(((I Will Outlive)))

Asexual people are not responsible for the sex negative and puritan views and actions of straight people.

Being asexual doesn’t mean you have to hate sex. Being aromantic doesn’t mean you have to hate romance. You’re allowed to feel however you like about either, whether it’s hate, love, neutrality or anything else.

It’s OK to be sex repulsed. It’s OK to hate sex. It’s OK to never want anything to do with sex. You’re never obligated to be personally sex favourable. It doesn’t make you a prude or judgmental or anti-sex, or say anything at all about how you feel about sex in general.

It’s OK to not have a romantic relationship. It’s OK to stay single.

How you personally interpret your feelings and identity matter more than getting things exactly right. If there even is an actual "right".

A person isn’t more mature for liking/having sex, and a person isn’t less mature for not liking/never having had sex. There is no correlation between maturity and being sexual activity.

Your agency around sex matters. It’s your body and your choice how sexual you want to be or if you want to have sex or not.

I need people to realize that “dying alone” isn’t a moral failing that happens to bad people who deserve it. Many people don’t have family (left) to be with them when they die. Many people do not have a partner to be by their side whether it be because they were never given the opportunity or they chose not to have one. Instead of using “dying alone” as an insult or a curse on people we don’t like, we should be thinking about how we can let people who are “alone” die with dignity.

It's alright to explore asexuality and aromanticism even if you don't think you're either of these identities. It's OK to find concepts in these communities that are helpful to you, even if you don't end up using either label.

Quick shout out to those who fluctuate on both the aro and ace spectrums. Those who sometimes experience both romantic and sexual feelings and sometimes neither, sometimes just sexual and sometimes just romantic. You're all cool and valid in case no one told you that today.

No one else gets to tell you how to identify or what labels are right for you. You have the final say over your own identity.

How many times does this need to be said?

Asexuality doesn’t mean “doesn’t fuck”. It doesn’t mean “doesn’t like sex” or “thinks sex is dirty” or, worst I’ve seen at this point “can’t get their dick up”.

Asexuality is a lack of sexual attraction.

Not a lack of libido or sex drive. Not a lack of sex-positivity. Not a lack of the physiological processes that cause erections, tenting, production of vaginal lubrication, or other things of that nature.

Can asexual people feel or have a lack of those things? Sure.

Do they all? No. Are they defined by those? No.

Asexuality is the lack of sexual attraction. That’s it. Stop saying this shit to try to give a “hot take” or make asexuality out to be something it’s not to be easier to get people to exclude it.

Stop seeing people who live alone as something temporary. Stop assuming they’re waiting to marry to live with someone. Living alone and not marrying for the rest of one’s lives are also options.

Reminder that no one kind of love, attraction, or relationship type is inherently stronger, closer, or “more than” other types, whether those be platonic, romantic, familial, queerplatonic, alterous, or anything else. each relationship is different for each person and different relationship types should not be compared to each other as being more or less than

[Image description - Image of the asexual pride flag and the aromantic pride flag spliced together with the text: I DON’T NEED TO FEEL ATTRACTION TO BE WHOLE. End description.]