#good communication – @aph-japan on Tumblr

#communication #good communication #critical thinking #change #growth #positivity #life #mental health #normalize #normalize THIS #some of the only shit you people still need to be actually normalizing for real #I DONT KNOW WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS #still relevant

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griefsuggestion

you may regret your last conversation with your loved one. having those perfect final words is so rare. instead, bask in how you and your loved one shared the ability to speak nonchalantly to one another or that you were close enough to have argued. you and your loved one shared so much and no petty fight will ever take that away. forgive yourself.

#grandpa tag #grandpa r tag #mental health #trauma #grief #compassion #self compassion #death #communication #good communication #this is important for everyone #positivity #life #forgiveness #humanity #i dont know who needs to hear this #*Reblogging for the Positivity #(I was 'luckyTM' in that I didnt exactly experience this with my closest relatives who passed away)#({in the sense of 'flat out arguing' before That happened but})#(Important regardless)#I DONT KNOW WHO NEEDS TO HEAR THIS #(But one of the things I do regret)#(is that I left quickly the day it {Grandpas passing} happened because I was having a panic episode {inside a hospital})#i didnt want to think about grandpa not remembering me even if technically i had accepted it was happening and was 'fine' with it #shit i didnt talk about back around 2k12~2k15 because it was too depressing #august 30 #the end of august #i still cant believe its been 10+ years #at least i got to talk briefly with my {living} grandma on the phone last night {and she still remembers me} {for now}

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seventeenlovesthree

Important lesson to keep in mind: Sometimes we meet people that are not meant to stay in our lives forever. There may have been an initial attraction or things we may have (had) in common - or maybe there was some kind of emotional codependency. Sometimes, we just drift apart after a while, but still think back of the old times, the memories fondly. Sometimes, there may be a fallout and you find yourself wondering what happened, what you did wrong, if you weren't compatible in the first place. Sometimes, we can make up, sometimes we can't.

I think we can always learn something from these various encounters. And you may be hurting at times, but there is a lesson to take away from it. Staying mindful of your own behaviour and actions is important, but it's not always your fault things did not end well. So beating yourself up is not the way to go. Take a breather, let things settle. If the situation arises, try to fix things, explain your side of things, but don't force it if you're being treated unfairly.

You deserve to treat yourself well - and be treated well by others too. If you made a mistake, be genuine about it. But sometimes, things simply aren't meant to last.

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koushirouizumi

ceedling

“One factor that makes interaction between multi-ethnic groups of women difficult and sometimes impossible is our failure to recognize that a behaviour pattern in one culture may be unacceptable in another, that is may have different signification cross-culturally … I have learned the importance of learning what we called one another’s cultural codes. An Asian American student of Japanese heritage explained her reluctance to participate in feminist organizations by calling attention to the tendency among feminist activists to speak rapidly without pause, to be quick on the uptake, always ready with a response. She had been raised to pause and think before speaking, to consider the impact of one’s words, a characteristic that she felt was particularly true of Asian Americans. She expressed feelings of inadequacy on the various occasions she was present in feminist groups. In our class, we learned to allow pauses and appreciate them. By sharing this cultural code, we created an atmosphere in the classroom that allowed for different communication patterns. This particular class was peopled primarily by black women. Several white women students complained that the atmosphere was “too hostile.” They cited the noise level and direct confrontations that took place in the room prior to class as an example of this hostility. Our response was to explain that what they perceived as hostility and aggression, we considered playful teasing and affectionate expressions of our pleasure at being together. Our tendency to talk loudly we saw as a consequence of being in a room with many people speaking, as well as of cultural background: many of us were raised in families where individuals speak loudly. In their upbringings as white, middle-class females, the complaining students had been taught to identify loud and direct speech with anger. We explained that we did not identify loud or blunt speech in this way, and encourage them to switch codes, to think of it as an affirming gesture. Once they switched codes, they not only began to have a more creative, joyful experience in the class, but they also learned that silence and quiet speech can in some cultures indicate hostility and aggression. By learning one another’s cultural codes and respecting our differences, we felt a sense of community, of Sisterhood. Representing diversity does not mean uniformity or sameness.”

— Bell Hooks, Feminist Theory: From Margin to Center (pages 57-58)

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koushirouizumi

constellatedlove

will never get over the fact that we can love people despite there being countries between us. we can miss people we’ve never seen in person. we can connect and bond over hundreds of things without ever needing to be in each others physical presence. we can have half the globe between us and love never falters.

#relationships #communication #good communication #friendship #long distance relationships #pro ldrs #online communication #online friendship #online life IS REAL LIFE #THIS #tHIS THIS THIS THIS THI #NOTE TO TOEI #digimon: fandom issues #digimon 02: fandom issues #digimon the beginning: fandom issues

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izzyizumi

mostly-funnytwittertweets

paddysnuffles

And if you're into women instead of men, I have some great news: the same technique applies for seducing autistic women!

phoenixonwheels

You can in fact use this method to seduce autistic people of all genders!

#koushiro relevant #kiku relevant #actuallyautistic #autism #autism issues #autistic communication #honesty #communication #good communication #directness #this #this does in fact work with most autistics you may not even want to seduce but just be friends with #allistics should try this way more often negl #we are not crystal balls and we cannot read your mind to understand unwritten social cues we literally may not be able to pick up #not dgmn

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complexptsd

please remember that in a healthy, adult relationship (romantic or not), you should be able to talk about things that are bothering you. if you are bottling up your emotions and holding it against someone when you haven’t told them what is wrong, you’re not engaging in healthy behaviour. but also, if your friend/significant other makes you feel as though you can’t talk about what bothers you- i.e. has made you feel guilty/gotten extraordinarily angry when things were brought up in the past- they are not engaging in healthy behaviour.

#mental health #mental health informative #mental health issues #informative #advice #communication #friendship #relationships #good communication #this #not up for debate

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cannibality

if someone you’re very close to needs you to use new pronouns to refer to them, your bond should be important enough to you that you make that effort

if someone you’re not very close to needs you to use new pronouns to refer to them, you barely even know them and it’s not difficult for you to make that effort

if you’ve noticed that this is a catch-22 where the only option is for you to make an effort to use trans people’s pronouns that’s because it is