Remember, I block those who make antisemitic comments regularly on this account.  And I have for nearly a decade of its existence.

Instead of going "but have you tried-" every time you meet a disabled person, assume competence. Assume that we've already done our research. Assume that we are knowledgeable about our condition(s). Assume that we are doing everything we can to manage our disabilities well.

Wanting not to be touched doesn’t make you a mean person. Wanting people to respect your personal boundaries doesn’t make you annoying. You shouldn’t have to put yourself through things that hurt or upset you just because other people think they are harmless.

Hey, Tumblr. Guess what. Relationships are defined by the people involved in them, and that's that. If people say they're friends, then they're friends. If people say they're dating, then they're dating. If they say it's a secret third thing, then that's what it is. Someone else's relationship isn't for you to decide.

reblog this if your blog is a safe space on april fools and won’t have any jumpers, screamers, or anything scary or anxiety inducing

y'all have got to stop taking every goddamn opportunity to armchair diagnose people you don't know. i don't care if you happen to be a healthcare worker; you're not their doctor, and you have no business telling a stranger your assumptions about their health, physical or otherwise. especially if you're pairing it with a fucking moralizing stance on how they choose to cope with whatever symptoms they may be experiencing.

is this necessary. is this kind. do you have the right.

no. no. and fucking no.

If you follow me on tumblr and you know me in real life just remember one thing, what goes on tumblr stays on tumblr.

Exactly!

i am autistic. please do not try to change me

i am autistic. please embrace who i am

i am proud of who i am

i am proud of how far ive come

i am proud to be autistic

We all talk about how other people shouldn’t have to explain their “weird” triggers and we should be willing to tag them until something like this happens. How hard is it to ask if the anon is asking bc they find it “gross”/feel uncomfortable with it, or bc it’s a legit trigger?

One example would be if anon is gay and was assaulted for gay pda and feels fear for the couple and/or has flashbacks when they see pics of gay pda. How do you think this response and all the notes it’s gotten would make them feel?

Odds are that that’s not why the ask was sent, and that it’s bc the anon is homophobic, which isn’t a good reason to tag gay pda, but is it that hard to be thoughtful enough to consider other possibilities and ask in case your initial assumption is wrong?

Well, for one, people can personally curate their own tumblr feed and if they don’t want to see PDA, and a blog posts PDA, they can just unfollow it.

And see, here’s the issue. People only ever ask for GAY PDA to be tagged. If someone is legitimately triggered by PDA, they should request that PDA be tagged, not specifically gay PDA. Asking for gay PDA to be tagged is no different from asking someone to trigger tag gay people. The emphasis is on it being gay, not being PDA, so there’s always an ulterior motive.

Marginalized people are not a valid trigger, and if someone is triggered by the existence of an oppressed group, they need to get over themself.

If I use the word queer in my posts and you don’t like that, don’t reblog them. If you tag my posts as q slur I will block you and never let you reblog another one.

Also the last person who did this literally had “Don’t follow if you say Q**** community despite not everyone reclaiming it” in their BYF but doesn’t have the same respect for people who have reclaimed it.

You are not entitled to other people’s posts. Don’t touch them if you don’t like them. I said queer people and not LGBT for a damn reason. It’s not that hard to not interact with things that make you uncomfortable. Respect the boundaries of queer people. The universe does not revolve around you.

Acting like autistic people cant know themselves well enough to know if they’re trans or saying we are being manipulated into identifying as trans or any other argument that dismisses or invalidates autistic trans peoples identity is both ableist and transphobic. End of discussion.

Just a reminder my blog is trans inclusive. It’s bi inclusive. It is pan inclusive. It is intersex inclusive. It is ace/asexual inclusive. It is aro/aromantic inclusive. It is queer inclusive.

I don’t support terfs or exclusionists.

If you came here looking for an ally in your bigotry you came to the wrong blog. Go away. You are not welcome here.

I personally don’t mind if people ask about my disabilities. But ONLY if I know them first. I love educating people so they can be accepting and make changes to help. But if a stranger asks? That’s uncomfortable, and I don’t like it. STOP 🛑.

you dont identify as queer and don’t wanna be called that? thats totally fine, I’ll respect that (as the majority of queer people do, but thats another conversation).

But I dont wanna be fucking called “q***r” or “q slur” or “qr” or any other censored version of the word. I am queer. I am not some filthy word for you to treat like it’s gonna burn a hole in your tongue.

You’d be rightfully furious if i started going around tagging posts with “gay” as “g slur” or “g*y” or post with “lesbian” as “l slur” or “l*****n.” that’d be homophobic as fuck. Both those words started as slurs, and were reclaimed and made into terms to describe an identity, just like queer has been. I recognize some people have trauma with the word queer, but the truth is some people are triggered by terms like “gay” after growing up in the modern age where every bad and undesirable thing was labeled “gay” by their peers, silently suffering with the knowledge that their peers would likely consider them bad and undesirable too, maybe even predatory or creepy. That wouldn’t give them the right to be homophobic or go telling people to tag it as a slur or even that they’re not allowed to identify with it. Its all the fucking same.

Don’t call me q***r. I am not a slur. I am not a homophobic, transphobic weapon. I am a human, and I am queer.

(REGs and TERFs/radfems don’t touch, this post isnt for you. everyone else can reblog.)

Thank you.

I never had people draw fanart for one of my fics or write something based on it, but I just know that that is such a high honor and show of love. I once had someone ask me if they could translate my fic in Chinese and I was like, wow, they love it enough to want to put time and effort into it to show it to more people.

To all writers, you can use this post to let people know that you would be delighted to receive fanart and would love if they get creative with what you created.