Being Trans Without Dysphoria Masterpost

Yes, you can be trans without dysphoria. Regardless of if it’s because you’ve transitioned to a point where you don’t feel it anymore, if you never had it to begin with or if you’ve got a neurodivergence that prevents you from feeling it.

I’ve decided to gather up the links I have saved about it in this post. But if someone has more resources and information about it, feel free to add more.

And please don’t start drama on this post.

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vaspider

psychotic-gerard

love seeing revisionism in the wild “free the nipple never meant you can walk around topless every where that’s still sexual harassment it just meant for like breastfeeding and stuff”no it literally means you should be able to walk around topless anywhere because get this. breasts aren’t fucking sexual organs.

roguebombshell

I remember when I was about 12, I watched a show on TLC that followed people as they got somewhat uncommon medical procedures.

There was one episode with a trans woman getting different gender-affirming operations, including breast implants. It showed the procedure, and (what I found so fascinating that it's stuck with me for decades), as soon as the doctor put the implant in, a censor blur popped up on the nipple.

And you just know there was a meeting between the TLC lawyers and the editors and producers of the show to discuss what the difference was between a "man nipple" (can be shown) and a "woman nipple" (no no must obscure, 'tis naughty). And they decided that as soon as the implant goes in and the nipple has more mass behind it, that's the moment when it becomes a woman's nipple and must be hidden to comply with TV rules.

But it's the same nipple. On the same person. I know what it looks like; I just saw it. But TV and obscenity rules are rules, and the rules say woman nipple = sexual and therefore explicit, but man nipple = neutral, just fine.

"Free the Nipple" was calling out arbitrary bullshit like that, because someone just existing with their body parts should not be considered obscene, and the double standard that men can be topless but women can't is so blatantly ridiculous. All nipples are just nipples. If you get turned on or bothered by them, that's on you.

moddeydhoo

Literally not the owner's problem if you get a boner about it.

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mikkeneko

Doctors saw more younger men seeking vasectomies after Roe vs. Wade was overturned

After the Supreme Court overturned Roe v. Wade nearly two years ago, doctors started seeing more young adults seeking vasectomies or getting

Los Angeles Times

After the Supreme Court overturned Roe vs. Wade nearly two years ago, paving the way for states to usher in new restrictions on abortion, doctors started seeing more young adults seeking vasectomies or getting their tubes tied, emerging research has found. An analysis by University of Utah researchers, released as an abstract in the Journal of Urology, found that after Dobbs vs. Jackson Women’s Health Organization, a rising share of vasectomy patients were under the age of 30. ... And at Ohio State University, urologists surveyed patients about why they chose to get vasectomies and found that after the Dobbs decision, they were more likely to cite concerns about abortion access or say that “they did not want to bring children into the current political climate.”

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genderkoolaid

Because I was now a man, I could not speak about what it was like to be a woman. Because I had been a woman, I could never really speak about what it was like to be a man. Do the math: I could not speak. It was a double erasure, a double bind, in which every experience I had was false, and so nothing I said was credible. I could no longer derive authority from my experiences before transition, and shouldn’t even cite them — I had never “really” been a woman, so those things hadn’t happened — but those experiences could always be weaponized against me to prove I wasn’t “really” the man I claimed to be. They call it erasure, when this happens. I wasn’t prepared for how literal the term was. Every day, I could feel myself disappear.

— Eraserhead: On writer's block and being a gender traitor by Jude Doyle

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koushirouizumi

shamebats

[ID: A post on r/TransMasc by u/amonaroll.

Title: "how did you know you wanted to take T and not just be a masc woman/person?"

Body text: "i'm really conflicted right now, because i don't hate my body or voice, but i feel like i do want more of the effects of T"

Comment by u/publicinjury: "i didn't hate my either, sure it could have been different but oh man, did the idea of a more masculine body, more body hair, facial hair, yeah <3

The thing is; you can also be a masculine woman on T if that's your vibe.

gender, pronouns, and presentation are all yours to fuck around with and find what vibes with you most!"

