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It was never your responsibility to solve your parents/guardians emotional problems. It still isn’t. It’s not your job to make them happy.
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“Moses has just been told something that will change his life. The audience knows this is the last time he’ll see his mother. But you know how moms are: no matter how you tell them something is a problem, they don’t really grasp it. Moses looks at her, kind of smiles, and falls into her arms. He realizes that she’s not going to understand what this means to him. She just knows she loves him.”
The Prince of Egypt - A New Vision in Animation
#jewish relevant#jewish family#the prince of egypt#the prince of egypt: gifs#moses#queen tuya#quote#family#family issues#pesach#jewish diaspora#diaspora#jewish trauma#jewish intergenerational trauma#intergenerational trauma#(Not sure what to fully think of the 'you know how Moms are' part but...)#relatable#(Maybe in Different contexts)#(But I do think it varies depending on *family structures*)#actuallynonnormativefamily#(At the same time . Just)#yeah#({Jewish intergenerational trauma specifically} likely also much more what they were Getting at?)#: he realizes that shes not going to understand what this means to him#poe spoilers#forget and be content#we wont forget#(The sad thing of it all is how it affects TUYAs ''character'' and portrayal because Yes)#(Yes they DID animate Tuya with appreciation but at the Same Time when you consider Actual History Involved)#(The whole thing is just . Really ENDLESSLY Deep and full of Conflicting Emotions {even about THE ENTIRE STORY OF MOSES+JEWISHNESS})
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People on Twitter sharing mental health advice that helped them
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There’s something intensely unhealthy going on when parents discourage age-appropriate independence. A 13 year old should probably be allowed to go see a film with their friends most of the time. A 16 year old should probably be allowed to drive/ride a bus/bike to a friend’s house most of the time. An 18 year old should probably be allowed to travel overnight with their friends most of the time. A 20+ year old should be allowed to come and go as they please, with some common-sense “Let’s talk this ‘move to Finland’ plan of your over before you follow through on it” exceptions.
Parents should want their children to enjoy going out and doing things on their own and with their friends. They should be delighted that their child wants to have a life of their own. A rich, fulfilling life outside the home and distinct from parents and family is important, and parents should want their child to have that.
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growing up autistic / growing up gaslit
I.
this is the first lesson you learn: you are always wrong.
there is no electric hum buzzing through the air. there is no stinging bite to the sweetness of the mango. there is no bitter metallic tang to the water.
there is no cruelty in their laughter, no ambiguity in the instructions, no reason to be upset. there is no bitter aftertaste to your sweet tea, nothing scratchy about your blanket.
the lamps glow steadily. they do not falter.
II.
this is the second lesson you learn: you are never right.
you are childish, gullible, overly prone to tears. you are pedantic, combative, deliberately obtuse. you are lazy, unreliable, never on time.
you’re always making up excuses, rudely interrupting, stepping on people’s shoes. you’re always trying to get attention, never thinking about anyone else, selfish through and through.
it’s you that’s the problem. the lamps are fine.
III.
this is the third lesson you learn: you must always give in.
mother knows best. father knows best. doctor knows best. teacher knows best. this is the proper path. do not go astray.
listen to your elders, respect your betters, accept what’s given to you as your due. bow to the wisdom of experience, the education of the professional, the clarity of an external point of view.
what do you know about lamps, anyway?
#theoriginalmkp#actuallyautistic#autism#autism issues#autism stigmatization#stigmatization#ableism#societal ableism#autistic traits#ableist myths#anti autistic ableism#school system#medical ableism#family issues#parents#*reblogging for the Commentary#(The only part I personally can't relate to is w Parents)#(but I was extremely 'lucky' in that regard)#(I was born into a family that wanted me)#(Not everyone else is as fortunate)#*Allistics Do Not Derail#autistic trauma#trauma#misconceptions#(Like yes not everyone may share the exact same experience but it's common enough that we might recognize these as Problems)#(If another Autistic didn't experience trauma I'm grateful they didn't)#(And Yet)#medical abuse#(Also very much A Thing)#parental abuse