I do remember you! I don't have ADHD, so I don't know too much about that. But I was thinking of a good sitting down job where you don't have to work in an office and came upon driving. Like maybe you could be a driver for Uber or something. I've heard people say they make decent money too. And it shouldn't be too repetitive since you'll be going different places with different people.
I tend to assume everyone is the same as me. Like if I'm sitting next to someone and a spot opens up next to me, my first instinct is to move a seat down from the person to give them space, since I would appreciate that in their place. Often, this would be viewed as offensive since it would seem to them that I don't like them. Is it an autistic thing to have a hard time grasping that other people have different knowledge, opinions, wants, and needs from you? Also if someone ever moves away from you, don't feel to bad about it. It might be someone like me, who means it in a nice way!
Common myth: “neurotypicals don’t stim”. This is actually false. Neurotypical people do stim, it’s just usually in a slightly different way. Common stims that you might notice a neurotypical doing include: nail biting, hair twirling, leg bouncing, foot tapping, pen biting, skin picking, knuckle cracking and more. These are stims that go unnoticed most of the time because they are so common. Autistic people’s stims are usually more noticeable. Stims you might see autistic people doing include: hand flapping, rocking, echolalia (repeating words or phrases), head banging, excessive blinking, spinning in circles and more. Stimming is not an exclusive autism trait. It’s the short term for “self-stimulatory behaviours” which every human being does in one way or another. It’s a completely normal way of regulating emotions. I’ve seen some people saying “neurotypicals don’t stim, they fidget” but fidgeting is actually a form of stimming.
The reasons why a neurotypical stims is usually different to why an autistic person does, however, the reasons can be the same. Stimming can help in stressful situations where anxiety levels are high. You’re more likely to notice a neurotypical person stimming when they are particularly anxious, for example in an exam or a job interview. Autistic people stim as a way of expressing emotions, for example we will stim when we are happy or excited, not just when we are anxious. Autistic people frequently experience sensory overloads and stimming helps to calm us down.
I find it ironic and hypocritical when neurotypicals make fun of autistics for stimming when they literally stim too. My parents will comment on my stimming when my mum is sat there biting her nails and my dad is bouncing his leg and picking his skin. How are my stims wrong and their stims right? Before you judge an autistic person for stimming take a look at yourself because I can guarantee you stim in one way or another. Let’s normalise and embrace stimming because not only is it beautiful, it’s incredibly important. Suppressing stims can be detrimental to our mental health.
Embrace the stim! No matter how big or small! All stims are valid!! 🤗🤗🤗
I've always thought that if neurotypicals just tried hand flapping, they'd like it but noooo, they've gotta insist that stimming is weird even though they do it too.
Routines don't have to be doing the same things at the same time every day. Sometimes, it's choosing the exact same options in a video game every single time, even if the game gives you a variety of choices (looking at you, Life is Strange). Sometimes it's checking your apps in the same order when you wake up in the morning. Or when your songs MUST be in the same order when you listen to them. I personally dislike routines like "wake up at 10 a.m. and have oatmeal for breakfast, shower at 11, etc." However, I love doing everything else that I listed. I worried about being a fake autistic before I realized that those were routines too.
Sorry I disappeared for 3 months and was declared a "missing person" or whatever, I was busy being consumed by my hyperfixation
me, every time I get a new hyperfixation: oh my god, this thing is so wonderful! I'm literally going to love this thing at this same intensity until the day I die.
me, when the hyperfixation ends: my identity as a person is shattered. there is a void that will never be filled. I will never move on from this.
me, when I get my next hyperfixation: oh my god, this thing is so wonderful! I'm literally going to love this thing until I die!
Don't assume autistic people can do everything you can do but also don't assume that we can't do something. Ask us about our individual abilities, since we're all different. And if we ask for help, give it if you can.
Sir, i'm gonna need you to stop having intercourse with the rocks. Sir- SIR
I've thought long and hard about this ask and I've come to the conclusion that I have no idea what this is referring to. Did I make a post about having sex with rocks that I can't remember making??
OHHHH
Well in that case, what me and my autism do in our spare time is not your place to comment on.
Sir, i'm gonna need you to stop having intercourse with the rocks. Sir- SIR
I've thought long and hard about this ask and I've come to the conclusion that I have no idea what this is referring to. Did I make a post about having sex with rocks that I can't remember making??
hi!!
i was wondering if you had any advice on feeling afraid that you’re faking your autism/neurodivergence. :( it’s been a massive struggle for me for a very long time and i don’t really know what to do. i have thoughts like “what if i don’t actually have this symptom and im making it up”, “am i faking so i can just have a label for why my brain is weird and feel more in touch with myself”, and “but im pretty good in some social situations (because i mask i think?) so i can’t be autistic” and im freaking myself out :-/
what’re your thoughts? do you have any ideas on how to ease these kinds of anxieties?
thank you :,)
Faking means that you know full well that you don't have a certain condition, but you make the active, conscious decision to pretend that you do to accomplish a specific goal. You will know if you're faking because you sat down with yourself and decided to do it.
Here are some things to keep in mind:
I hope this will help put your mind at ease. You are welcome in this community even if you aren't 100% certain. And if it turns out that you aren't autistic, that doesn't mean you were faking either. It just means you tried something out that didn't fit.
