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Kate. Introvert, sci fi nerd, recently obsessed with Asian dramas, Californian, history lecturer, probably having a midlife crisis. You’ll find a little bit of everything here.
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why i am sick of bellatrix vs. molly and your quarter inch deep analysis

bellatrix isn’t punished by JK for being a fighter instead of a mother or a ‘bad woman’, and molly isn’t put on a pedestal by JK because of her billion children and motherly trappings. that is just the most basic shallow contextless reading of the characters and it makes me want to SCREAM.

1. bellatrix isn’t ‘punished’ for ‘atypical femininity’.

she’s a rich aristocratic privileged pureblood who joins a paramilitary terrorist organization attempting mass murder and a government takeover. she is so devoted to this organization and its ideology that she tortures and murders and willingly goes to prison for 12 years.*

when she gets out, complete with some brand new rotten teeth and new and improved zealotry-to-the-point-of-mental-illness, she keeps fighting. she murders and tortures. she seems to start a pretty well-known fucking reign of terror on the everyday wizarding populace, if the beggars in diagon alley are any indication. she racks up casualty after casualty after casualty to the point where she seems almost as unfuckingstoppable as voldemort.

she participates in the final battle. she kills a fuckton of heroes and makes a fuckton of orphans. she threatens molly’s daughter and molly kills her. it seems to me like JKR is punishing her for, you know, being a villain. and all the stuff she did. stuff like torture and murder and terrifying ideology.

*and, hey, maybe it’s just me but the fact that she’s in the slammer for her prime childbearing years seems to have more to do with her childlessness than ‘atypical femininity’. look closer at bellatrix. don’t you think if she were free she would’ve had pureblood sons by her pureblood husband and WEANED them on pureblood supremacy? don’t you think she would have nurtured and loved them and then when they were old enough handed them to Voldemort to take his mark and die in his service? 

2. molly isn’t ‘glorified’ for ‘proper womanhood’.

molly is one of my favorite characters because she is fiercely loving, but also because she’s flawed—and fucking courageous. yes, she loves and nurtures her five billion kids. yes, managing the household on little money is a logistical nightmare and she handles it like a pro. yes, she takes Harry as a seventh son despite already having SO MANY DEMANDS on her time and on her heart but she knows he needs it and she cares that much and that’s really amazing.

but she’s also close-minded and stubborn and holds a grudge like a motherfucker. the way she treats Fleur is totally uncalled for and xenophobic as shit; she butts heads terribly with Sirius over Harry and delivers some pretty low blows on him; she’s wayyy petty with Hermione in CoS. She’s the one who raised Ron and Ron reacted with some really ugly prejudice and fear at Remus’ infected status, remember that shit? At no point does the narrative put her on a pedestal. She’s shown in some really ugly moments being really unpleasant because she’s, y’know, a three-dimensional character instead of whatever saintly stereotype people read her as.

Still, she’s ultimately incredibly courageous. Molly’s every bit as pureblood as Bellatrix. That shit would basically guarantee you and your family making it in Voldemort’s Wizarding Britain if you mind your Ps and Qs and go with the flow. But she supports the Order. The Order that was on the verge of losing the first war before Harry shows up, and isn’t doing much better in the 90s. That’s a death sentence if Voldemort wins and still dangerous if he doesn’t; she lost two brothers the first time around and knows her large family can’t possibly make it unscathed through a second war.* But she still supports the Order.

*And it doesn’t. The war takes her loved ones from her TWICE. That shit isn’t her Boggart because she’s soooo saintly or soooo loving, it’s her Boggart because she’s smart enough to see the writing on the fucking wall and it comes true.

3. IN CONCLUSION/TL;DR

every single time two women fight it isn’t always about who is being a better woman. in this instance it’s about conflicting ideologies and the brave underdog conquering the superintimidating villain.

what it IS NOT about is a strong childless woman being punished by the author for daring not to be a housewife. because oh my god fuuuucccccckkkk yooooouuuuuu.

P.S. if you are looking for an atypically feminine career-minded childfree woman in HP try Minerva McGonagall.

