Saying Cat should just "get over herself, love Jon and be a mother to him" is denying her the only thing that was hers in the situation and that was in her control (as much as feelings are in your own control).
She didn't create the situation, she wasn't giving a say on whether Jon lives in her home or not, she didn't even get to ask questions about him/his mother etc.
The only thing that was her own, were her feelings, her thoughts and actions. And saying she needs to complete adjust them, to better a situation she was not responsible for and for the comfort of men (especially Ned), when she had no control over anything else, feels wrong. It's also putting the responsibility of fixing the situation on Cat instead of Ned.
@sunwarmedsea way to prove OP's point. You are calling her cruel precisely for not mothering Jon. None of you detractors can ever point to the daily abuse she supposedly inflicted on Jon but the one special time she was out of her mind when Bran was nearly dying.
Women don't owe mothering to men and boys who aren't their own sons. That's misogynistic. It's funny how nobody begrudges Lyanna of this exact same attitude but Cat warily staying away from Jon is "cruel".
@sunwarmedsea: cat didn’t have to mother him but just show him basic human decency
you, an illiterate: SO YOU’RE SAYING SHE SHOULD MOTHER HIM??!??!
also wtf does lyanna got to do with any of this? because she didn’t want to marry that abusive drunken womanizer? how is that comparable to a grown woman treating an innocent child like dirt on her shoe? absolute fucking morons the lot of you.
Speaking of 0 reading comprehension... you guys ever gonna get any? If you quit stalking the Cat tags you can probably squeeze in some time to learn.
Cat! Didn't! Abuse! Him! He had food, education, love, friends. All she did was avoid him. What didn't she do? Love him. You people are literally saying she abused him for not loving him. That is the issue. Use an ounce of common sense, please. And if that's too hard, at least blame Ned along with her since this is his doing.
Jon is fictional, I promise he cannot pick you, so... Cat antis heal from internalized misogyny challenge. Women don't owe men affection- even nice ones like Jon- and they sure aren't to blame for men's choices. It's 2022, accept it.
you’re just pure 100% white feminist trash.
firstly, a person can suffer emotional abuse even when being given food, clothing, shelter and friends. especially one as vulnerable as a child. sansa was fed in kl, she was clothed, sheltered. you gonna argue she wasn’t abused by the lannisters coz they fed her? you are literally engaging in abuse apologetics.
(it’s also incredibly ironic you mention food considering ‘as a boy, he often felt as if the lady grudged him every bite.’)
secondly, we aren’t saying she has to mother him, when will you get that into your thick empty skull. we are saying she made him feel unwelcome in his own home. she constantly reminded him he was not part of the family. she wanted him shipped off to the end of the world away from his siblings and father because she was insecure. instead of taking her pain out on her husband, she took it out on a child. criticising that isn’t misogynistic.
and catelyn is as fictional as jon, so she won’t be picking you for defending her.
also this was posted in the jon snow tag. stop dumping your trash in his tag and maybe we won’t jump your asses.
As someone who has a stepmother AND a stepdad, I can assure you that you dont need to treat children like garbage. You can always make them feel welcome, or try the best to be nice, and this do not mean you are fathering or mothering anyone. This is just some basic human decency. In my experiece, neither of them(stepmom and stepdad) are not even close of my actual parents and neither of them try to be.
"Cat antis heal from internalized misogyny challenge. Women don't owe men affection- even nice ones like Jon- and they sure aren't to blame for men's choices. It's 2022, accept it."
THIS IS NOT ABOUT OWNING A MAN AFFECTION, THIS' ABOUT GIVING A CHILD, - FOR GOD'S SAKE, - A RIGHT AND GOOD UPBRINGING.
What Catelyn have done is straigh up emotional abuse towards an innocent child that had nothing to do with what happend between their "parents". And yes. Emotional abuse DOES exist. It is not because he had food, clothes, and a home it means is ok. That is the fucking basic. I wont congratulate someone for doing the bare minimun.
I wish you guys never have to deal with a child that is not your own, for the sake of this child's healthy upbring if you believe that is okay treating a child the way Catelyn treated Jon. Because it isnt and never, EVER is going to be.