a thot for love

Alright, now that more people have played through Lucanis's quest and we are all in unison about how much it sucks not getting to chat with him more often, I'm going to give my hot take.

I don't think Mary Kirby did a good job with Lucanis. Another character where you HAVE to read the books to understand anything about them? I consider that a failure. At least you could interact with Cole frequently! And slowburn romances can still interact with each other! Most of the flirting with Lucanis is like... checking on his will to live rather than allowing us to blatantly flirt. I don't mind him having a muted or baffled response, but why are WE restricted in this way?

Also, WHY is his personal quest so underdeveloped!!! We don't even get to have conversations with him about Caterina! Hardly any about Illario! We don't even get to go back to the café to celebrate defeating Zara OR rescuing Caterina!!!

Overall, I will enjoy the fanfiction versions of Lucanis that emerge more than what we got

Im so fucking disappointed in lucanis's romance in veilguard

I'm nearly to the end of the game and there has been nothing but flirting

No touching at all - hugs, kisses, handholding

NOTHING

What the FUCK????

I should probably clarify that i'm not talking about spice

that's not what im complaining about

im complaining about the lack of chemistry and intimacy (knuckles against your cheek, pressing your foreheads together, pressing his lips against the back of your hand)

anything

do you see what i'm saying

"i miss when the dragon age companions were mean" y'all can't even handle vivienne

That's not even.. what's going on (re the last tweet). People with ocd aren't contemplating sexually abusing kids, they're afraid they might sexually harm a child by mistake, or be a pedophile without realising, or any number of similar anxieties, but the point is that it becomes an anxious fixation because the person finds it so repellant. It's such an incredibly common ocd symptom, but most people are understandably terrified to talk about it

I remember reading a study where a therapist was helping people with similar anxieties - though not involving children - work through them. One client said she was afraid she was going to murder the therapist, not that she wanted to but that she'd somehow lose control of herself or an accident would happen. The solution? The therapist brought a kitchen knife to an appointment (with the patients consent), handed it to her and basically said "okay, what now?" Turns out nothing now, nothing happened, and it helped the client deal with the phobia

Obviously that approach isn't workable with something like pedophilia/csa anxiety but I think it highlights the true nature of what the anxiety actually is. It's irrational anxiety that comes from a deep fear and disgust of csa, not a desire to perpetrate it

OCD-haver: “I have ridiculous irrational fear disease, it causes me to have ridiculous irrational fears”

Enlightened normal-brainer: “that is ridiculous and irrational, clearly you’re worried because it’s secretly true”

OCD-Haver: [tired stare at camera]

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why are people so mean to steampunk. what did steampunk do to you. are you too good for cogs? too good for goggles and a top hat? hmm??? bitch

You don’t like cog? ⚙️? Whir whir?

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