Asexuology

[ID: Pink and blue pony with green text reading “idk who needs to hear this but there is no glory in suffering just take the headache medicine”]

I agree so hard - if there’s an uncomplicated, unproblematic way to make yourself more comfortable, just do it

more like netflix and chili amirite

Image ID - person saying “what?” While sat eating from a bowl in front of a laptop. Text says “from your ace friend who thinks this is the ideal way to “Netflix and chill””

Happy Ace Week, everyone!! No matter where you are on the ace spectrum, you are celebrated this week! And if you are learning about asexuality, we hope that this week will prove helpful.

[image description: a purple square with the text "Happy Ace Week!! October 22nd-28th, 2023." There are illustrations of a rainbow in the asexuality pride flag colors (black, gray, white, purple) and a purple star character with a smiling face. The AVEN logo is in the lower left corner.]

It’s always yoga 🤦🏻‍♀️

I love yoga, but it definitely is not making my fibromyalgia go away.

Yep. I literally had an anaesthetist recommend massage to me as I was walking into spinal surgery.

Spicy-brained friends, I would like to propose an update to the very useful ‘if you hate everyone, eat, if everyone hates you, sleep, and if you hate yourself, shower’ mantra to live by

Have you suddenly become a petty, hateful little gremlin who thinks people should face the firing squad for (checks notes) leaving teabags on the counter, breathing loudly, or daring to exist in the same space as you? Perhaps mundane and reasonable requests like ‘hey, we agreed to hang out now, let’s hang out’ make you want to scream and move to a yurt in the woods.

You. Are. Overstimulated.

People talk a lot about being overstimulated, and the physical/mental effects of it. What I haven’t seen is people talking about what it does emotionally, and it took me an embarassingly long time to link up those nitpicky, resentful emotions with the state of overstimulation/meltdown/shutdown.

These feelings do not mean that you’re a bad person! They probably aren’t how you actually feel about the people around you. They probably do mean that your nervous system is at its absolute limit and any request/demand/stimulus is Too Much and taking you into fight or flight territory.

Go lie down in a dark room for an hour, or find somewhere safe and familiar to stim for a bit. If it’s happening a lot, schedule yourself regular low-stimulation shutdown time

Signed: someone who moved in with their nearest and dearest only to have a massive crisis of faith about Suddenly Hating All of Them. I don’t hate them, it’s just overstimulating living with people. If I can spare anyone else a similar 9 months of suspecting that they may actually be a bit of a shit person, then this post is worth it!

you might especially feel this way if someone picks up on your bad mood, but all their kind suggestions make you want to bite and scream. in my experience that’s not because you hate them or even the suggestion, it’s probably because *any* new information or ideas, no matter how gentle, is just Too Many Thoughts. this is when it helps a lot to have a plan in advance, even if the plan is just “take medication” or “go to hidey-hole,” because trying to think of a solution in the moment might be beyond you.

(also if ur overstimulated, it’s often worth checking if you need to eat/sleep/shower as well, because that might be part of what’s overstimulating you!)

chronic pain is also a source of overstimulation

i hate that bad backs aren't viewed as a disability. i hate that "Every back is a bad back" mentality. i hate minimizing back pain by encouraging people to "just take a tylenol". i hate that people who throw out their backs regularly are told to "just sleep it off" or even worse "just exercise, it loosens things up." i hate when people say "my mom has a bad back and she just powers through it."

let people with bad backs be disabled and talk about how much pain we are in, and how much of a disability living with a weak, broken, eroded, degenerative, or paralyzed spine is. let us talk about the horrors and dangers of spinal surgeries. listen to us when we talk about the limited options for pain management and how it is an absolute nightmare to get treated for back pain and receive medication that actually works.

having a bad back is a disability. being in back pain all the time is not trivial. having back pain so bad you can't sit or stand is serious. feeling shooting pain into your legs is a big deal. feeling like no matter how much you stretch or take medicine your back never seems to feel better is a genuine medical issue. listen to disabled people and stop dismissing our pain.

