I'm very, very sorry. Unfortunately, the only real help I can offer you is to refer you to people who are trained to assist with bereavement: in the UK, we have Sudden, which helps people cope with sudden deaths, and if you're not from the UK, the National Bereavement Service also has an international number.

Excerpts from Tombstone Humour, by Richard De’Ath (link)

and we were living flames

Dale Favier, What People Really Look Like

Virginia Woolf, The Waves

Sally Benson, Stories of the Gods and Heroes; ‘The Myth of Prometheus’

Buddhist monk Thích Quảng Đức’s protest against anti-Buddhist legislation by self-immolation in Vietnam in 1963, photographed by Malcolm Browne

Mitski, A Burning Hill

Passenger, All The Little Lights

Anne Carson, interviewed by The Guardian

Daredevil (2015–2018), 1x05: World on Fire

Richard Siken, Straw House, Straw Dog

Wilfred Owen, in a love letter to Siegfried Sassoon, taken from My Dear Boy: Gay Love Letters Through the Centuries

Magnificent Century (2011–2014), Episode 99

Pablo Neruda, Ode To A Naked Beauty

i think i am finally clean

N. Judgeo and K. P. Moalusi, ‘My secret: The social meaning of HIV/AIDS stigma’

Charles Kingsley, The Water Babies

Naomi Alderman, The Power

Francis Bacon, The Advancement of Learning

April 24th 1991: Diana, Princess of Wales, holds and plays with an HIV positive baby in Faban Hostel, Sao Paulo

Dead Gay Son, from Heathers: The Musical

Leviticus 10:10, Holy Bible (NIV)

N. Judgeo and K. P. Moalusi, ‘My secret: The social meaning of HIV/AIDS stigma’

Wrabel, The Village

Sam Wall, ‘Drop My Body On The Steps Of The FDA: Death, Queer Activism & Advocacy During The HIV/AIDS Crisis’

The Pet Shop Boys, It’s A Sin

Charles Kingsley, The Water Babies

It’s A Sin (2021), 1x05

N. Judgeo and K. P. Moalusi, ‘My secret: The social meaning of HIV/AIDS stigma’