(((I Will Outlive)))

“Koushirou likes Taichi a little too much.”

Well, yeah, of course he does. There’s bread crumbs in the anime, but it hits you over the head in the novels: Taichi Yagami is someone Koushirou Izumi sees as an exception. A boy who treats everyone indiscriminately. And that obviously means a lot to Koushirou, who had an incredibly hard time connecting with people. And you know Taichi really seems to hold Koushirou in some high regard, whether he himself realizes it or not. One of the first things Taichi does in the digital world is explicitly ask Koushirou for his opinion. And it’s only when they’re alone again that Taichi reveals he’s heard the word Digimon before they even came to this strange place and only to Koushirou and he listens when Koushirou shares his opinion and even when he doesn’t quite understand all of the words rather than look down on him, Taichi thinks Koushirou’s vocabulary is amazing. Before everything, Koushirou believed himself to be absolutely worthless and Taichi turned to him in a life or death situation and told him, “We rely on you,” and smiled. He’s also the indirect reason Koushirou even made it to the digital world, at least at the time he does. Because Taichi–specifically Taichi–invited him to that camp. And that one action brought him to Tentomon and the whole journey helped Koushirou get closer to his parents AND IN TURN even closer to Taichi, who still openly accepted him, implied he wanted to be closer to Koushirou, that it wasn’t just his usefulness that Taichi cared about–but actually Koushirou himself.

Of course Koushirou likes Taichi a little too much. He valued Koushirou long before Koushirou even saw worth in himself and then helped him to realize it.

No more apologizing for being horny on main. No more horny jail. We’re horny prison abolitionists. No gods, no masters! Wait. Okay maybe a few masters. Alright but no bars will hold us! No whips and chains will — fuck, hang on, let me start again.

if you spend all your time seething about people having gay ships then you are, in fact, homophobic, no matter how well you treat real life gay people which I’m willing to bet isn’t that well at all considering you send yourself into incoherent rages at the sight of teenagers saying two fictional characters who happen to be the same gender are kissing.

Concrete, 100% effective way to tell if someone doesn’t belong in a LGBT+/queer space:

They openly and actively hate/ want to hurt the people in that space

Controversial opinion here, I know, but just because you’re in a safe LGBT+/Queer space doesn’t mean you have to disclose their identity to everyone there. And people are allowed to bring their partners, regardless of their orientation, to those same spaces. 

Obviously there are certain spaces that are for specific people, but at the same time, y’all are so obsessed with micromanaging queer spaces. The only thing that should be a litmus for entry into those spaces is: “does this person want to hurt someone else in this space and I know that? Yes? Then they aren’t fucken welcome. Regardless of identity.”

I volunteered in ine of the biggest queer youth clubs as an educator / guide (there isnt a word in english for these stuff).

We had so many queer kids that brought cishet friends and some of them didnt come out later, some of them really were cishet and that is fine.

They did no harm to the queer atmosphere and when someone new joined for the first time we gave them a little tour of the club and invited them to a one on one talk with one of the volunteers.

Ive had many of these conversations with teens at the ages of 12-19 and everyone calmed down when we told them there is no criteria to being there that this is a safe space and after a short explanation and some questions where many of them just blurted out their stories.

The non queer identifying people came for years either because they just met some friends from different places along the country and it was their usual hangout or because they really needed a safe space with no judgment in their lives.

Cishet people also need safe spaces where there are no gendered expectations of them and they can play with makeup and dresses and just be calm and learn about safe sexuality and consent.

Why in the world would you kick people who need safe spaces and benefit from them out???

Queer people seeing cishet people in queer spaces not acting weird and for once seeing the atmosphere is queer and the cis person has to adapt does marvels to one’s sense of how real it feels, how you could bring this safe space outside and this culture to other friends.

Introduce some of the stuff you learned to your friends and family maybe to some willing coworker idk.

The point is that our way to smash the patriarchy, gender roles, rape culture and more shit is too bring it outside and allow allies to be there cus why the fuck not

Thanks for sharing! This really highlights a collection of reasons why it’s important to not create these arbitrary rules to who can and can’t come in. 

Also?

When I was in college, I had a cishet friend who was Christian and quietly felt homosexuality was a sin. I never heard her say so out loud….

…..which is why it STUNNED me when last year, she admitted she felt that way in college. But, she said, spending time with me in what we called the LGBTQIA+ group, to support me through a time when I was on and off suicidal, she discovered that queer people were, well….people. Who just wanted to be allowed to live. That might sound like “wow, the bar was belowground and she was doing the limbo with Satan,” but you must understand: this was 2006 in a very tiny town. Our senator had just compared homosexuality to both bestiality and pedophilia and there was a concerted push going on to write “one man, one woman” into the Constitution. Allison’s position (“I feel a certain kind of way but I’m not going to say it aloud”) was actually KINDER than most of the people around me.

And just spending time in our spaces, being around queer people, she realized “hey, what I have been told my whole life is a lie. These people are just people. Telling terrible jokes, having cookouts, fighting for basic human dignity, arguing over whether or not face painting is an appropriate college activity. There is no difference between them and me.”

Without a welcome into queer spaces, Allison might still be part of a homophobic church. Instead she helped organize her town’s first Pride parade in 2019.

“The queer kids, whether they’re gay or straight, need to stick together.” — Tim Miller, gay performance artist

Gatekeeping kills. STOP THAT.

Lest anyone think that this is pandering to straight allies, it’s not. Straight people can exist in spaces without making it all about them, as hard as it may be to believe at certain parts of your life (and if that feels profoundly fake to you, I beg you to know some different straight people since the ones around you aren’t helping you).

Having straight people around doesn’t make a queer safe any more or less safe either, since queer people can be just as violent and horrific towards each other on the personal level that straight people can be towards us.

And that was the point i was attempting to make, that violent bigotry isn’t exclusive to cis straights. If we compartmentalize violence we guarantee the invasion of said violence because we’ll ignore blatant trojan horses.

And once again, gay people have children, and those children are sometimes cishet. Those children grow up in queer spaces. Expelling them is a really shitty thing to do, especially for kids who have never been a part of any other community

Additionally gay people have family that just are struggling to understand, and sometimes that family is cishet. Gay people have friends who they know and love and trust, and sometimes those friends are cishet. Some gay people are in relationships with cishet people. Weird how that works sometimes.