Adventures In Adulting

Not inviting your disabled friends or family to do things because it “slows you down” it makes the trip “harder than it should be” is completely ableist and extremely isolating for the disabled individual.

Whether it’s a trip to the grocery store or a family vacation excluding your disabled family member or friend solely on the fact they’ll make your trip “harder” is horrible. Sure, a trip may take a little longer or you’ll do different things that you usually do but that’s for you to adjust to and not for you to exclude someone because of. Something taking longer isn’t always a bad thing. The whole “time is money” rhetoric stems deeply rooted in capitalism which again hates disabled people.

Disabled people get left behind and isolated from day to day things because friends and families don’t want to take time out of their days to move at a different pace or don’t want to accommodate. Simply inviting them and letting them have the option opens the door for disabled people allowing them to be less isolated.

Of course, disabled people won’t always say yes and won’t always want to go out for various reasons. It may be they simply don’t want to or they’re in pain or because of the constant ableism abled people partake in in regards to disability. There’s also a fine line between you being inclusive and you being infantilizing. Keep in mind your disabled loved ones and make your life more accessible for them and for others.

Why are Ross and Rachel so iconic when Chandler and Monica’s relationship is 50,000 times more romantic, cuter and HEALTHIER than Ross and Rachel’s?

Grand Duchesses Olga and Tatiana Nikolaevna of Russia in their mother’s Mauve Room at the Alexander Palace. 1898. Credit: Tatiana Z/Flickr.

delicate is for the gays

severus outed remus lupin as a werewolf, lost him his job and made it so he could basically never get work again and i’m supposed to forgive him for that bc he wanted to fuck lily potter lol alright

HELLO, WHERE IS TATIANA MASLANY @ HOLLYWOOD ARE YOU REALLY DUMB ENOUGH TO SLEEP ON THAT AMOUNT OF TALENT???

Threw a party to celebrate with the people who made the ME! & YNTCD videos with me- and we had so much fun that ‘Drunk Taylor’ is trending on Twitter. CHEERS. 😆🍾👍👏

IN CONCLUSION :

1. TAYLOR SWIFT WRITES ALL OF HER SONGS

2. EQUALITY

3. WELCOME TO NEW YORK ACOUSTIC IS A REAL THING AND IT’S BEAUTIFUL

For years I asked, pleaded for a chance to own my work. Instead I was given an opportunity to sign back up to Big Machine Records and ‘earn’ one album back at a time, one for every new one I turned in. I walked away because I knew once I signed that contract, Scott Borchetta would sell the label, thereby selling me and my future. I had to make the excruciating choice to leave behind my past. Music I wrote on my bedroom floor and videos I dreamed up and paid for from the money I earned playing in bars, then clubs, then arenas, then stadiums. 

Some fun facts about today’s news: I learned about Scooter Braun’s purchase of my masters as it was announced to the world. All I could think about was the incessant, manipulative bullying I’ve received at his hands for years. 

Like when Kim Kardashian orchestrated an illegally recorded snippet of a phone call to be leaked and then Scooter got his two clients together to bully me online about it. (See photo) Or when his client, Kanye West, organized a revenge porn music video which strips my body naked. Now Scooter has stripped me of my life’s work, that I wasn’t given an opportunity to buy. Essentially, my musical legacy is about to lie in the hands of someone who tried to dismantle it.

This is my worst case scenario. This is what happens when you sign a deal at fifteen to someone for whom the term ‘loyalty’ is clearly just a contractual concept. And when that man says ‘Music has value’, he means its value is beholden to men who had no part in creating it. 

When I left my masters in Scott’s hands, I made peace with the fact that eventually he would sell them. Never in my worst nightmares did I imagine the buyer would be Scooter. Any time Scott Borchetta has heard the words ‘Scooter Braun’ escape my lips, it was when I was either crying or trying not to. He knew what he was doing; they both did. Controlling a woman who didn’t want to be associated with them. In perpetuity. That means forever. 

Thankfully, I am now signed to a label that believes I should own anything I create. Thankfully, I left my past in Scott’s hands and not my future. And hopefully, young artists or kids with musical dreams will read this and learn about how to better protect themselves in a negotiation. You deserve to own the art you make.

I will always be proud of my past work. But for a healthier option, Lover will be out August 23. 

Sad and grossed out,

Taylor

♡ Happy 90th birthday, Marilyn ♡

By: REMI | remi.nyc