aph-japan reblogged
that autism feel when someone starts talking negatively about an old special interest, and even though you’re not that into the subject anymore the negativity still hurts
aph-japan reblogged
Bullying jokes are starting to become a legit trigger for me.
Experts have started calling bullying “peer abuse,” because the trauma left is comparable to (other) forms of abuse, so let’s try that. Let’s look at those lolfunny posts and replace the word “bullying” with “abuse.”
Would you say someone you find annoying should’ve been abused more as a kid?
Would you brag about abusing people you don’t like?
Would you say that we need to start abusing members of a fandom you dislike or think is cringey?
Would you joke about abusing people in middle school?
Would you say abuse is necessary to train people into being "normal”? Would say that society needs abuse to keep people from doing things you don’t like?
Would you say someone, under any circumstances, deserves to be abused?
I’m not saying it’s never okay to joke about painful things. I’ve joked about my own history of abuse (peer and other) before. I’m just asking people to keep this in mind. Because a lot of the jokes seem to rely on the idea that bullying itself isn’t a big deal, that it’s just a funny thing that happens to weird people who probably deserve it. And that’s not okay.
#starklore#blog psa#fandom#fandom issues#fandom negativity#fandom harassment#harassment#bullying#cyberbullying#peer abuse#abuse#physical abuse#emotional abuse#toxicity#toxic relationships#toxic groups#toxic fandoms#*NOT UP For Debate I am just reblogging in Agreement#anti cringe culture#cringe culture is ableist#fandom ableism#cringe culture#autism issues#autism relevant#ableist insults#abusive therapies#('Light ribbing' is One Thing)#(THIS Is Another)#things i hardblock over#things i cut people off over
aph-japan reblogged
you are allowed to terminate toxic relationships
you are allowed to walk away from people who hurt you
you are allowed to be angry and selfish and unforgiving
you don’t owe anyone an explanation for taking care of yourself
#bonesofbirch#actuallygad#actuallymentallyill#mental health#mental health informative#mental health psa#mental health affirmations#affirmations#toxicity#toxic relationships#toxic friendship#toxic groups#toxic fandoms#fandom issues#fandom relevant#safety#internet safety#*Reblogging for the Commentary#*Please respect the Positivity Intent#*NOT UP FOR DEBATE#THIS#(I Am Just reblogging in Agreement)
girlwithapomegranate-deactivate
I think it’s really cruel to continue to hang around/ interact with people that have severely hurt your friends. im not talking about petty arguments but it really says something if your disregard the pain someone has caused a person close to you all for the sake of socializing and your image.
#me#same#mental health#mental health relevant#life#life issues#friendship#friendship issues#toxicity#toxic relationships#toxic friendship#toxic groups#toxic fandoms#cruelty#emotional abuse#emotional abuse is still abuse#*Reblogging for the Commentary#(...I've basically just taken to hardblocking people now when this happens)#(and they can)#deal with it#(Sorry but no I will not continue to hang out with people that have severely hurt or antagonized my friends)#(and especially not if youve done it to myself)#*DO NOT REBLOG TO ARGUE OR DEBATE OR I WILL BLOCK
aph-japan reblogged
it’s not normal to be in a friendship with someone where you’re legitimately terrified that they’ll find out you ship a certain ship or like reading certain kinds of fic because you know they’d turn on you, get verbally violent with you, ostracize you, and direct others to cause you harm as well if they knew.
that’s not how friends are supposed to make you feel in a healthy friendship.
that’s how abusers make their victims feel, full stop.
#fandom#fandom issues#standoms#fandom harassment#harassment#bullying#cyberbullying#peer abuse#emotional manipulation#shipwars#shipping#shipping issues#fanfiction#headcanons#toxicity#toxic fandoms#toxic friendship#toxic groups#toxic fangroups#emotional abuse#emotional abuse is still abuse#controlling behavior#people who act like this towards you are not your friends!!!#things i hardblock over#things i cut people off over#*DO NOT reblog to Discourse TM or I WILL BLOCK#(Points.)#(It Should Not HAVE To Be Said And Yet .)#(AKA I'm getting very verY F*CKING FED UP AND Done with a LOT of my fandoms)#(I used to say Id never leave a fandom I genuinely loved the canon for but I'm starting to realize.. THIS Is Genuinely Not F*cking Worth It)