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not to be Controversial but there’s literally nothing wrong with shipping characters or reading fiction about them for no other reason than because you think they’re hot together.
there are a lot of reasons people might read certain fic and doing it to get off is one of them. there’s nothing wrong with that. erotica is a genre, both in fanfic and published original work. it has a purpose. it may not be the same purpose that other genres have but the idea that a person (read: a woman, let’s be real, women and people who are perceived to be women are who this shit is mostly directed at) reading fiction for sexual or masturbatory purposes is somehow inherently immoral or inferior or whatever is some throwback conservative nonsense that exists for no other reason than to shame people for their sexuality and having sexual desire, particularly if those things don’t match up to the purity driven cisheteronormative standards of what Proper Sexual Conduct & Feelings should be according to the people doing the shaming.
normalize polyamorous people having families and raising children together. destroy the idea that the nuclear family is the default, that it’s the best option for everyone, that it’s the only option that “counts” and that any other kind of family is automatically unhealthy and ‘bad’.
real quer people do not exist only to be “good representation” for the entire queer community.
a queer person who fits queer stereotypes is not “bad rep” — they’re a real human being who is being who they are and living their own life. it isn’t their job to be anything that they’re not just so that you, other queer people, or the community will “look good”.
having consensual sex with someone without being romantically involved with them is not inherently wrong, immoral, predatory, abusive, or anything negative at all.
this does not change if the person having the sex is aromantic.
sex shaming aromantic people for having sex with people they’re not romantically attracted to or involved with is not any more acceptable than sex shaming someone who is not aromantic for having sex without romantic attachment would be.
if you’re happy to shame aromantic people where you would never shame people who aren’t aromantic for doing the same thing, then you’re arophobic. and if you’re happy to shame anyone who has sex with people they’re not romantically involved with, then you need to drag your puritanical ass back to wherever you docked the mayflower and sail the hell away – either way, you’re the one in the wrong here.
kindly fuck off if you refuse to accept certain lgbtqia+ identities because “they’re an embarrassment to the lgbt community” tbh.
it’s not any lgbtqia+ person’s job to live their life as a walking, talking spokesperson for the community.
it’s not any lgbtqia+ person’s responsibility to monitor their words and behavior and “tone down” their identity so that they’ll come off as more palatable to cishet people.
it’s not fair to ANY lgbtqia+ person to expect them to be someone or something that they’re not in order to cater to cishet people’s sensibilities of what is/is not acceptable.
some of y'all care so much about how the lgbtqia+ community “looks” that you’re willing to hurt other lgbtqia+ people and cut them off from their own people to make it “look better”. you’re willing to hurt lgbtqia+ people in order to appease cishet people because you care more about how cishets view the community than you do about the well-being of the people in it.
your priorities are fucked up.
people who claim they’re against singular they pronouns because “i just respect grammar!” when singular they has been used for literally hundreds of years and evidence of that can be found with a 5-second google search will never cease to be tiresome.
don’t throw nonbinary people with “stranger” gender identities than yours under the bus
don’t throw nonbinary people who use pronouns you think are “weird” under the bus
don’t throw nonbinary people who use “too many” labels or not the “right” labels under the bus
being nonbinary yourself does not in any way mean that you can’t be nbphobic or hold gross views about other nonbinary people and being nonbinary yourself does not mean that your nbphobia is somehow more acceptable than if had come from a cis person.
stop trying to play at respectability politics and being harmful to nonbinary people you think aren’t the ‘right kind’ of nonbinary. stop throwing your fellow nonbinary people under the bus in some BS effort to distance yourself from them and make people who aren’t nonbinary take your own nonbinary identity more seriously.
gatekeeping who can/can’t be nonbinary or what nonbinary identities are ‘valid enough’ isn’t okay even when you’re nonbinary yourself. your prejudice isn’t justified just because it’s aimed at your own people.
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a person who is questioning their gender identity is allowed to say that they’re not comfortable with their birth name or that they don’t like certain pronouns. a person who is questioning is allowed to try new names and pronouns and ways of presentation. just because they are questioning does not mean that it’s okay for you to treat them disrespectfully and call them things they’ve said they’re uncomfortable with.
“you don’t know what you are yet so why does it matter if i keep calling you by that name?” isn’t a good excuse.
“you don’t know if that’s how you’re going to dress from now on so i can say how much i hate it all i want” is a shit thing to do.
a person questioning their gender identity does not make them someone who it’s okay to be an ass to. respect people who are questioning their gender identity the same as you would anyone else.
when we talk about how people are allowed to learn from their mistakes, admit they were wrong, and grow to be a better person that 100% has to apply to older adults as well as young kids/teens.
there’s no age where it’s too late for someone to change.
there’s no age where once a person has grown past it they are no longer allowed to ever make mistakes or make up for them.
there’s no age where once a person has grown past it they are no longer to ever have any change in their beliefs.
change and growth are not things that only young people can do and they are not things that we should only support in young people. holding something some said 5, 10, 20 years ago against them when they’ve already apologized for it and moved on from it is just as fucked up if you’re doing it to someone in their 20s or someone in their 40s or older.
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i keep seeing people who are against nonbinary identities snarkily mention the possibility of ‘infinite genders’ like the fact that there is so much variety within the world and the way we view our identities is a bad thing. i don’t know if i’d personally say there are infinite genders but i do think there could be potentially as many gender identities as there are people who could possibly have them—talk about ‘special snowflakes’ all you want but every person is their own unique individual self, no two are exactly identical. why, then, would our gender identities be any less individualized?
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shoutout to people in their 20s, 30s, 40s, and older who are questioning their orientation. there’s no age limit for when a person can start questioning their sexuality and no deadline for how long it should to figure it out. it’s not “too late” for you at all and you should be supported through your questioning.
@fandom, before you assume that everyone who ships a pairing you don’t like MUST be straight or must be white or whatever consider this:
the same thing goes for people who like characters you don’t as well.
you don’t have to like a ship or a character, you can talk all day long about how much you don’t like them and why if that’s what you want to do, but you don’t get to deny the identities of the people who DO like them to try and make your point.
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