The post has 21 upvotes and the comment has 22. /End ID]

#trans #trans informative #transgender #transmasculine #transmac #transmasc informative #transmasc positivity #trans men #men #hormones #testosterone #lgbtqiapn #queerness #trans identity #health informative #do not derail

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izzyizumi

r2x2

thatdiabolicalfeminist

[Image description: A hand painted posterboard sign at what looks like a protest. Sign is in all caps and reads, "HRT is older than Viagra, Lasik, and heart transplants. Stop calling it "experimental" /end ID]

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koushirouizumi

toastpotent

Anonymous asked:

wait wait can you want a dick but not in a guy way but like just to have one???

toastpotent answered:

you can do whatever you want forever

mycroftrh

One of the biggest influences on the way I currently see gender and sex and transgender identity was one tiny sentence

When I was talking to my top surgeon, he mentioned that he'd done top surgery on a butch lesbian. She identified fully as a woman, she just wanted a flat chest.

And that... blew my mind. My own desire for a dick and a flat chest is in a guy way, but the freedom of knowing that it doesn't HAVE to be a guy way, that you can just want a body and have it -

That not only is gender presentation in clothes and so forth mix and match, you can treat your body that way too, not only does your gender not have to 'match' your assigned body your chosen gender doesn't have to 'match' your chosen body because all that really matters, on any of it, is what feels right to you -

I was full up on "you can be trans without wanting to change x part of your body" but learning that that could also apply the other way around was what blew my mind and shifted my whole understanding of identity.

#important #lgbtqiapn #lgbtqiapn issues #trans informative #trans #transgender #transmasc #transfemme #surgery

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genderkoolaid

Tranny. Many people don’t know the history of the word, they assume it was an assigned hate term or slur along the lines of the “n” word. That’s not how it happened. Tranny was invented by us in Sydney, Australia in the 1970s where drag was a big deal, and still the best drag shows ever are in Sydney, Australia – they’re amazing. So a lot of trans-identified women who were assigned male at birth did drag, that’s how you made your living. And so they were transsexuals, transvestites, drag queens, and they were all doing drag to make money. They all bickered amongst each other who is better than who, “Well the drag queens are better,” “No, the transsexuals are better.” “You are all freaks, we’re better.” And on and on and on. But they worked together and they were family together, so they came up with a word that would say family and that was tranny. In Australia they do the diminutive, that’s how they come up with words. So tranny. I learned the word in the mid-1980s, late 1980s from my drag mom in San Francisco, Doris Fish, who was the city’s preeminent drag queen and she’d come from Sydney. And she schooled me in this word tranny, she said, “This way it means we’re family, darling.” “Thank you mama.” [...] So we used it and we were trannies together. And F to M was just beginning to start, the trans men were just beginning to become visible, Lou Sullivan was a neighbor of mine around the corner, and he was the first big out trans man, wrote his book. So trans men and cross dressers . . . cross dressers were also family. Transsexuals, we were all trannies and that felt good. That got into the sex industry and became a genre – there was tranny porn, there were tranny sex workers – chicks with dicks, she-males. [...] And, my only guess is that people who . . . because the only way they would have found out about the word is if they were watching tranny porn or having been with a tranny sex worker and then hated themselves so much that they turned it into a curse word. So it’s not really technically correct to say we’re reclaiming a word – it was always ours. So, many people mistake the word for the hatred behind the word and, in my generation, and I’m sure in future generations of trans people, tranny is going to be a radicalized, sexualized identity of trans in the same way that faggot is a prideful identity in the gay male community – not all gay men are faggots, but those who are are proudly fags and those who are dykes are proudly dykes within the lesbian community, trannies are proudly tranny within the transgender community. Does that mean we can’t call ourselves that because some trans woman does not want to be called a tranny? No. I’m going to keep calling myself a tranny. To the trans woman who gets called tranny, I’m sorry – as soon as . . . you’ve got to look at why you’re getting called tranny and if you don’t pass, you’re going to be read as a transgender person and then you fall back on the cultural view of trans folk which is freak, disgusting, not worth living, we can hurt you. It has nothing to do with the word, it has everything to do with the cultural attitude. So the word has stirred up a shit storm, but it’s not the word.

— Kate Bornstein on the word "tranny" in this oral history from the Digital Transgender Archive

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koushirouizumi

doubleca5t

Also the form of estrogen they prescribed trans women in the 90s, Premarin, looked like this.

And lest there be any remaining doubt.. remember the blue pill? The pill Neo could have taken to forget the truth, bury his troubles and go back to living a normal life, without fearing a system that wanted to destroy him? The pill that was easy, perhaps cowardly according to some, but comfortable? Here’s Prozac.

