(((I Will Outlive)))

Important lesson to keep in mind: Sometimes we meet people that are not meant to stay in our lives forever. There may have been an initial attraction or things we may have (had) in common - or maybe there was some kind of emotional codependency. Sometimes, we just drift apart after a while, but still think back of the old times, the memories fondly. Sometimes, there may be a fallout and you find yourself wondering what happened, what you did wrong, if you weren't compatible in the first place. Sometimes, we can make up, sometimes we can't.

I think we can always learn something from these various encounters. And you may be hurting at times, but there is a lesson to take away from it. Staying mindful of your own behaviour and actions is important, but it's not always your fault things did not end well. So beating yourself up is not the way to go. Take a breather, let things settle. If the situation arises, try to fix things, explain your side of things, but don't force it if you're being treated unfairly.

You deserve to treat yourself well - and be treated well by others too. If you made a mistake, be genuine about it. But sometimes, things simply aren't meant to last.

it's unfair how much the structure of the internet these days robs people of the ability to hate on media without having it be taken as an indictment of other people, their actions & tastes. i should get to talk extensively about why i hate a ship, just as much as i get to talk about why i like something. and the people who like that thing and follow me should be able to avoid it without trouble. but more than that i wish there still existed the basic generosity of “i hate this thing you like but i am uninterested in robbing you of your joy, so don't take my words to heart.” and on the other side “i recognise that you have an opinion that contradicts mine but your verdict on my tastes is not a judgement on the worthiness of my pursuits.” you don't have to listen to everything someone says, even if they're your friends. and you shouldn't have to pretend to like things you don't in order to not be deemed a hater. disliking something is completely neutral.

— Unknown

You don’t stop existing to your loved ones when they aren’t talking to you. It’s very likely they think of you when they see stuff that reminds them of you. Maybe it’s seeing that dog on the street and thinking you’d love it. Maybe it’s them getting to eat a hot dog and remembering that time you hung out all night and ate way too many of them. Maybe it’s them going to see a movie and thinking back on how the last time they saw one was with you.

It’s also likely they think about you and wonder how you’re doing.

I know it can be hard to remember but you do still exist and matter to people when you can’t see each other.

— Harriet J., “On Interpersonal Badness (You Are Worthless, Let’s Be Friends)” (x)

learning that people want you in their lives is a skill you can develop if it does not come naturally

it feels fake but your friends miss you sometimes

the reason you've been hanging out with your closest friends fairly regularly for the past 12+ years is because you have fun together

people who don't like you that much will not stay in your life for over a decade asking to hang out and inviting you to things and texting you

Because I have just seen this specific thing for the second time, I would like to say:

That's it!

it's unfair how much the structure of the internet these days robs people of the ability to hate on media without having it be taken as an indictment of other people, their actions & tastes. i should get to talk extensively about why i hate a ship, just as much as i get to talk about why i like something. and the people who like that thing and follow me should be able to avoid it without trouble. but more than that i wish there still existed the basic generosity of “i hate this thing you like but i am uninterested in robbing you of your joy, so don't take my words to heart.” and on the other side “i recognise that you have an opinion that contradicts mine but your verdict on my tastes is not a judgement on the worthiness of my pursuits.” you don't have to listen to everything someone says, even if they're your friends. and you shouldn't have to pretend to like things you don't in order to not be deemed a hater. disliking something is completely neutral.

Kind reminder that the people who truly care about your wellbeing will respect your boundaries. It's that simple. Stop looking for excuses.

People on Twitter sharing mental health advice that helped them

Too many people be like "you're so lucky your friends actually support you" like no I'm not "lucky" I just have boundaries and avoid people who don't respect them - and your standards are far too low if you're wiling to settle for less than I do

The worst feeling is when you find out you didn’t mean as much to someone as you thought you did and you look so stupid for caring too much