life tip: whenever someone says “I know your father” always respond with “I’m sorry to hear that.” it catches them off guard but they’re always amused. another favorite is “yep, he’s a character.”

teaktty

"carnally?"

froody

knowing my dad, the answer is probably yes on that one

#...#ME #dad tag #parents #parents tag #family tag #lmao #sigh

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koushirouizumi

progressivejudaism

Anonymous asked:

If an interfaith couple gets married (one Jewish, one whatever else), would their male guests be obligated to wear kippahs? Even if they aren't themselves Jewish?

progressivejudaism answered:

Hi there,

That’s a great question - one that depends on a variety of factors. (Please note, as this is a Progressive space I have swapped your original usage of the biological sex “male” to the gender as to be more inclusive of this imaginary couple’s wedding guests.

Factor #1: Is this a Jewish Wedding? Are there only Jewish officiant(s)? Will any other faith traditions be included- making this a wedding that is really not a Jewish wedding? If this isn’t a Jewish wedding (and yes, a Jew and a non-Jew can be married in a Jewish wedding), but an interfaith ceremony in which other faith traditions are included - why would you enforce people to wear Jewish ritual items? (Unless.. see factor 3)

Factor #2: If this is a Jewish Wedding, what is the theology of the officiating clergy? Would the rabbi(s) and/or cantor(s) normally police, men to wear kippot at their services? Would they police or encourage all genders to wear kippot at services?

Factor #3: Assuming that the clergy is comfortable with the couple making their own choices, what does the couple want? Would the couple feel more comfortable in this holy moment for their guests to wear kippot? Does it make a difference to them? If you grew up as a Conservative or Orthodox Jew (movements which discourage Jewish and non-Jewish marriage), would you feel more comfortable carrying the tradition that you (and/or your partner) grew up with having people wear kippot?

Factor #4: Think about the Jewish person’s Jewish family, how do they feel about this whole issue? Although you aren’t throwing a wedding for your family, there are certain traditions that’s absence might make them feel uncomfortable. Do you think Grandpa Alfred or Savta Sid, mom or dad, of Great Uncle Joe would feel uncomfortable if this custom wasn’t encouraged at your simcha (celebration)? How can you make this day both special for you and your partner, while also making sure that it is as easy as possible?

Bonus Factor: A beautiful American tradition for both Bnai Mitzvah and Jewish Weddings is the inclusion of customized kippot. Beyond personalizing the design to fit you and your partner’s style and your wedding theme, a little inscription from your event is written on inside of the design. Imagine the memories that these mementos will bring for your guests ten, fifteen, or even thirty years in the future when lighting their Hanukkah candles, or when grabbing a kippa on their way out to shul. On a personal note, my family’s collection of Bnai Mitzvah and wedding kippot is extremely holy to all of us!

I hope that this helps!

Shabbat Shalom!

PJ

#reform tag #parents tag #jewish #jewish positivity #jewish references #writing #writing references #jewish resources #resources #jewish characters #jewish weddings #jewish cultural wear #kippah #interfaith relationships #interfaith dialogue #interfaith families #interfaith weddings #interfaith relationships positivity #orthodox judaism #orthodox issues #sensitivity reading #goyim DO NOT DERAIL #judaism IS NOT XTIANITY #judaism IS NOT JUDEO XTIAN #interfaith households #reform judaism is not the same as orthodox judaism #please for the love of gd dont make me have to do endless breakdowns of this for you {if youre *kind* mutual ill maybe try to find things}#({For the Record: Grandmas Fam was mainly REFORM thus my OWN parents had a wedding in line with REFORM VIEWS})#({i.e. Mom did wear a more 'modest' dress *that Grandma specifically helped PICKED OUT}+PAID FOR Mom* but ive seen pics it was GORGEOUS)#(Mom could have EASILY turned down that decision but ENJOYED IT+Im pretty sure we still HAVE the dress somewhere in storage...)

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hondakiku

straightgirlscreams

having undiagnosed autism is a sacred tradition that has been passed down in my family for generations

#ME #(except im)#early diagnosed #early diagnosed autistic #(but)#family #environmental and genetic #genetics #parents #parents tag

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burgerspeople

someone was going off about how if student loans get forgiven then the next generation will get to go to college for free while I had to pay for it and I’m like ??? Okay??? that literally doesn’t bother me at all!!! let them go for free!! student debt sucks!

sailoreuterpe

THE ENTIRE POINT OF HAVING CHILDREN AND HAVING DESCENDENTS IS TO MAKE THINGS EASIER FOR THEM. EVOLUTION THRIVES ON SOLVING PROBLEMS. IF YOU'RE MAD THAT YOU HAD IT WORSE, YOU'RE A SELFISH ROTTING WALNUT.

vaspider

People forget that until Reagan, state schools did not charge tuition. My parents were IL residents. They went to the University of Illinois & paid only their room and board, books, and student activity fee.

The reason that schools started charging tuition was expressly because conservatives figured out that too many of "the wrong kind of people" were getting educations. They feared that an "overeducated" populace would remove them from power, and so Reagan pushed for CA to end free tuition at state schools when he was governor. Other states followed, and here we are.

https://newuniversity.org/2023/02/13/ronald-reagans-legacy-the-rise-of-student-loan-debt-in-america/

In an interview with the San Francisco Chronicle, Reagan’s education advisor, Roger A. Freeman stated, “We are in danger of producing an educated proletariat. That’s dynamite! We have to be selective on who we allow [to go through higher education].” This belief has shaped higher education to become a privilege of the upper class, with tuition serving as a barrier to those from working-class backgrounds.

This isn't an accident. This is very much a purposeful effort to keep the proles uneducated, in so many words.

My parents got free college. My kids should, too.

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beenovel

Ok I’m having a slight mental breakdown about the sun the last couple days (idk what’s happening but every time the sun touches me I get these horrible intrusive thoughts like “I’m not wearing sunscreen, my skin is going to peel off my body, I’m going to get melanoma and die of sun cancer”) so to reassure myself and spread awareness here are the signs of melanoma and when to get it checked by a doctor: