Anonymous asked:
Got ny good move, tv show recs with LGBT characters?
It might be easier to just do a google search, but here are some I’d recommend. The ones with a asteric after are the ones I highly recommend.
Movies: Carol*, The Handmaiden*, Imagine Me & You, Room In Room, Blue Is The Warmest Color, Bloomington.
TV: Wynonna Earp*, The Bold Type*, The L Word*, Sense8* (discontinued, but amazing show), Orange is the New Black*, Lost Girl, Black Lightning, Supergirl (I don’t watch it anymore though), Carmilla (although not on TV, but a web series).
Anonymous asked:
Got any ideas on coming out , I’m tired of hiding
Damn, well that’s quite circumstantial. But here’s some;
- Just tell whoever you want to tell. That’s pretty much what I did. There was nothing special or extravagant about me coming out. I just told my family and friends.
- Send them this video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z3ECU6xtp68(Gay) or this https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SH_NwvdbecE(Bi). Idk any other songs, but they’re probably out there.
- Make no move to ‘come out,’ but be you and be comfortable in being you.
- Tell random people to eventually make it easier to come out to people that are closer to you.
- Walk out of a closet and be like, “Did you see what I just did there? This is me coming out of the closet.”
- Date someone and bring them home and be like… this is my partner.
I also want to just add this, ‘coming out’ does not suddenly validate you as queer (used as an umbrella term). As soon as you identify as queer is the moment you are valid. You don’t need to ‘come out’ if you’re not comfortable yet or not in a safe place to do so. Just remember that.
PS: Coming out isn’t a one time thing. It happens consistently in life. Every single time you meet a new person, is technically another chance for you to come out. It gets easier each time, at least in my opinion.
Anonymous asked:
Hello! So this might be a strenuous ask but I have a sister who said while she loved the idea - she didn’t really get the whole korrasami thing and thought it was a last minute idea to get a big reaction in the finale. I explained that it was a build up, but every example I have of korrasami scenes she said didn’t come across as anything beyond friendship. How can I explain the heteronormative lense to her? I tried to but I don’t want to sound preachy, just educational. Thankyou so so so much!!
So I’m going to tell you a story. It’s of when I was a teenager and something that I think of dearly as I recall it. I remember still learning about myself and the expectations of what a teenage girl had to do to fit in in society.
When I was sixteen, I ended up meeting this boy. It didn’t seem like we had much in common, but he was still nice to me. Eventually we started to hang out and we learned that we actually had much more in common than we first thought. He’d show me things he enjoyed and I would in return.
As we got closer, it was so easy to talk with him. He always was attentive and gave good advice. He was able to comfort me and hold conversations. And when I needed it, he was able to just listen. Sometimes it felt like everyone had expectations for me, and I just needed someone to be there and he was. I don’t think I’ve ever been able to talk to someone as easily as I could with him. He even taught me knew things, helping me learn about myself and gain new interests and hobbies.
On top of all of this, he was able to make me laugh. Even when I was having the hardest times, he could always make me smile. We shared a common sense of humor, often missed by others. I remember the inside jokes we created and the way our interactions had this playfulness about them.
Whenever we did anything together, it was as if we were on the same wave-length. It was as if he could read my mind, knowing when and what to do before I even knew it. He was able to read my emotions and thoughts better than anyone else. Always knowing when to bail me out of uncomfortable situations when I needed it. He understood me and never pressured me to be someone I wasn’t.
I’m not sure when, but I started to admire him. I started to admire his strength, his intelligence, his kindness, his looks. I had always known that he was attractive in many ways, but it started to be something I thought about more and more.
He was always there to offer his help and even when I declined it, he was still there to support me in the smallest of ways. He stayed in contact with me, even when I was distant and was struggling with my own problems. When I pushed him away, he stayed. When I was down, he was there to pick me up. He’d object to all of my self-deprecating talk and remind me of why I was special, that I belonged, and that I was needed.
When I allowed myself to accept that he was more than just a friend, everything clicked into place. I can remember the way I blushed whenever he complimented me. How I would try and dress well or make sure that my hair looked good, just to impress him. I remember smiling wider whenever I was able to make him laugh. I remember my heart skipping a beat every time his vibrant eyes met mine. I remember how my stomach fluttered with the slightest touch of his. It didn’t matter if it was his hand on my shoulder, his hand holding mine, his arms wrapping me in an embrace. He made me feel things that I had never felt before about another person.
Everything about him was special and honestly I never thought I’d be saying that. I remember thinking that there was no way in hell we’d be friends or become anything more. We were opposites, at least that’s what I thought. We came from different places. Were meant to achieve different things in life. But we did become friends. He was there for me when I needed it. He was the one to calm me down, to assure me of my actions. He trusted me and I trusted him. And over time, he became more than my friend. He became my best friend. Then became my crush. Then became the one that I loved.
Even now we’re still together. We’re still learning about ourselves and how we fit into society. But every moment is worth it with him.
Now, this wasn’t my story. And this wasn’t a girl and a boy’s story. This was Korra and Asami’s story. It obviously leaves out a lot (which shows that there is a ton of hinting and supporting evidence shown in TLOK for Korrasami), but it’s the basics of their progression.
The majority of people reading this will say that they were be able to see the romantic evolution in the story I’ve written. A story of strangers to friends to lovers. A very natural and common progression in real life, movies, television, and books. But if we change all of the ‘he’ to ‘she,’ the ‘him’ to ‘her’, the ‘his’ to ‘hers,’ and they don’t see the romantic evolution, then that’s what makes the difference. The people who can’t see it when we replace the pronouns are seeing the world through a heteronormative lens.
I know this is definitely a different way of explaining this, but I hope this can show what the heteronormative lens is to your sister. I also hope this can make her look at the series differently and see that the moments in the series were scenes of friendship, but also much more than just that.
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Anonymous asked:
Anonymous Confession: I've been identifying as a lesbian for half a decade, but now I'm dating a man. I feel bad because I really like him, but I'm still predominantly attracted to women. I can't call myself lesbian anymore, but I don't feel comfortable claiming the bisexual label :-/
Eh, labels are just labels. Don’t feel bad for liking who you like. There’s always other umbrella terms of just identifying as gay or queer, if you do want to label.
I think there’s also a lot of misconceptions and stigma around bisexual as a label too. Just because someone identifies as bi, it doesn’t mean that they like men 50% and women 50%. It can be on any spectrum and can shift over time. I identify as bi, leaning towards women 75% or so and men 25%. And that’s definitely not what I would have said for percents when I was younger.
Anonymous asked:
Confession: I once told my sister I think girls can be so beautiful, and she asked me if I was bi and said if i was, she would feel uncomfortable around me and wouldn't want to change in front of me, go to the bathroom, etc. We're rlly close and I am still hurt over it because we're family... like why would you think i would sexualize you... Now i'm super careful just in case but i hate it b/c I used to be so carefree close w/ her. I haven't even admitted to being bi and i feel like a predator
I’m going to be really blunt with you. You’re sister is in the wrong. Her views on sexuality are wrong. It’s like every straight man who’s like, “I have nothing against gay men as long as they don’t flirt with me.” Just because you have an attraction to the same sex does not fucking mean a person finds every single person of that gender attractive. And especially not family. She should be the one feeling ashamed, not you.
I’m so sorry that she has done this to you. You are in no way a predator. You’re just you and nothing is wrong with you. It’s okay to be bi, and this is coming from someone else who identifies as bi too. It’s okay.
Anonymous asked:
I hope this isn’t too personal, but I’m like 95% sir that I’m a lesbian, so my question is how did you figure yourself out? How did you get to your 100%?
It’s different for everyone. I identify as bisexual. When I was 13-18 I would say that I leaned more towards being attracted to males. I got to college and that totally flipped. I came to the conclusion that I’m sexually attracted to men. This means that I hook up with them, but I can’t see myself dating one again. I’m sexually and romantically attracted to women.
It’s hard for me to say I’m 100% sure about anything, because honestly my identity doesn’t allow for 100%. Tomorrow it could change… That’s one reason why I like to use the identity of queer and not always bisexual.
Here are some signs that I wasn’t straight though;
1. I wasn’t boy crazy in middle school/high school. When friends gossiped and raved about boys, I didn’t care. I just wasn’t interested. But I also wasn’t that interested in girls either, so I was a confused baby queer.2. My attention was on the female leads in movies, even when I was young.3. I wasn’t sure if I was checking a girl out because of her clothes or because I found her physically attractive.4. I broke up with my boyfriend in college because I wanted to really delve into my own sexuality. I even told him this and he was super understanding about it.5. I liked it when I kissed a woman… And I liked it even more when we went further.6. I liked being sexually active with men too, so it helped solidify that I wasn’t a lesbian either.7. I talked with my friends a lot about this. And just receiving their advice and being able to let people know what was going on in my head helped.
Maybe someone who identifies as lesbian would be better suited to answer this. My sexuality has been pretty fluid in the past and I’m pretty sure it will be in the future too. So there really is no 100% for me.
Asian LGBTQ+ are amazing and deserve everything good in the world.
So I did a high ropes course today and this legit came out of one of my professor’s, “THIS IS NOT A PLACE FOR A CHUBBY LESBIAN!” when she was atop one of the courses.