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Who are your favorite Canon or Head Canon asexual characters. My Favorite is Perry the Platypus
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Ok, I know I typically am the one who gives advice but this time I need it.
I enter a relationship with a heterosexual man recently, he is someone I’ve know for nearly 2 years and when we brought up dating he said he was fine with me being ace. Well lately we’ve been talking about the possibility of marriage. But he and I are worried how our relationship will work when he wants sex and I don’t. As some of you know I am a sex-repulsed ace and have always been worried about being in relationships for that very reason. I really like this guy and he wants to compromise we just don’t know how. I’ll take any help I can get.
Thanks guys,
Asexual in Distress
Hey, sorry to bother you I was just wondering if there's a way you could help me. I suffer from sexual trauma, yet I have never found anyone sexually appealing ever nor have I ever had the desire to be sexually active but I enjoy smut. I literally feel nothing towards genitalia or sexual visuals but when it's like a very discreet drawing or smut I enjoy reading it... although I only do so for psychological reasons. Then again, I made a ton of sexual jokes and have had my own fair share of fantasies. If my partner asks for it, I might indulge in it but I don't look forward to 'finishing'. I don't think I would like to do it more than once in my life, mostly because virginity is a very pushy social construct 😅 honestly idk what I am anymore
First off, you are you, and no matter what label you want or don’t want to use isn’t going to change that as long as you feel comfortable. Secondly, have you looked into graysexual? It’s a subcategory of ace. Not only that there are more than a few asexuals that enjoy smut and have fantasies. Asexuality is a spectrum and no two people experience asexually the same way. I hope that this helped and know you are always welcomed here! (⌒▽⌒)
hi I'm here to ask for some advice if you don't mind. I identify as aro ace but recently I've been having a bit of trouble with the aro part of my identity. I have this friend, and he and I are somewhat close considering the amount of time we've known each other. I think I am starting to develop some kind of feelings for him, but idrk bc I've never had a crush before. I think about him a lot but I don't imagine anything relationship-y, nor do I feel any of the nerves usually associated with a crush. I'm not sure if that is what this is or if I'm just fixating on him bc he's the first proper guy friend I've had. Please help🙏
Well at first glance it sounds like you could possibly be demi-romantic or gray romantic. It’s really hard to give advice on people’s feeling because they are YOUR feelings. And of course it could be that you are just getting more attached to someone you like being friends with and enjoy being around. Maybe others will have input and I wish you the best of luck!
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Hey it’s ace week and you’re local ace has something to say! I’ve been out as ace for 3 years now and it’s still a big part of my identity that I’m proud of so here’s a lil something for those who need it!
Saw this and HAD to repost! I love it so much!!
Just looked up when ace week starts this year and I’m going to be in Disney World that whole week!! It’s going to be the BEST week EVER!!!!
Hiya. I was wondering if you had any advice about coming out as ace to a parent? I kinda accidentally outed myself today and I don't know whether to properly come out or just keep things quiet. I don't think I'd encounter major problems (my mom is fairly accepting of the lgbtq+ community) but I'm still nervous.
Coming out to my mom was nerve racking even though I knew she would be ok with it. I’m not sure what advice I could give you other than, it will be ok. The step of telling parents no matter the stance on lgbtqia+ is always going to be at least a little stressful. So bottom line, you got this! And I hope everything works out!
I’m trying to figure out if i am ace or not, and while i’ve been calling myself ace, i’m not 100% sure what sexual attraction feels like, so can’t fully say if i am or not. i don’t think i want to have sex, but what if the situation presents itself and i realize i do, would that make me not asexual? I’m so confusedddddd. sorry if that wasn’t rly a question lmao
Always remember asexually is a spectrum. I cannot stress this enough, people often question if they’re ace or not because they tend to think it’s a YES sex or NO sex situation. While for some it is, others like demisexual or graysexual it isn’t there is no shame or false representation in saying you’re ace one day and deciding you’re not the next. Asexual is an umbrella term with many subsections. I have questioned many times myself if I am actually ace or if I’m just making a false identity for myself, it was only after starting this blog and meeting all kinds of new ace and a-spec people that I was sure of my identity as an asexual.
Hope this helped! And remember you are always welcome here no matter how you identify!! (⌒▽⌒)
Hoping you and your followers can shed some insight of my dilemma, I don’t like labels but when people ask me what I’m into I don’t know how best to explain it because it’s so complicated, I am sexually attracted to people regardless of gender, but I don’t like sleeping with them, it does nothing for me. I dont want romance or relationship because I can’t emotionally or physically connect to a person. Yet I’m aroused when reading/seeing sexy times content.. I also get intrusive sexual thoughts and have a high libido which I need to masturbate to take care of, I don’t enjoy penetration or external stimulation but I have to do it in order to satisfy my needs. Is this all crazy? It is, it’s like I enjoy the idea of being with someone but not the actual act? Thank you for your time and your followers 💚💚💚
- Libidoist asexual
A term used to describe an asexual person who experiences sexual feelings that are satisfied through self-stimulation or masturbation.
- Pomosexual
A term (not necessarily an identity) used to refer to those who reject sexuality labels or don’t identify with any of them.
There are a couple terms that may be right for you and of course if anyone has any input they are free to share. I hope this helped but no matter what you are welcome here!!! (⌒▽⌒)
Hello wine aunt!!! (｡･o･｡)ﾉ idk if you still remember me from June tho. I have a question, thought's on demi romantics/sexuals?
Hi!!! Demi romantics/sexuals are as valid and apart of the LGBTQIA+ community as anyone and all are welcome here despite sexuality, religion, gender identity, etc. I will always respect your opinion as long as it doesn’t disrespect someone’s existence.
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Um...I was looking through the s*x bot blogs that I blocked to see what's so great about it...but (sorry if this gets to personal but) I felt something...physical...happen to me that's never been felt before.
Through past research, turns out it's a physical reaction to things like that nastiness, and I'm scared that it means that I may like it, but I don't mentally or emotionally. Now I'm questioning my asexuality and I don't know how to cope.
...please help...?
Sorry for taking so long to answer. I was getting a few others opinions on how to best word my response, that being said he is my take.
In talking with others it is normal for some aces to feel something when looking at sexual content. But that does not make you any less asexual. Asexual is defined as not experiencing sexual attraction towards other people, and since in sounds like you don’t have that attraction or desire for sex I would say you are in fact asexual. Now that being said if you felt the desire to have sex after seeing such content maybe ace might not be the right label for you, but that just means you have a little more soul searching to do. Regardless you are always welcome here and I will support you no matter what!
I really hope this helps you and if you ever need anything my dm is always open.
I want you guys to know I’m not at all ignoring your asks. I give every answer a lot of thought in hopes of Brighton’s your day or helping you guys in the best way possible. I hope this little community keeps growing and we can all help each other!!
haii I need some advice...
I’m questioning wether I’m ace. I don’t know if this would be on the ace spec, but basically I fluctuate a lot where I go from being very hyper sexual and really wanting a sexual relationship. to no sexual attraction at all. It can be for brief moments or months but I don’t know what to call it.
I am by no means an expert having said that…it sounds like ace spikes. Spikes of sexual or non sexual attraction. And yes it is on the ace spectrum, and is considered apart of the asexual community. There might be people with more info in the comments/reply. Hope that helped （＾∇＾）