y’all ever remember something extremely embarrassing and just feel horrible about it

Pro Tip: Try to think of something embarrassing some else has done. You probably can't. Which means no one else remembers the cringe thing you did.

wait that actually helps so much

oh, you're worried about thing????? well guess what buckaroo!!!! you've done way harder thing in the past, so I KNOW you can do this thing too!!!!!!!!

Daily Reminder:

How you feel is not your fault, but taking responsibility for how you react to, and cope with, your emotions is very important for healing and growth.

It takes time but it is worth exploring how you usually deal with your emotions, and why, and considering if there's a better/healthier way.

You Can Get Through This 🌼

my body may not be in the place others’ are, but my body is doing the best it can and i’m not mad at it. it’s trying. that’s all that matters.

take it slow. be patient with yourself. if you can’t get out of the house today, that’s okay. if you can’t get out of bed today, that’s okay. if all you can do is breathe today, breathe. you’re allowed to take it slow.

A lot of the time it does not matter how you do it, what really matters is that you do it. If you find yourself in a situation that scares you, go ahead and face it, because facing your fears is actually what will make you so much stronger. It will help you grow and heal. And in this case, it really does not matter how it goes - maybe you will feel as if you made a fool of yourself, maybe you will feel embarrassed, maybe you will feel uncomfortable, or maybe it will leave you unbelievably anxious. But you know what? You faced it anyway. And that is what matters, my love. Healing sometimes takes a lot of courage, yet here you are fighting to get better every single day. I am so proud of you. So please do not be too hard on yourself when you ‘mess up’ a certain situation that scared you, because what matters is that you faced your fears and pushed through anyway. You are doing such a good job, my love.

plus sized peeps? not only are they all gorgeous they also give the best hugs it’s a fact

Please be happy for other people. Your time will come.

the hardest part about bouncing back from a depressive episode is cleaning up the mess you’ve made of your life like you can’t exactly say “sorry for ignoring you and your messages for a week, i was too busy suffering from crippling loneliness hope we’re still ok lol” right

You can say that though! Depression is real as fuck and i promise you are not the only person your friend knows with depression.

I wish good things would come your way, you deserve the world

The common thread in recovery stories is that people never thought in a million years that things could get so much better, but they did. It’s difficult to imagine yourself at the top of that mountain when you’re lying at the shadows at the bottom of it. But it’s possible. People do it all the time, and you can too. 

It might feel like you’re just surviving right now, but one day you’ll be living, you’ll be thriving, and that day is worth surviving for. 

I know that sometimes ‘it gets better’ can feel like an empty platitude, but the reason it’s such a cliché is because it happens so often. So many people have been where you are now, and thought that it would never get better, and it did. And that can happen for you too. 

dear trauma survivors,

here’s a little something my therapist told me that helped me out:

even people with the worst trauma tell themselves “it could have been worse”

even people with the most unpreventable trauma blame themselves.

every single person who has gone through trauma beats themself up over it.

those thoughts that you shouldve done something different or that you just need to “get over it”… they aren’t true. they’re just symptoms of real, valid trauma. what you went through was hard. no human being deserves to go through that. you are allowed to be upset. you are allowed to feel angry and scared. your feelings are valid, and it was not your fault.

gentle reminder

hey, can you stop for a second, please?

inhale for me

now, exhale

take a moment to reorient yourself - have you had something to drink? have you had food? have you taken your medications, if you need to? maybe it is time to have a shower and change your clothes, too

this is your reminder to breathe and take care of yourself, please. you got this.