For a trans woman in the 90s, where the choice was be safe, suppress, cope, and pretend everything is still how it was, or embrace the danger, accept the truth, realize your full potential, and transition into a world that still thinks you’re a joke and would rather have you dead…. well. The metaphor is pretty fucking clear.

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queerplatonicpositivity

elalmadelmar

One of the things that’s started troubling me more and more about discourse online, and particularly queer discourse (since that’s what I’m most embedded in) is how restrictive we get about acceptable/unacceptable terms.

This is something that can and does hurt people within the community. I think it can be a little invisible to those within the online community that our terms, our way of talking about these terms, and the terms we define as outdated or inaccurate, can change very, very quickly. Online discussions, and especially decentralized online discussions like tumblr or twitter that rely on spreading a post through a network of connected individuals rather than a centralized discussion space – these don’t reach everyone at the same time.

Why is this bothering me? I recently wound up in a discussion about older trans folks who use the term ‘transsexual’ to describe themselves.

Now, ‘transsexual’ is a depreciated term. It’s not current. Someone who uses it is probably going to get a side-eye from any queer folks within earshot. But it’s also an identity term for people who have fought long and hard for their identities. And those people are still here, still with us. Who are we, younger and more online, surrounded by our communities, to tell older trans folks, the ones who didn’t have the internet to answer their questions and connect them with others, who had to risk it all to visit each other in person or forge their way in painful solitude for years or decades, what they can and cannot call themselves?

I think it’s good that there is online discussion. I think it’s great that we can continue to refine our language and the way we think about our identity and our community. Adding to the language we have to define ourselves is no bad thing.

My plea, instead, is that we not subtract from that language. If someone feels that ‘transsexual’ is the term that best describes them, let them have it! If a trans woman feels that “MTF” is the term that most accurately describes her life journey, who am I to crawl up her ass with a lecture about how that language invalidates people who feel they never were their AGAB and don’t have a ‘to’ of any kind? It’s not about them! She’s talking about herself, and telling her that her own self-chosen term is outdated or even transphobic (!!!!) is bullshit of the highest order.

The weakness of progressivism is the tendency to turn on each other, and to spend so much time fighting amongst each other over minor details that we lose sight of our goals that, ultimately, align. Fighting over the precise connotations of different terms blinds us to the fight for genuine freedom to be ourselves.

Terms for the broad community are likewise never going to sit exactly right with the entire community. Some terms are going to be better than others, of course, and get wider acceptance – but there’s no universally accepted, universally identified-with language. We do the best with what we have, and it’s important to remember that not everyone has access to the exact same information – the same tumblr posts, the same twitter feeds, the same subreddits, the same Facebook groups – that you might have seen. And that does not make people who haven’t seen those exact same posts/discussions/etc ignorant, misinformed, or malicious.

We do the best with what we have. Language is an imperfect tool, and all the more imperfect for its uneven transmission. If a person says “transman” when you feel they should be saying “trans man” – does correcting them further the movement? Does attacking them strengthen our resistance against the legions of people who want to see us crushed down and forced to conform to the M or F slapped on our birth certificates?

Accept that there is a broad, diverse range of ways to talk about our experiences, our identities, and our struggles. There is no one right way to be trans, no universal lesbian experience, no single bi or pan definition that covers everyone precisely. There is no official measure of gay.

The language we use matters. But our solidarity matters more. Choose the battles that will advance our freedom, rather than tearing down your siblings in arms.

#lgbtqiapn #lgbtqiapn identities #queerness #queer terminology #queer community #queer history #trans history #trans #transgender #transsexual #trans umbrella relevant #language #gay #mlm #wlw #lesbian #bi #pan #mspec #language semantics #english semantics #english issues #english #good commentary #*DO NOT DERAIL #(It should not take even this much explanation to explain such simple concepts to people but unfortunately it does)#(when I was growing up I legitimately knew others MY AGE using 'transsexual' because 'transgender' wasnt in total common usage yet)#(including ones like genderqueer and queer {but in terms of trans community and 'transsexual' specifically)#(and online was primitive and we were all still on PERSONALIZED WEBSHRINES. WIKIPEDIA BARELY EXISTED. GOOGLE WAS JUST GETTING STARTED)#(I'm not about to go tell a family friend or acquaintance theyre using 'transsexual' wrong WHEN THEYVE BEEN using such identities for YEARS)