This is a short personal comic/ stream-of-consciousness I made to mark the last day of Deaf Awareness Month (September). It’s based on something that I’ve experienced a lot in my life, but rarely see mention of, even though it’s a big issue. As a mainstreamed deaf person who grew up without sign language or a Deaf community, I had to learn a lot about advocating for myself and my language needs.

Isolation is very alienating and painful. So the next time you meet a deaf person, please, be patient, and respect the mode of communication they choose.

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A six-page comic about deaf identity titled, ‘What Do I Mean When I Talk About Deaf Loneliness. All pages have capitalized text, simple colors, and drawings set on a white background.

The first page shows the title written in black in scratchy, rough lines. The final word, loneliness, is written in thick red marker.

The second page shows countless tiny black circles of the same size scattered over the entire page. The message is written in light blue and reads, ‘I mean not existing in a room full of people.. The letter O in of is filled-in with dark blue.

The third page shows nine stylized speech bubbles, each a different size and shape and which correspond to the words in the text. The message reads, ‘I mean always being talked about but never talking. All the words are light purple, except for the word talking which is a darker violet.

The fourth page shows a large column of text in the middle of the page surrounded by eyes of all different shapes and sizes. The eyes are all staring intensely at the words in the message, which reads, I mean stared at but never seen. All the words are green, with the word seen in light green against a dark green background.

The fifth page shows a tangled mess of black threads interwoven within and around the text, trailing off the page. The message reads, I mean being the joke but not laughing! All the words are in yellow, except for 'being’ and ‘laughing’ in dark orange.

The sixth and final page shows three large, mostly abstract drawings stacked with the text. At the top is a loose, sketchy drawing of the sun in yellow, and at the bottom a swathe of tan brushstrokes indicating sand dunes. The message reads, 'I mean having hands like water in a desert.’ All the words are brown except for the word water, which is bright blue and takes up the center of the page. It fades into a series of blue waves, which morph into various handshapes and letters in American Sign Language that reach up and around the word water, which is also rendered in the ASL fingerspelled alphabet. Finally, the word desert is written in dark brown, and is stylized with scattered brushstrokes to match the sand dunes. End of Image Description.]

We can't ibuprofen our way outta this one boys

This post was meant as a joke but it has come to my attention that literally none of us are ok

This is the energy y'all are giving off in the notes

Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!

Saw this and HAD to repost! I love it so much!!

Just looked up when ace week starts this year and I’m going to be in Disney World that whole week!! It’s going to be the BEST week EVER!!!!

Ace week starts October 24th this year!

All the aces in the house say WHOOP

@matzahball

For a second I didn’t realize it meant “high” as in a stoner–I thought “High Geologist” was like a rank of geologist or something and he was insulted you would challenge him to naming stones

great poast every one👍

I have drawn him…. The High Geologist

Can’t believe he’s ace

He is now And here’s the photo evidence:

hey guys…https://twitter.com/MatthewLillard/status/1322648148364324864 so does this make it canon?

the high geologist has ascended

every time i see this post it gets…. better? but also weirder.

I always gotta reblog the High Geologist once in a while.

I love this too much.

Reblogging for the future

Hey kids, take it from an old forest hag: it's totally okay to half-ass your hobbies

... trace that picture for your journal

... like old cars without knowing how to fix them

... watch the movies without reading the comics

... super glue the part of the model

... learn one (1) way to make a braid

... watch how-to videos for every step of the recipe

... google every second word in that article

... use the automatic setting on your camera

And don't be ashamed. Real life isn't school. The all or nothing mentality is not healthy. Don't gate-keep yourself from stuff that might be fun. Shrug, grin, and hold eye contact with a boomer while you do it. It's good I promise.

I’m currently knitting myself a blanket that will be full of holes, dropped stitches and magically added stitches. That is okay because if i try to do it perfectly, it will never be finished.

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