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mumblingsage

every single time two women fight it isn’t always about who is being a better woman

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so one skywalker twin took magic lessons from a frog, killed his dad, and fucked off to an abandoned island in his bathrobe. the other skywalker twin gunned down space nazis, hooked up with han solo, and governed the free galaxy with snark and hair like a botticelli painting. and you’re telling me *luke* is the one i should be inspired by?

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bethrevis

Sexism in the Arts

A 27-year-old mother who barely uses social media is selling more albums than anyone thought was still possible

The person they were talking about? Adele. ADELE. You know, the woman who has 21.4 MILLION Twitter followers. The woman who just blew past N*Sync’s record for debut week. The woman with the top hit songs that pretty much everyone is singing.

Reduced to:

  • woman
  • mother
  • inept social media user

This is some grade-A bullshit. Because at the end of the day, the same attitude exists for women in any creative field. The same questions. The same dismissiveness and reductions.

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bellemaddox
[M]en who share household and child-rearing responsibilities with women are mistaken if they think that this act of choice, often buttressed by the gratitude and admiration of others, is anything like the woman’s experience of being forcibly socialized into these tasks and of having others perceive this as her natural function in the scheme of things.

Uma Narayan, “The Project of Feminist Epistemology:  Perspectives from a Nonwestern Feminist” (1989)

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"My response to the “I am not a feminist” internet phenomenon…. First of all, it’s clear you don’t know what feminism is. But I’m not going to explain it to you. You can google it. To quote an old friend, “I’m not the feminist babysitter.” But here is what I think you should know. You’re insulting every woman who was forcibly restrained in a jail cell with a feeding tube down her throat for your right to vote, less than 100 years ago. You’re degrading every woman who has accessed a rape crisis center, which wouldn’t exist without the feminist movement. You’re undermining every woman who fought to make marital rape a crime (it was legal until 1993). You’re spitting on the legacy of every woman who fought for women to be allowed to own property (1848). For the abolition of slavery and the rise of the labor union. For the right to divorce. For women to be allowed to have access to birth control (Comstock laws). For middle and upper class women to be allowed to work outside the home (poor women have always worked outside the home). To make domestic violence a crime in the US (It is very much legal in many parts of the world). To make workplace sexual harassment a crime. In short, you know not what you speak of. You reap the rewards of these women’s sacrifices every day of your life. When you grin with your cutsey sign about how you’re not a feminist, you ignorantly spit on the sacred struggle of the past 200 years. You bite the hand that has fed you freedom, safety, and a voice. In short, kiss my ass, you ignorant little jerks.”

Libby Anne  (via mikasaackreman)

Yall know the “i’m not a feminist” “”phenomena”” has existed since feminism has been a thing right

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wilwheaton
The first and worst asshole technique for arguing against feminism is demanding proof of sexism every single time the subject is raised. It’s a popular strategy because it pretends to be in good faith. New claims do require proof. But sexual inequality isn’t a new claim. Sexual inequality is almost the entire history of our species. When nearly every social statistic in every country on the planet is evidence of the problem, people fighting it don’t have to list them all to justify the discussion.
Source: cracked.com
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autohaste

white serial killers are literally afforded more humanity than innocent slain black people, from media to the judicial system. How much hatred is in your heart to tell me a white man who shot and killed 12 people, injured 60 still has his rights, but a black child playing with a toy gun should have known better?

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I want to see Lupita Nyong’o as an unlucky-in-love wedding planner in a frothy romantic comedy. I want to see David Oyelowo race against the clock to save his wife and child in a big-budget action thriller; I want Chiwetel Ejiofor to sweep in as the miracle bachelor in a Nancy Myers movie. I want to see Idris Elba as fucking James Bond already, instead of just hearing about how great Idris Elba would be as James Bond. I want actors of color to have the same freedom to make good choices and bad choices and challenging films and mindless popcorn paycheck fluff as every other major performer and director in Hollywood.
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And even if that Autism thing was true (WHich it fucking isn’t) your kid is still safe from these diseases.

What’s fucking worse? You saying you’d rather have dead kid then and Autistic one? Seriously Anti-vaxxers need to banished to the moon something.

preach it

This is also why shit like Autism Speaks is fucking terrible.

