Because I feel like kids of color don’t hear it enough: domestic abuse is not a part of your culture.
A lot of us were raised with the idea that “its normal for wives/children to get hit! it helps them learn– only white folk don’t get beaten when they misbehave”. That’s not true, white people aren’t the only ones who deserve a safe and abuse free environment. Black and brown people can and do have loving families.
If you’re in a situation where you are enduring abuse and people use your culture to justify it, I want you to know that what they’re telling you are lies.
The idea that nonwhite cultures are somehow based on abuse is so prevalent that my mandatory reporting abuse seminar had an entire section in it about how this is bullshit and we shouldn’t ignore abused indigenous kids.
this goes very much for asian kids too btw. in a lot of asian countries, esp east asian ones, physical punishment has been very much a standard in disciplining children, both at home and in the classroom, so this is something that’s often brought over to america when families immigrate and stuff
i can’t tell you the number of times my mother has told me “in america you can’t hit kids or else they’ll call it child abuse and take your kids away, but back home you have to hit them, or else they’ll never learn” and stuff like “with chinese kids you have to hit them or else they’ll turn out spoiled”
so like, despite what your parents tell you, no kids deserve to get beaten, and you’re not “assimilated” for thinking so
