Hi I'm a bisexual woman with an asexual girlfriend and I need some ace advise. At the beginning of our relationship we did some sex things but soon stopped bc she was disinterested. I recently was asking her if I had ever pushed her into something she didn't want. She said that she had wanted to want sex, and that's why she had went along with it, and that she really hated her sexuality for not wanting it. This is heart breaking for me, bc I want her to be proud of who she is. How do I help her?
Hi! First of all you sound like an amazing girlfriend so kudos to you for reaching out. Sadly this is one of those things she has to figure out on her own, and all you can do is support her. Remind her that she is not broken! It's honestly one of the most difficult things to come to terms with as an ace. But if the significant other in her life can reassure her that it's okay not to want sex, that she is valid and loved, it can truly help a great deal.
Also! I'm sure you are well meaning, but remember it's okay not to be proud of yourself! It's okay to be angry or upset that you are a certain way! Sometimes that is part of the healing process that leads to being alright with yourself. Sometimes you can never get far enough to be proud. That's alright.