People are so terrified of autism due to their campaigning that they’re willing to put LIVES at risk to avoid a child who has it. Without that fear, the anti-vaccination campaign would have never taken off.

A little piece of annoyance I need to share. What also makes Autism Speaks worse is the propagation of the idea that those with Autism can’t live happy, productive lives. And here’s why that’s also bullshit: I’m autistic and I’m a college student who’s 3 quarters away from getting an AAS in Information Technology and is probably going to be in the first graduating class of the brand new Bachelor’s degree program that’s being done through my current college’s IT program which is made as a continuation of the AAS. 

And am I happy? Whenever people aren’t stuffing their assumptions about me down my throat, yes. Because I know I wouldn’t be here if not for Autism. I know this because if not for Autism, I would be a completely different person. And I am happy with who I am as a person, even if groups like Autism Speaks claim that no one affected by Autism can ever be happy or productive.

Rant over.

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bearbuttz
What about our fans? Are they privileged? Let me tell you about Anders. He was one of two male love interests in Dragon Age II, and the only one of the two that would actually make his intentions known to the player without the player expressing interest first. If you were nice to him, he would make a pass at you, and you could turn him down, and that would be the end of it. And some fans REALLY did not like that. Some of them asked for a gay toggle; because in a game where there’s mature themes, slavery, death, and none of which we offer toggles for, encountering a gay character? OOH, beyond the pale. They didn’t want to be exposed to homosexuality. And this one fan on our forums posted that he felt too much attention had been spent on women and gays and not enough on straight male gamers. For all of whom he personally spoke, of course. ‘It’s ridiculous that I even have to use a term like Straight Male Gamers, when in the past I would only have to say fans.’ The purpose of the romances in Dragon Age II was to give each type of fan an equal content. Two romances whether you’re male or female, straight or gay. How upsetting for this particular Straight Male Gamer to realize he wasn’t being catered to. This was not equality to him, but an imbalance; an imbalance of the natural order. He did not want equality, he’s not interested in equality. To him, from his perspective, equality means he’s getting less. Less options? Actually, no, the number of options we had in that game was actually the same number of options that he would have received earlier. What was his issue was the idea that there was attention being spent on other groups, which SHOULD have rightly gone to him. Do ALL straight male gamers feel exactly the same as he does? Absolutely not. In the thread where this came up in fact, there was quite a few guys who came in and identified themselves as straight male gamers and said ‘I actually don’t have an issue with that, as long as I receive an experience I enjoy, I think other people should be able to enjoy that too.’ But if you think that Straight Male Gamer Dude is an outlier among our fanbase, you were not paying attention. This is Anita Sarkeesian, she’s the author of the Feminist Frequency, a blog which examines tropes in the depiction of women in popular culture. You’ve probably all heard about this, it’s a matter of public record, she announced a Kickstarter to start a web series to look at the tropes in video games and she was subjected to a campaign of vicious abuse and harassment by male gamers. Why? Well, because she represents to these guys the loss of their coveted place in the gaming audience. Never mind that well all know Goddamn well that they’re still at the top of the totem pole. What they see themselves losing is sole proprietorship over their domain. That’s what it is. Everything that is changing about the gaming industry to accommodate these players, to them, is diluting the purity of gaming which has belonged solely to them. That’s what this is all about. And here’s the thing, I’m pretty certain that our industry fears the scrutiny of those guys way more than the scrutiny of everyone else. Because those are the guys that scream at the top of their lungs, they spend their time on every internet forum, they spend their time making Metacritic reviews. Infuriate them, and you become a target. It’s so much easier to say “Well, that’s what our fans are like. There’s nothing we can do.” And that’s bullshit. They didn’t set the tone, did they? We set the tone. What we put out there, what we permit, whether it’s on our forums, whether it’s on Xbox Live, the things that we permit we are in effect condoning. What happened to Anita, we the industry, are partly responsible for. We’re in part to blame. And if the idea of moral responsibility doesn’t phase you, consider the idea that the time will probably soon come that this will also amount to legal responsibility.
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