(((I Will Outlive)))

being on the internet

I do think it's pretty funny that fanfic premises based on illegitimate kids as an excuse for crossovers over the years have gone from "Mom character CHEATED on Dad character 😡" to "once upon a time, mommy and daddy had a threesome and now we have YOU!" lmaoooo. People don't want marital discord they just want a third parent

This post is "three parents living happily in one house" erasure smh

Only two parents? In *this* economy?

I love this post. I LOVE this post. When I was in Kindergarten, my teacher wanted to show my family a drawing we were supposed to do if our parents or family members (something like that). At that time, I was living in the house with my mother, my aunt, my grandparents, and my dad would visit sometimes on the weekend. As a baby, my mom was involved with a gay man who even after he came out stayed close with the family (there’s tons of pictures of him holding me as a baby). Anyway, they showed the picture I drew, where I told my teacher I had FIVE PARENTS.

I was an only child, but I was never lonely. My aunt was like the cool big sister, my grandpa pushed me on the swing and taught me about yardwork and exposed me to classic musicals, my grandma is the reason I can cook and bake.

It doesn’t matter how they get there: more people in your child’s life is a good thing.

Fast forward to when I am 15. My grandparents adopt me. My aunt legally becomes my sister, her children legally become my niece and nephew, my grandfather, almost near retirement, gets to joke around with his office that he has a teenager at home and she’s accomplishing xyz insert whatever activity they were keeping me busy with. My grandparents wouldn’t have it any other way.

You know who “gave me away” at my wedding? Six different people all in unison agreeing to help me and my husband on our journey.

I had TWO father/daughter dances that night. No one batted an eye.

More people doesn’t make your kid’s life complicated. It makes it better, I promise. It takes a village. Whether that village comes about organically, legally, through marriage, or polyamory.

I didn't initially tap this post as good poly rep (you can tell it was my second thought), but I am always of the opinion that you can have as many parents in your life as are there are people willing to raise you. There is no such thing as 'replacing a rightful role'; there are only people who love you and are willing to put the time in to be there for you, and your willingness to receive them. Likewise, I imagine, come partners and children.

Thank you for adding your experience.

Extremely validated that someone else also assumed there was just a talking computer monitor in their house and they just lived like that

@mistresskabooms has me, her dad, her stepdad (my wife), her stepmom (my other wife), and her dad's long-time, now-ex girlfriend in her life for years. She's also had her uncle and her uncle's partner, both of whom are closer to peers bc my brother is several years younger than I am.

It's fucking hard to raise kids with just 2 people. When I found out that friends of mine are trying to have kids, I said, listen, I'm naturally nocturnal. I can come over and spend a week and hold the baby at night so you can sleep.

That's how it's supposed to be.

someone: why don’t you talk?

me: *doesn’t respond bc i don’t talk*

them:

Wanting not to be touched doesn’t make you a mean person. Wanting people to respect your personal boundaries doesn’t make you annoying. You shouldn’t have to put yourself through things that hurt or upset you just because other people think they are harmless.

reminder: i can still hear you even when i’m non-verbal/semi-verbal. just because i can’t speak doesn’t mean you can be rude and say whatever you want

sorry I didn't mean to start tearing up as soon as I start trying to talk about my feelings, my bad

Okay.  When I’m at a gathering where people are going to have a meal, and you offer me something, when I say “That’s okay, I have food sensitivities, I’ll handle it myself” and you come back with an offer of accommodation, that’s charming.  Thank you for being accepting and gracious.

But when I follow that with “Thank you, but I brought my own food because I’m really difficult to feed”, please take that as an answer.  Do not insist. Do not take it as a slight against your abilities as a host. Do not “take that as a personal challenge”.  I can’t spare the spoons to look after both myself and your tender feelings.  I will become increasingly less polite as I attempt to enforce my boundaries, and that is never a good thing in friendly social situations.

I am not here to present you with interesting culinary challenges.  I am not here to give you a chance to experiment.  I am not here as a prop so you can demonstrate how good a host you are.

Please respect me and take “no” for an answer.

With regards, Your Friendly Neighborhood Person With Food Issues

Waiting to see my neurologist rn and this medical center treats CANCER PATIENTS and I'm literally the ONLY PERSON in the ENTIRE LOBBY, staff or otherwise, who's wearing a mask.