(((I Will Outlive)))

guys, in regards to reading comprehension, if it's something you struggle with — read the whole thing. If it's something you don't struggle with, yes you do — read the whole thing.

don't respond or comment or whatever before you have read the whole thing.

The number of times I've gotten responses from people who clearly didn't read beyond the first few sentences of what I wrote is genuinely staggering. Think about it: if you don't have time to read someone else's thoughts, why should anyone take time to read yours? Communication is a two-way street.

TL;DR read the whole text before you respond to something, for the love of spiders georg

Important lesson to keep in mind: Sometimes we meet people that are not meant to stay in our lives forever. There may have been an initial attraction or things we may have (had) in common - or maybe there was some kind of emotional codependency. Sometimes, we just drift apart after a while, but still think back of the old times, the memories fondly. Sometimes, there may be a fallout and you find yourself wondering what happened, what you did wrong, if you weren't compatible in the first place. Sometimes, we can make up, sometimes we can't.

I think we can always learn something from these various encounters. And you may be hurting at times, but there is a lesson to take away from it. Staying mindful of your own behaviour and actions is important, but it's not always your fault things did not end well. So beating yourself up is not the way to go. Take a breather, let things settle. If the situation arises, try to fix things, explain your side of things, but don't force it if you're being treated unfairly.

You deserve to treat yourself well - and be treated well by others too. If you made a mistake, be genuine about it. But sometimes, things simply aren't meant to last.

They aren’t replacing you if they make new friends. New friends don’t cancel out the care they have for you.

in case no one’s told you yet, you feel exhausted and hungover and sometimes even sick after panic attacks/meltdowns/flashbacks/dissociative episodes/etc. because of very real chemical processes that are involved in your nervous system activation and de-activation during those times. it’s chemical dump effects, and no, you SHOULDN’T be able to just brush it off and feel and act normal. you’ve got a bunch of physical things that got activated and that all has to wind down. It’s not in your head, it’s very physical, and you need to work WITH your body during the after-periods instead of trying to curb stomp it. be gentle to yourself, okay?

People on Twitter sharing mental health advice that helped them

One of the most dangerous things in the world is not being able to say no to people because you don't want to upset them or dissapoint them. This will completely ruin your life in every way possible, at work, in your private life, your sex life and your friendships. It's a way of removing your own consent in your own decisions and go against your wishes, it is always a crime against yourself. Let yourself have a say. Upsetting people is better than traumatizing yourself.

Tiktok is helpful sometimes.

Saw a video of a woman with ADHD and she explained that, if you have a hard time eating produce before it goes bad because Object Permanence Is Hard, put your produce on the door!

Whenever you need a condiment, it's because you know you want it, so you don't have to see it on the door. And, frankly, produce drawers, especially deep ones, are almost impossible to organize so something is always going bad.

Gonna try the "condiments in the drawers, produce on the door" for a while and see how it takes. Leftovers on top for easy visibility (another object permanence issue), frequently used items in the middle, more produce on the bottom (mostly bunny food).

Very interesting, this is something I never would have thought of but upon reading it and thinking more about it, it’s pretty brilliant and the thought of it makes my brain happy. I may have to try this out.

Random socializing tip: Tell people when they’ve had a positive impact on your life!

e.g.: “Hey, remember when I asked you for advice on X? That was really helpful, I tried it and now (insert what has improved)”

“You kept gushing about (insert series/book/movie/recipe) and made it sound really appealing, so I checked it out and I really liked it!”

“Thank you for letting me vent recently, telling you what bothered me really helped me to work through it / helped me see it from another perspective / gave me the courage to address it with the person I was talking about.”

It helps people see their own strong points, it deepens your relationships, it makes the people in your life feel appreciated and special and it can give you warm fuzzy feelings!

Win/win all around!