Tbh I don’t even know where this idea that nblw/nblm relationships have to resemble gay ones CAME from. Like these terms were made specifically to evade those pressures.
They’re queer because they’re diamoric, not because they’re modeled after gay relationships.
And like nblm and nblw relationships that ARE gay in a same-gender way, where the participants DO think of them that way, are awesome! But it’s just disheartening to me that so many of the posts I see on this subject are combatting a notion that shouldn’t have existed in the first place.
Nblm as a term, as a concept, was just as much ***created FOR**** non-binary women, femmes, etc who love men as they were for unaligned folk, multi-gender folk, and mascs, NB men etc. These exist specifically to liberate NB people from being held to “same-gender, opposite gender” relationship standards.
The *reassurance* that femme and non-masc etc folk can be nblm/toric rings so absurd to me because it was literally created with them in mind.