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I am being squashed by the bad decisions of old people....

And not really, the parents have dodged that responsibility for decades, and classes are super expensive...and sadly my brother is already paying for their car

The biggest issue is that even if we squeeze into a smaller place, which is looking to be what may happen....4 grown ups vs 1 bathroom.....my mother and I both have issues that send us to the bathroom. One Onion shard or Slice of Cheese away from disaster at all times...

Thank you so much though, I'm super anxious but my brother is struggling far more because it feels hopeless to him. I told him that the fact that the bank even is considering funding him is amazing! Because clearly they have standards and aren't afraid to say no lmao.

It also sucks because its ingrained into my brain that we would be 'abandoning' them....like we are adults moving out.

Did the father consider our feelings or what it would do to our family when he mortgaged a completely paid for house to give the money to his sister? Did he consider what it would do to our family in 2016 to tell the bank to 'just take the house' because the act of selling it didn't go smoothly bc there was a lien on it and instead of handling it like an adult he just stomped his feet and threw his toys away?

Like we are literally in this mess because of his bullshit. As many issues I have with my mother, it's not her fault that she got what was almost assuredly covid at the beginning of the pandemic and it destroyed her ability to walk a floor without being horrifically out of breath.

Hi there! It's definitely crossed our mind. The main problem (we were looking at a trailer park) is that it has to be close to my brothers' job. (also there's no cheap land in the area...sometimes I miss rural areas)

While there's another location near the park, there's no guarantee that my brother would still have his hours/overnight shift if he moved areas.

There are some smaller houses, including one that's absolutely within budget...but it's 2 bedroom/1 bathroom. I'm not ready to go write an "AITA for moving out of my parents house knowing they would struggle financially"

also the parents absolutely rigged it up that we'd be fucked without them bc my siblings and I were never taught to drive!

so the sad predicament we are in...

mom cant cosign because her credit is terrible, and dad may be ineligible because he has no visible credit(because everything is in moms name lol)

So it's like.....what now? We literally cannot afford to stay renting at 1800 a month, but we fall brutally short of any kind of housing that would accommodate all of us.

Jordan shows a picture of Kefka and is like 'he's so attractive' and literally shows me a picture of a man in clown makeup. How am I supposed to discern that from any other straight man? they're all clowns to me

i think the worst thing about the whole lifelong abuse, and realizing my damage is 'fawning'(fight/flight/freeze/fawn) is that im surprised the whole family can't hear me clickclocking like a fucking metronome between the fact that Jordan and I should leave with what we can do, and feeling responsible for the parents even though they've literally done all of this to themselves

normal adults move out of their parents houses! normal adults don't feel like they have to care for their abusive parents and be their retirement plan!

Why do I have to feel like I have to include these people into a future they have tried so hard to rob me of? They're adults, shouldn't they have to figure out their living situation on their own? They've certainly done it so far with no care or input from us.

I fantasize about decorating a room the way I want. We lived in the doublewide up north for FIFTEEN YEARS and not once did my room ever felt like it was mine. And we were never allowed to decorate lol.

so...Jordan is attempting to get a FHA loan, and attempted to have mom be a cosigner...lol

mom was kicked off the app because of absolutely fucking abysmal credit, but the amount Jordan can get alone is too low for most of the houses around here (his BUYING POWER is 120k)

so now he has to try and see if dads' credit can withstand the hard check to the score that made moms' score ineligble

looking at houses, as usual, and switched to apartments

recognized a house that was for sale, but now it's been beiged out and is now being rented for $2900 dollars a month. I hate this shit.

Halloween literally went up to 80 degrees. I fucking hate climate change.

Once upon a time it was more likely to snow on halloween than be so fucking hot the A/C is needed again.

man some of these pasta sauce brands are crazy....7-8 dollars for a jar of pasta sauce? that's fucking insane.