“For that reason, I can understand why you’re so loyal to Tsuna, who was the first one to opened your heart. But if you open your heart only to Tsuna, all you’re doing is putting the pressure on Tsuna. In the first place, a right-hand man is suppose to be… The leader of the Guardians whom the boss can count on, isn’t it? You’re suppose to pull the Guardians together! Instead, you’ve turned away from them. What kind of rubbish is that! Right now, you have no right to call yourself his right-hand man.”

— Yamamoto to Gokudera, Katekyo Hitman Reborn!

#yamakoutai inspiration #chai tsuna #katekyo hitman reborn #khr: quotes #khr: manga #khr: manga timeline #khr: tyl arc #right had man #takeshi yamamoto #tsuna #tsunayoshi sawada #hayato gokudera #8027 #yamatsuna #5927 #gokutsuna #802759 #vongola #toxic monogamy culture #toxic monogamy #internalized arophobia #{TAICHI} had a habit of {ENTERING} PEOPLEs HEARTS #{YAMATO} but if you open your heart {ONLY TO} {TAKERU}+{TAICHI}#{YAMAKOU} ALL your doing is PUTTING PRESSURE ON {TAKERU} O R {TAICHI}#{KOUYAMA} And You ? Who do YOU Open up YOUR Heart To?#{Novels Koushiro} -> {Novels Yamato} youre UNFIT to CALL YOURSELF A 'LEADER'#{Novels Yamato} -> {Novels Koushiro} One of Taichis {F A N S}#{Novels YamaKouTai} You KNOW Thats Not True #{YamaKouTai} Please say '{Gomen}' {Sorry} to Yamatosan for Me {Perhaps Drop the 'nasai'}#(THIS DAMN SCENE GAVE ME SO MANY FEELS AGAIN BUT ITS *NOT* IN THE DIRECTION WIDER KHR FANDOM WANTS ME TO HAVE IT IN- *ANYWAY POLYSHIPPING*)

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koushirouizumi

Closed triads will not spare you from having to unlearn toxic monogamy. I think there is a misconception, especially amongst newcomers to polyamory, that as long as their partners were only dating people they were also dating, they’ll never be jealous. After all, they can’t be scared that their metamour is going to steal their partner away if their metamour also has a romantic reason to stay. Toxic monogamy says you must constantly be defending your partner from the attempts of the world to steal them from you. As long as the only person with romantic or sexual access to your parnter is also your parnter, you can have several partners without having to unpack that defensive mindset, you can just switch to defending them as a pair.

But it doesn’t work like that. If you don’t unpack toxic monogamy, even your closed relationships won’t survive. Toxic monogamy won’t spare you because your relationship is closed. You’ll feel jealous when they’re having alone time together, you’ll feel uncomfortable when they kiss each other if they don’t then immediately go over and kiss you, toxic monogamy will whisper in your brain late at night that your partners love each other more than they love you, strangers will tell you that your partners are one day going to leave you to be monogamous and if you haven’t unpacked why that’s bullshit, you’re going to believe it, even if only a little. There is no way of being polyamorous where your own toxic monogamy will declare you one of the good ones. You must unpack it now or when you are finally in that relationship you’ve always longed for, you’ll fuck it up.

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izzyizumi

nankingdecade

What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture"

the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love
the idea that a sufficiently intense love is enough to overcome any practical incompatibilities
the idea that you should meet your partner’s every need, and if you don’t, you’re either inadequate or they’re too needy
the idea that a sufficiently intense love should cause you to cease to be attracted to anyone else
the idea that commitment is synonymous with exclusivity
the idea that marriage and children are the only valid teleological justifications for being committed to a relationship
the idea that your insecurities are always your partner’s responsibility to tip-toe around and never your responsibility to work on
the idea that your value to a partner is directly proportional to the amount of time and energy they spend on you, and it is in zero-sum competition with everything else they value in life
the idea that being of value to a partner should always make up a large chunk of how you value yourself

chien-espagnol

This is excellent

even-the-losers

I’m literally gonna reblog this on every single tumblr I have