I don't say this to rag on anyone who personally views their own attraction/love/whatever this way, but like. I feel like upholding the idea that sexual attraction must always be called lust and isn't an actual form of love is just really sex negative. Like hmmm I wonder what it is about this one form of attraction that might cause you to refuse to consider it as a form of love. Could it be the idea that love is always "pure" and "wholesome" and sex is never either of those things? Could it be the idea that sexual attraction is dirty and sinful and love is neither of those things, so therefore we have to call it by a different word? And RIP to y'all who don't experience sexual attraction as an emotional form of attraction but I'm different. My sexual attraction is very emotional and I will call it love if I so wish – and honestly, I dare say the romantic attraction I've felt in the past has been far more physical than any sexual attraction I've ever experienced. Do not presume that everyone will define their attraction the same way. I mean, c'mon; this is the "doesn't experience attraction in mainstream ways if at all" community. Don't try to make new rules about attraction or drag in all the toxic + sex negative shit we want to do away with.
