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“Usually, trauma is seen as something that needs to be healed. Something to be “processed” - to be dealt with privately, in therapy or among a circle of close friends, to be addressed as a problem and solved. To be neatly and tidily compartmentalized, separated from oneself, shrunk smaller and smaller until it no longer affects one directly, until it is altogether stored away. “Your trauma should not define you,” clinicians will say.

If an event or circumstance is harmful to or painful for a trauma victim or survivor, it is framed as “triggering.” It couldn’t possibly be that the event or circumstance is in of itself harmful, and that an individual’s trauma has provided them with insight into the event’s harmfulness. No, the issue is that the victim has not dealt with their trauma effectively enough, that their trauma is still affecting them.

In this sense, trauma is framed as a singular and isolated incident, as an exception to the rule. The world is a generally safe, just place, but victims and survivors have been falsely convinced by their traumatic incident that the world is unjust and unsafe. It is not possible that trauma could be an ever-present constant, perpetually occurring in every sphere of life.

Not only are experiences of victimization not seen as expertise, but they are seen as pathology. As something that causes victims to see the world less clearly, to think less rationally.

Yet for me personally, my victimhood has only allowed me to see the world more clearly. I grew up in a fairly conservative, capitalist family and shared and embodied those values for a large part of my life. I had been taught, and so it seemed to me, that the world was a fair place, and people who were economically marginalized (for example) were just not working hard enough. My victimhood fundamentally rattled my trust in the safety or justice of the world, and as a result I increasingly developed empathy for other victimized populations. My victimhood did not cloud my judgment or get in the way of my thinking clearly; rather, it radicalized me.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not advocating for victimization or attempting to justify victimizing people because it gives them expertise.

But I wonder how our communities and contexts might change if, instead of always asking people how they plan to treat or heal from their trauma, we gave them more opportunities to share what they have learned about the world, about the human condition, about power structures, about the impact of ongoing and pervasive systemic issues. What if, instead of asking, “What happened to you [as an individual]?” we gave victims more chances to situate their traumatic experiences within a broader framework of systemic injustice and contextual power imbalances that they now have insight into?”

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Mentally ill people don't owe you their illness history for you to take them seriously. Don't ask a person with ptsd "what happened", don't ask a psychotic person if they've been hospitalized, don't force someone to show you their scars or otherwise 'prove' their right to call themselves mentally ill.

Curiosity is not inherently wrong, but remember that this is someone's life and trauma you're prying into. Saying that we struggle with a mental illness can be necessary information to share, and is usually not meant as an invitation to discuss our personal worst nightmare in polite company.

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It is completely normal to have a delayed reaction to trauma.

It is completely normal for it to hit you in waves. 

It is completely normal to feel numb, angry, sad, or any emotion you can imagine during or after your trauma. 

There are no rules when it comes to what you feel during or after trauma. 

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Is it also normal to realize certain aspects about the time you were traumatized in very, VERY belatedly…?

Yes. It’s completely normal to not realize or remember certain things until way later. Brains do things like that to protect us.

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a few things:

bullying is abuse. full stop. bullying is abuse, bullies are abusers. if you have been bullied, you have been abused.

bullying is not a lesser form of abuse. it is not normal. it is not beneficial. victims do not need to ‘grow up’ or ‘get over it’. you are not childish or immature for being hurt by it.

bullying can cause mental health problems. bullying can cause trauma. mental health problems and trauma caused by abuse are completely valid. bullying is not a lesser form of abuse and the effects of bullying are not lesser forms of pain.

bullying comes in a lot of different forms. essentially, if you were excluded or humiliated or mocked or physically abused or in any other way treated as inferior by your peers, you were bullied.

bullying is never the victim’s fault. never. the abusers will always find an excuse to hurt you but they don’t need an actual reason.

the effects of bullying can last a lifetime. all this is true if you’re being bullied right now, and all this is true if it’s been a year. five years. fifteen years. abuse can have long-term effects and healing is not a question of maturity.

bullying isn’t discussed nearly enough but seriously, it can be hellish and if you’re going through it or you’ve been through it, i’m with you. keep going.

Look up the studies I made based on CPTSD and Bullying on this blog. Not only has it been directly linked, it’s been like this Always.

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Can we please stop validating C-PTSD by invalidating those with PTSD?

This is something I have seen a lot more lately. People are talking about how C-PTSD is so much “worse” than PTSD and I do not think that is a good narrative because it can make people with PTSD feel their struggles are “less than.”

I have also even seen a post that mentioned that one of the differences between the two is that C-PTSD is a life long struggle while PTSD is gone within weeks and months at most. Which is false and promoting a timeline for healing which I think is a big no.

There is no timeline for healing from either. Both are valid and mean that someone experienced something they should have never had to deal with.

This goes for all disorders: Please, can we validate our disorders without invalidating others? 

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